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writes:My boyfriend loves it when I ride him but after a month I still don't really know what to do. I have trouble keeping a rhythm up. He tells me to lead and he'll follow along, but I always end up losing it and having to pull myself out of the moment to think about what to do next. If he doesn't move I get tired faster and my knees hurt.He always seems to have a good time and I do too, but when I have to stop, readjust and concentrate on how I'm moving my hips vs. how he's moving his I tend to lose the mood. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2011): The best advice I can give is to go with what feels good. Don't worry so much about what to do next. Men are really not very hard to please. If you do what feels good to you, it will also feel good to him, and your pleasure will deepen his pleasure.
Also, the multiple position idea is a great one. I have a boyfriend who really likes the girl on top position too, so I've had to get creative trying other ones. Doggy style folded over the bed, standing, or on your knees is very fun, as well as having you sitting on stairs with him kneeling a couple steps down. Another variation of girl on top is with both partners sitting up. His arms will wrap around you and help you move. This position feels amazing, and the physical closeness as a whole new level to it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2011): I had this problem and it took me 4 months to learn how to come with my first boyfriend while riding.
Don't literally treat him like a horse, you may not get enough clitoral stimulation. Lean forward, almost as if you are laying down on him. You get more sensation inside and outside this way.
Try scissor legs: Instead of you riding him with two legs over the hips, try having one of his legs over your hip while you are on top. This allows for deeper penetration and more clitoral sensation and he can use his free leg to hold you close. One of my personal favorites. :)
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (23 January 2011):
 Tell him to hold your hips/thighs and move you, so that you can keep up with him instead of him to you. And yes, unless he moves as well you will get cramps in your legs, it's not an easy position to work perfectly without his help!
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (23 January 2011):
 hi
hard to explain the mechanics of this! watch some porn, it can help if he holds your hips and helps to move you up and down, if you are getting tired is this because you might be a bit overweight or unfit? it is a strenuous thing to do so you have to be fit for the job. vary the speed, vary the deepness, vary the way you move, reach round the back of you and feel his balls. just get as much practice as you can and you will improve, don't THINK about what you are doing too much or else, like you say, you can lose the rhythm, if you do lose the rhythm though, don't worry, just carry on
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (23 January 2011):
Hi there. Just do what you are doing until you get tired.
For goodness sake, just tell him the minute you get tired. There's no real way NOT to get tired legs.
You can sit, (with feet flat on the bed), but you have to use your thigh muscles to lift yourself, and put your hands behind you on the bed or in front of you on the bed to help you. This is very tiring.
Or you can kneel and raise yourself that way, and of course with your hands either in front of you or behind you on the bed to control your movements. You can mix it up (this kneeling version), by staying down kneeling on him and just rock back and forth - this isn't tiring, and does provide good stimulation of your clitoris.
Really, there is no way of being on top of a man without your legs getting very tired indeed, especially when lifting yourself up and down.
As soon as you get tired, tell him to have a turn. He's just being lazy. It has to be 50/50 - not just you doing all the work.
You just have to be honest with him, there's no other way.
He could get on top for a while. Or perhaps, have a doggie - that's not tiring at all. It also allows for very deep penetration.
In any case the woman on top all the time, can get very monotonous for you. Variety is the spice of life.
You could even lie on your sides facing each other, and have sex that way. It's also very relaxing as well, and won't tire either of you. To do this, you will have to wrap your top leg around his hip, which will be much easier for it to happen. In fact, you can't have sex this way, without you wrapping your top leg around his hip - it would be too awkward. So your front sides will be touching each other all the way down from your chests to your genitals. This can also be very enjoyable as your clitoris will get good stimulation in this position.
Hope this helps you. Best wishes.
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