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writes:Please I need y'all advice. So my bf and have both live here in the U.K. I came here when I was a teenager and he's only been here for 3yrs now. His mum said I'm a good girl so she set us up. He was not my type so I didn't agree. He pursued me for 2yrs I just wasn't interested in him but I decided to give him a chance. (Looks, style' just not attracted to him) but I decided to give him a chance anyway, Everything was going great, then the argument started for now reason. Him not being affectionate anymore. Whenever we'd argue he'd say we should end it, I'd agree and he'd apologise and we'd get back to normal. We went away a month ago and my ex called to check up on me (we were really good friends before our relationship) I explained to my guy nothing is going on but he went crazy told me I'm a lying cheating, he doesn't trust and even told my mum. Yesterday at his house his phone kept ringing and I got curious so I went through his whatsapp and there are so many girls from Africa he's still in contact with. This particular girl they have been sexting. The content is so explicit. I trusted this guy so much cause I thought we were in love. He's the quiet type and have introduced me to his family and is so bend on us getting married soon. This is such a shock for me I never thought he'd do that for a year now I feel like everything we have or has been said to me has been a lie. He had guts to look at me and lie to my face and say it was not him like I'm a stupid person. I saw him on. Saturday and he put a pic of us as his screen saver and saw him on Sunday and he had changed it already. Please I need advice on to stay strong? I feel like our relationship was fake all along, he never loved me or respected me. He's saying my ex calls me too. But he does once in a blue moon and we would never sexting or do anything so disrespectful. He says the girl has been a big part in his life and she keeps texting. He's lying!! I'm so ??????. Please what should I do? I was shaking when I saw those texts. It really hurts cause I've rejected so many guys for him and this is how he treats me. I'm so much prettier than those girls. I'm so sad??
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reader, Eagle'sfan1986  +, writes (16 November 2016):
I know how you feel hun. Back in 2012 after I got home from TN after I met my ex bf at the square. He cheated on me with his ex gf so he decided to take her back. I am glad I don't talk to him at all for years. I will tell him if you keep on doing what you do with other women then it is over. You need to find a new guy one who would never cheat on you at all or set with different women also. I am so sure your ex bf is a very good friend. Your bf doesn't need to be insecure at all
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reader, Soup1129 +, writes (3 November 2016):
I feel your pain. I would be so upset too! You have every right to feel that way. There's no excuse for what he did but maybe he was being spiteful because of how you're in contact with your ex?? I wouldn't be okay with my SO keeping contact with their ex even if they were friends before, it would make me uncomfortable. But that's me. Did he apologize for what he did? And did he say why? Besides her being a big part of his life, whatever that means. Sexting is not okay by any means.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (3 November 2016):
 Sweetie does not matter if YOU think you are prettier, he still done it. He does not respect you or your relationship, because if he did then he would not have treated you like this. The only way I see is ending this relationship. Trust is gone and I don't think you will be happy with him now, so finish with him and take some time out for yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2016): Oh you know what to do. Just dump him.
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