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*unechi89
writes:ok so Tuesday night my girlfriend was supposed to come over after i got off work, she also told me she was coming. when i got off she told me she was too tired, i got madd cuz i really wanted to see her and i cussed her out. the next day i appologized. she really hasnt been talkin to me, she usually texxts me everyday. she didnt talk to me all day Thursday. This hole week if i didnt contact her she wouldnt at all. so friday i asked her if she's like not talkin to me anymore an asked her if i should just move on cuz she's not makin an effort to talk to me. she said "no, dont talk crazy." im like why havent you been talkin to me she said she's just been weird and she's sad an when she's said she pulls away and she said she will fix it. so its sunday and i last heard from her on friday. im so lost, like i wanna text/call her but i just feel like givin up cuz she is not trying to communicate with me. is it over or what ? ):
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2011): You cussed her out for her being too tired to go and see you. Maybe she was already in a sad state of mind and that caused the exhaustion and then you made it worse by cussing her out instead of listening to what happened. And it doesn't take just a day or two to get over a bad fight with a significant other. Especially one that includes cussing. Maybe, since she's sad, she just needs time alone. People need that sometimes. She obviously still wants to be with you (she did say 'don't talk crazy' when you asked her if you should move on), so don't move on if you still want to be with her. However, you do sound like you could treat her a lot better than you do. Try to be more sympathetic/empathetic, and try not to cuss her out over small things again. Good luck.
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (24 January 2011):
 hi
have you been with her long or are you still getting to know each other? she may just not want to see you or text you as often as you do with her, like she still wants to take things a bit slower than you do, or she may be truthful in saying that she is in a sad mood so she just wants to be by herself, maybe something is on her mind that is nothing related to you or the relationship, maybe she has PMS (premenstrual syndrome) at the moment, some women suffer a drastic change to their personality in the days coming up to her menstrual period. maybe she is upset at being cussed at just because she did not feel like seeing you on that Tuesday.
you can either wait to hear from her or give her a call, without putting on any pressure to see her but just see can you have a chat to her and see how she feels now
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2011): You might find shes either still hurt by what you said to her when she didnt visit. Or she was so upset that shes busy moving on already and just keeping you on the back burner for a while. Ask to meet up and talk to her properly, face to face. Say you are sorry like you really mean it and ask her out for dinner or something. If you really want her, make an effort dude! Calling and texting her isnt the same.
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reader, lodge109 +, writes (23 January 2011):
in my opinion. leave it. I think she will come back to you but just needs some time away from u to think things through. Just dont worry. :)
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