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writes:there was this guy i went to school with that i had the biggest crush on. through facebook we have been back in touch and so far he seems to be the most humble guy and i like him. i had of course not seen him in years so he came by this past weekend and he is just as adorable as he was in school. i noticed on fb he never really smiled in any of his pictures and when he got to my house and opened his mouth i know why. he has the worst set of teeth i have ever seen. it's like the top teeth are spaced waaaaay apart to the point it looks like he only has a few teeth on the top. we sat and talked for hours, he would never look directly at me and he would put his hand up to his mouth a lot when he talked so he is very uncomfortable with his mouth. my cirle of "friends" say that i shouldn't keep seeing him because it would be embarrassing for me to go out with him and introduce him to people. which i kind of think is childish, i mean we are in our 40s. i feel like it would be shallow of me to stop seeing him, i liked him before he opened his mouth. what do you think? wouldn't it be shallow of me? and wouldn't he know why i all of a sudden decided not to date him. i guess i am asking too because i got up kind of conflicted yesterday and feeling guilty because i considered not see him again.
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (25 January 2011):
 shocked! you had a lucky escape! it was lucky for you he had the teeth, coz it stopped you wanting to get too involved!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe has a girlfriend so I am off the hook in more ways than one I guess. WOW
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (24 January 2011):
aw, poor bloke, and i thought all Americans had great teeth? maybe i watch too much t.v. what your saying DOES sound a bit shallow yes BUT look, we cannot fancy/be attracted to everyone we meet, even if they are a lovely person. lets be real.
if his teeth turn you off then that's just one of those things. the way of the world is that good looking people go with good looking people. fact (usually)
teeth especially can ruin the look of someone's face because the teeth are involved in someone's smile! even the plainest people can look beautiful when they smile, its a signal that other people respond well to, but if someone's teeth are awful, well, its a problem
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (24 January 2011):
 I'm not going to lie but a jacked up grill is a deal breaker for me too.
Really if you continue dating him, every time you talk to him you're going to be fixated on his mouth. Then you're going to be even more put off by him, thus being not as attracted to him as you were. It's a bit shallow, but then again that's your preference and his mouth is fixable. Although it costs $2,000 on up and dental insurance won't cover it, it comes out of pocket.
So unless he is saving up towards getting braces, then I would end this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2011): well obviously if he has not fixed his teeth he does not hav the income to fix them....u say he is adorable....teeth u can buy but a personality u cannot....think about it its him u had a crush on or his teeth? good luck....
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2011): well obviously if he has not fixed his teeth he does not hav the income to fix them....u say he is adorable....teeth u can buy but a personality u cannot....think about it its him u had a crush on or his teeth? good luck....
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (24 January 2011):
 Why hasn't he decided to do something about his teeth?
Perhaps because he doesn't have dental insurance and it might cost a lot - if its a question of cosmetic work -
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reader, dirtball +, writes (24 January 2011):
 It would be kind of shallow, and it's one of those topics that's a little hard to approach, especially early on. I wonder why, if he is as embarrassed about them as he seems, he hasn't done anything to fix them.
Ultimately, it's the whole person that matters. Superficial things shouldn't matter, but they do. You need to decide if the rest of the package is worth it.
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reader, Blonde68 +, writes (24 January 2011):
 "I liked him before he opened his mouth" - so surely you have already made your mind up haven't you??
None of us are perfect, some have big ears, other have big noses, some have horrible personalities too... but why is it some people tend not to notice the horrible personalities when those can be more embarrassing than someones features!
I had a 10 year relationship with someone with very similar teeth to what you are describing and it didn't make him less attractive to me and I would never have been embarrassed to go out with him anywhere.
If you choose to listen to your friends, which some people tend to do... then I think you ARE being shallow.
Give this guy a chance...but only if your heart is in it... dont mess him about. And remember, none of us are perfect!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni also want to add that i am not flawless by any means. my teeth could use a good cleaning and some work too among a few other things. lol
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