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female
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26-29,
anonymous
writes:So im 18 years old ive been working in a restaurant for the last 2 years. Recently we got a new chef a married man with 3 kids , he's lovely and very easy to get on with ?however he is very flirtacious and tends to make a lot of sexual comments for eg saying he is lucky to work with such "hot" girls . I don't find him in any way attractive but im beginning to realise I love attention from older men even if I don't find them attractive at all and I will never ever go near someone more then 4 years older then me . But im confused why I love the attention so much if Id never go near them
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (3 November 2016):
 Everybody likes to receive attention. So in your case the older man giving you attention gives you a thrill but nothing more. No harm in that. If he over steps the boundaries then tell him straight it is not acceptable. But as you said yourself you enjoy the banter and nothing more. If it goes to far on his side report it to management.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (1 November 2016):
 I agree with WiseOwlE
While I get that it's flattering, it's also VERY inappropriate behavior in the workplace. I think you need to nip it in the bud. He obviously can't behave like the ADULT here, so you do it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2016): Take it with a pinch of salt. I am sure he says that to all the waitresses he works with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2016): Sweetie, everyone likes validation and to feel attractive. It's natural. The flirtations of older men are usually more direct and they tend to make a younger person feel special to appeal to someone much older.
His behavior is inappropriate. Even if you're flattered, show that you don't appreciate the disrespect and you're not that kind of girl. Walk away abruptly or give him a frown.
The workplace atmosphere should be comfortable; and guys shouldn't be making blatant comments about the female staff. The owner should take notice and insist on better behavior and conduct on the job. Never accept flirtation from married men, nor crude compliments from any man.
Show your contempt, or you're giving him permission to step out of line. Trust me; the more he gets away with, the worse he'll behave.
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