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writes: My boyfriend doesn't trust me because of who i was 8 months ago. I used to unintentionally 'flirt' with guys. To me it wasn't flirting but it came off that way. I met my boyfriend and we started dating and i completely stopped all of that because he told me it botherd him. i don't even talk to any guys anymore. But he tells me i can't have my facebook back that i deleted for him to show he has nothing to worry about. i want it back because i feel so out of touch with my girl friends. him and i live together pretty much and are with eachother every second of everyday except when we're at work. i know i've proved to him he can trust me by now, i do everything for him. i pay for our dates most of the time, buy him things whenever he wants them, i don't talk to any guys anymore, which is hard when i'm at school because they talk to me and i completely ignore them, i make sure everything is perfect for him. i don't know how to get him to let me have a facebook, like it's just facebook. he has one now and talks to girls on it, but i can't have one because he doesn't want me to talk to guys. when i get upset about that, he calls me a ho because of who i used to be. i don't want to break up with him over a facebook, but it's just not fair. what can i do?
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (24 January 2011):
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stop being so soft, that's what you can do! do not let anyone tell you you can't have facebook, especially if he has it and talks to girls! you pay for him most of the time? you buy him things when he wants them? you don't talk to guys any more because he forbids it? this relationship is not 50/50 is it?? what advice would you give to someone in the same situation as you?
i have been with jealous blokes in the past and yes, at the beginning it feels nice that someone is so into you that they want to be with you all the time and they think you are irresistible to all other men - believe me - this gets old fast! you may think that the longer you are with him you will be able to convince him that you deserve to be trusted - don't be so sure of that! if some one is jealous for no reason that is an issue that they have DEEP within their self and all that is likely to happen is that they will forever find new things to forbid you from doing to 'prove' your self to them.
can i ask when you said you 'flirted' with other guys, in whose opinion was this 'flirting'?? i'm guessing it was your boyfriend that used this term, yes?
the softer you are the easier he will find it to walk all over you. get tough, start as you mean to go on! get back on facebook and if he has such an issue with it, let him leave you, (he will be doing you a favour)
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reader, lodge109 +, writes (23 January 2011):
I understand his fear. I am a guy hu is like that. I let my gf have facebook but I am terrified she will cheat on me etc. I have this serious problem, and infact, have just posted a question about it, funnily enough. He loves you to death, trust me. He wants to be with you for a long time, if not, forever. He will take as good a care for you as possible. I know for him and me to do this to girls, is terrible. However, some guys are like that. In my opinion, he will be the most honest guy ever to you and will love you like no other. You might think I am old, but I have just turned 18, I know what I am talking about.
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