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writes:Just wondering here... If I were to really screw up our second date so she no longer talks to me (not sure what I did exactly, but I know I did something wrong) do you think there is anything I could say to get a fresh start?Our last date was 3 weeks ago, and the week before that we were talking on the phone for up to 4 hours a day. She really seemed to like me, and likewise, but after that date she had ignored me 100%, I called for two days after that date, she paid no attention to me, and I think she was hanging out with her ex-bf the day after our last date.We were supposed to go on a camping trip together but she never called me, so I assume she doesn't like me.I was really tired on our second date and I accidently called her the wrong name (smooth er what?), I'm not sure if it was that or not, she didn't seem put off by it, but I'm assuming that may have been it.Do you think she'd give me a second shot if I just flat out told her I was an idiot and wanted a second shot?I like her alot and have been thinking about her all the time, so I really want to keep in touch with this girl at the very least.ANY advice would really be nice, thanks.
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reader, brooke5426  +, writes (11 September 2007):
 i dont think it would be about the name thing, but it sounds to me like she's probably gotten back with her ex. i mean if she liked you, then he came back on the scene and suddenly she's gone cold that just seems like the logical explanation.
i would just try to forget her and move on but dont take it personally, if she still has feelings for him and is still in love with him or something then nobody would compare to him in her eyes so dont feel rejected and dont beat yourself up wondering what you did wrong because its not personal you havent done anything wrong, you're just not him. xx
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (10 September 2007):
 Could be one of two things: One she got back with her ex and is no longer on the market anymore. Though it would be nice if she'd simply tell you this. Or two, she came to the conclusion that she wasn't interested in you after the second date and doesn't have the nerve to tell you. I suggest you move on and forget about her.
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reader, samohir  +, writes (10 September 2007):
 Well, seems you screw up! But it isnt exclusively about calling her a wrong name, that i can presume was a season to other things! You havent detaled ur date, and i have no clua what was going actualy. But ignoring can mean 2 things:1.She is simply not prepared to speak to u (which i dont think is case, since that was ur 2nd date) and didnt like something, Or Rather GUY doesnt fit in what she is looking for.
I would not take seriously that not coming to camping, maybe she got other obligations... And what is not clear here, is she Over with her ex or not? That could be problem also. If she is not , than maybe she would like time to think, but IGNORing completely sb's calls , dont want to dissapoint you but simply You re not a guy she is looking for.
If you really like her, than YES ask for another shot.so it would not bother you in future. Try to give ur best if she accepts,treat her like a real woman and see what will happen.If she doesnt accept, well its beyond ur changing it.But,try.. maybe she would change her mind(if she already made a decision) and give u another chance.I dont think any girl make such strict decision after second date.
Hope was helful,
Good Luck
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reader, flower girl +, writes (10 September 2007):
 Oh dear, if you really like her then give it a shot, send her some flowers with a note attached to it explaining yourself and tell her you are sorry and if she is willing to give you a second chance to call you, if you here nothing then i'm affraid you will just have to move on.
Take care.xx.
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reader, Tommy7  +, writes (10 September 2007):
Hey man. After 2 dates you can't expect to understand her. It's O.K. to pursue her, but don't make big plans in your mind. Daydreams rarely come true. I've won the lotto serveral times in my mind. Shaping the real world is possible but much harder.
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