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writes:Hi I got a problem basically there has been some guy who been wanting to go out with me for a year now. He wont leave me alone the problem is I do like him but I am scared to let my heart go because I have trust issues. He knows about this and however much I push him away he dont leave. And Im worried on what to do should I go for it or should I leave it? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2011): ”If you have told him you have issues and to leave you alone and he's not doing that then this isn't someone who respects your feelings or listens to you...not a good boyfriend candidate!“
I agree with this- it depends on the circumstances but if he is being overly pushy this is not respectful. Don't mistake persistence as necessarily good.
It could be that he just doesn't want to take no for an answer and that he sees you as a challenge, especially since he knows about your trust issues.
You know him so you have to be the judge of this. If you have doubts I would find someone else.
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (18 January 2011):
 I think he's trying to show you that you can trust him not to leave if the going gets rough. Basically trying to prove his worth to you. If you like him, then give him a chance. The anon poster does make a good point though. If he doesn't respect your wishes, then he's not good BF material. Still, it all depends on how and why you're pushing him away.
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (18 January 2011):
 hi
are the trust issues with HIM as a person for some reason or is it just you? unless you have reason to mistrust him, i say go for it. he has been asking you for a year without giving up. i think that least entitles him to a chance :) and why not, if you like him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2011): If you have told him you have issues and to leave you alone and he's not doing that then this isn't someone who respects your feelings or listens to you...not a good boyfriend candidate!
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