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Archived questions from: January, 2017 (see latest questions)

Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

My husband can't see the problems with his ex wife ...

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 2873 days ago

31 January 2017 (F)

age 30-35 - My husband and his ex have not spoken in years because of all the trouble she caused at the beginning of our relationship. She called begging him to come sleep with her, she kept asking to come over claiming she needed closure (she was the one who ended their relationship by ... (393 words)

Will I ever move on, get over everything and meet someone?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2881 days ago

31 January 2017 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello everyone, I hope you're all well. So basically I feel and think that I will seriously never meet anyone who I feel a close connection and chemistry with. A few years ago was the worst time of my life. I had no confidence and was very unstable basically. I was seeing... (660 words)

Is it possible to tell him everything and stay friends?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2879 days ago

31 January 2017 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi. I'm hurting and would appreciate a third person's opinion. I've had feelings for a friend for last 2.5 years. They kept getting intense with time but he lives in a different city so I never acted upon my feelings. We used to flirt back and forth and hooked up a couple o... (505 words)

He says he chose to watch porn when he was missing me. Were his actions out of line? how have others handled a similar situation?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2879 days ago

31 January 2017 (F)

age 36-40 - Should I be upset by this or not?. My boyfriend and I had an argument last week. He assumed that was seeing someone else, which I wasn't. We made up yesterday, but something bothered me. He said that on the night we argued, he went on to a porn website and played a little ... (147 words)

I don’t want to lose either of them. Please advise what I should do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2881 days ago

31 January 2017 (F)

age 30-35 - I have been in a very serious and committed relationship for 5 years. I wasn't sure of our relationship but i realized that I really love my guy. we have had our share of fights but we are still strong and we have our fair share of restrictions on each other as well. Mainly r... (1584 words)

Dad told me if I dated this guy he would kick me out

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2880 days ago

31 January 2017 (F)

age 26-29 - I am 19 years old. Im a college student. There's a guy I like who is 24, I get along with great because we share the same interests. He likes me back. Though I can't date him for two reasons: 1 were related by marriage (no blood) 2 my dad said if I tried to date him he'd... (94 words)

Should I pay attention to his behavioral patterns

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2855 days ago

31 January 2017 (F)

age 41-50 - When I was in undergrad 7 years ago I was partnered with one of my classmates (Tom) to do a class project. at the time I was in an unhealthy relationship and every time I went tto class I got attention from Tom. Both me and tom were attracted to each other but we were in a ... (311 words)

Is he flirting or is it just banter?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2878 days ago

31 January 2017 (M)

age 30-35 - Okay so there was a point I really fancied this guy but then he gave the impression he was straight He recently snap shot two pics I took and drew a penis on them to make it look like I was sucking dick.... then text" bravo you don't like (the emoji in the pic) but enjoy d... (111 words)

Do I have a realistic chance with her?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2881 days ago

30 January 2017 (M)

age 30-35 - So, here's the situation: there's a girl I've known about 8 eights that I've just received starting seeing as more than a friend. I met her at church about 8 years ago and we weren't especially close then. She went off to school and I saw her very rarely after that. About 5 ... (476 words)

I feel guilty and pathetic because I know there are people worse off than me!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2880 days ago

30 January 2017 (F)

age 30-35 - Sorry if this sounds whiny, but I think I need some advice from some non judgemental people. Basically, to say my life hasn't turned out how I imagined it is an understatement. I've done nothing with it literally. I don't know why, but when I was young and naive I for some ... (394 words)

My manager wants me to cancel my nonrefundable vacation for work!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2880 days ago

30 January 2017 (F)

age 30-35 - Long story short, I back up one of my colleagues whenever she goes on vacation. We're in different departments. I'm happy to do so and she always only takes one day off at a time anyway. Anything that requires her expertise that I cannot handle right away, I'll flag it for her ... (289 words)

I'm losing my best friend and don't know what to do.

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2878 days ago

30 January 2017 (M) age 36-40 - I'm friends with a female who ive known for six months, I knew her from work as we worked together and seem to get on, she was one of those temporary people. anyway she told me she was off to nicaragua on a water project to promote clean water and she would be away for six mont... (192 words)

Ladies what would you suggest? She's caught my eye. But I'm not sure what my next move should be.

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2878 days ago

30 January 2017 (M)

age 41-50 - This will seem funny for a 34 year old man to be seeking advice on. Basically, I go to the same shop a few times a week. There is a lady works there who has really caught my eye, whenever she is there when I go in, I get butterflies and feel all nervous and I’ve sta... (153 words)

I like masturbating in places where I might get caught

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2882 days ago

30 January 2017 (M)

age 41-50 - I have a problem and I know it's wrong but I can't stop doing it...please help. I masturbate a lot, which I guess is not that bad, but I like doing it in situations when I might get caught. Or I intentionally don't clean up probably as it gives me a rush. But I know it's wron... (80 words)

Should I dump uni' for a small screen role?

This question has 24 answers - newest was posted 2879 days ago

30 January 2017 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi everybody, I have a difficult decision to make. I am a student at uni studying accountancy. About half a year ago I suffered a nervous breakdown and was allowed to take break from my studies. I was experiencing a deep depression and took this opportunity to stay with some ... (498 words)

I don't understand the attitude of my hook-up

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2855 days ago

30 January 2017 (F)

age 26-29 - My hook up and I kept trying to make plans to, well you know, hook up, but he kept cancelling on me because something came up that he had to take care of. Anyway he apologized for being confusing lately (which idk what that really meant) but I just went along with it and ... (212 words)

Gave up my family and now he treats me badly

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2880 days ago

30 January 2017 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello all. I'm married for 20 months now. It was a love marriage, a run-away marriage actually. My husband was the nicest man ever. So polite so caring so adorable. After I ran away from my home and few months passed he changed. He has become rude, verbal abuse is jus... (150 words)

How can I end this selfishness in my marriage?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2878 days ago

30 January 2017 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi guys. Im just looking for a bit of advice. Im 24 years old and I married my husband last year. Lately he has been very selfish and entitalled. Every morning he is rude and angry. He always complains about having to go to work. I am so sick and tired of hearing excuses about ... (423 words)

Why do men say they need porn?

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 2878 days ago

30 January 2017 (F)

age 36-40 - Why do people so often say men need porn when it's clearly a want not a need. No man has ever died of lack of porn and although men may prefer porn to masturbate with porn , men for thousands of years masturbated without the hardcore porn available at the click of a finger ... (91 words)

Is lack of length a problem?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2882 days ago

29 January 2017 (M)

age 36-40 - Friends, Need a suggestion from you friends, I am from India aged 28 and getting married to a girl in next 6 months I am worried about my length of my penis, When erect its 5.5 inch. When flaccid its about 3 to 3.5 inch varying. When I do some exercise or Walk my penis b... (105 words)

Why would my co-worker buy me coffee and a muffin?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 2880 days ago

29 January 2017 (F)

age 30-35 - Today one of my coworkers that I'm friendly with surprised me with coffee and muffin from a fast food place. I normally get to work an hour early because parking spaces are scarce--first come first serve. When I arrived, he came to my window and say hey,I got some yyou goodie... (197 words)

He gets my hopes up talking about having kids and then changes his mind!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2880 days ago

29 January 2017 (F)

age 41-50 - hello all of you, I'm Lauren, I would like you all to know my name. I need some advice. I have just come out of a 16 year relationship, my now ex was a lot older than me and had his fill of life experience, married, 4 kids, divorced and then re wed with one kid. so we made ... (294 words)

What should I do? Is this normal behaviour or is there more to this than she's letting on?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2858 days ago

29 January 2017 (F)

age 22-25 - So, I have loved my best friend of over 5 years basically since I met her. We just had one of those instant connections and became best friends the second we sat next to each other in class. Both of us went back and forth about liking each other but not wanting to ruin our ... (727 words)

I want a prettier girlfriend who cares about being fit and healthy. What do I need to do?

This question has 23 answers - newest was posted 2879 days ago

29 January 2017 (M)

age 36-40 - I want a prettier girlfriend. I've been with mine for a few years now and it seems wrong to leave. I love her but the lack of effort (exercise counts) is making me less attracted to her. Bringing it up makes me the bad guy. What should I do?... (53 words)

I'm 39 weeks pregnant and my husband is causing me anxiety as he prefers drinking and socialising with his friends. I feel unsupported. How should I handle this?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2879 days ago

29 January 2017 (F)

age 36-40 - I'm 39 weeks pregnant and married for less than a year so we are pretty new. We are currently waiting for the D day and I'm extremely anxious as this is our first child. The problem is that he just isn't there for me. He prefers hanging out with friends drinking and smoking.... (145 words)

When a person leaves their job is it OK to still maintain contact, call, and catch up with them for a drink if they are in a relationship?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2880 days ago

29 January 2017 (F)

age 41-50 - When someone you work with leaves is it ok to contact him by text or phone even though they have a girl fiend just to see how they are and to maintain contact. What about going for a drink to catch up. Would it make me look like a bad person? ... (51 words)

I still have feelings for him. He still feels the attraction too. But now he's living with another girl. How can we go forward with this?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2883 days ago

29 January 2017 (F)

age 30-35 - Long story but need advice. In 2013, I dated a guy for a few months. I really, really liked him but he was very keen to make the relationship official (telling everyone), which at the time I wasn't ready for, mostly because I was really poor at the time with a health conditi... (236 words)

How do I proceed with this situation? How do I process feeling unwanted if it doesn't work out?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2881 days ago

29 January 2017 (F)

age 30-35 - There is somebody that I like who I am kind of friends with . We get on really well, have lots in common and laugh and joke a lot, as well as chatting when we go to the pub in a group etc. I've been on two holidays with him in a group. I wouldn't necessarily say we are comf... (278 words)

After 9 years together and 3 children our sex life remains bland. I love her. How can I find ways to interest her in oral sex?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2879 days ago

29 January 2017 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi, I'm 26 years old. I have a fiancé I've been with for 9 years who is also 26 years old. We have 3 beautiful kids together. My question today is, why won't my fiancé suck me off? I have literally tried everything but I cannot convince her to do it. She never even touch... (489 words)

I want to move and live with my partner in Colombia but afraid of losing my job

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2883 days ago

29 January 2017 (M)

age 41-50 - Hey There, Perhaps this is not the right platform to ask such a question, but I am going to try I am a gay person who is planning to move to Colombia in order to live with my Colombian partner. We thought that we could get married once i arrive , so I will be eligible t... (293 words)

My mother in law walked in on me naked. I put some clothing on. But should I try not to be concerened? My M-in-Law wasn't bothered at all.

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 1369 days ago

29 January 2017 (M)

age 41-50 - My wife and I are currently on vacation and staying at my mother in laws house for a week. Last night my mother in law walked into my bed room as I stepped out of the the bathroom. I was completely naked. She did not seem at all bothered by the situation and carried on p... (145 words)

How can I get the physical affection aspect re-started in our relationship? The cuddles have stopped.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2880 days ago

29 January 2017 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi everyone. I'm not sure what to do. My husband and I mostly have a great relationship, but for the last few months he seems to touch me only for sex. I like sex, but I'm starting to resent it and not want to have it when it seems to be the only time he really touches ... (132 words)

I am over chasing men. But without a man in my life, then how can I be happy?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2699 days ago

29 January 2017 (F)

age 41-50 - It seems since I have been 17 years old I have been chasing men. 13 years later an two bad relatiosnhios and a broken home(my parents are miserable together) I have had enough. A little back story ( since my early twenties I have done everything to escape my misery- chased m... (316 words)

Should I give up on men? Is there such a thing as a normal guy? I want a relationship with a man.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2699 days ago

29 January 2017 (F)

age 36-40 - I have have asked for advice before here and wanted to come back a year later to ask maybe what I am doing wrong. I am a woman in my early 30s that has given up on love. I have only been with three men and two had a relationship with. Through therapy (intensive) I ha... (241 words)

My girlfriend is in hospital and her family are keeping me in the dark

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 2872 days ago

28 January 2017 (M)

age 36-40 - I have no idea what to do to deal with this situation. I have been with my girlfriend since 2011, she was 18 at the time we started. We have had a great relationship, typical ups and downs, but all in all great. Her family has never warmed up to me and has consistently tre... (467 words)

When will he tell me he loves me, I don't want to say it first this time?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2884 days ago

28 January 2017 (F)

age 30-35 - When can I expect my boyfriend to tell me he loves me? What are some signs that will indicate that he feels that way? (even if not saying it) I'm well on my way to falling in love with him, but don't want to say it first this time. I have said it first many times and it d... (66 words)

I don't want to have a relationship with him but I'd like him as a friend.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2880 days ago

28 January 2017 (F)

age 26-29 - Me and my ex (who i've known my entire life) split up a year ago because he started to treat me bad and was showing signs of unfaithfulness. However, a year on me and him were supposedly over the relationship and he requested that we be friends. We met up just for a general ... (283 words)

I feel I am just not good enough for anything, its affecting my life and future!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2880 days ago

28 January 2017 (F)

age 22-25 - How do I get over this overwhelming feeling that I'm just not good enough? I'm going to be 18 this year and I'm just sick of always feeling this way about everything. 1) I'm the middle child in my family, and this may sound really cliqué but it's true what they say about th... (500 words)

I don't know how to relax and be content in the moment.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2880 days ago

28 January 2017 (F)

age 30-35 - I've been dating a great guy for a few months now. In the first few weeks, we had 2 minor communication mishaps, but it's generally been smooth sailing. My friends and family like him, and his like me. It's the first healthy relationship I've had in a while, and it's also th... (252 words)

I need help to face my fears so I can ask her out!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2880 days ago

28 January 2017 (M)

age 30-35 - Hey ppl, I need some advice. I'll try to keep it short. I like a girl. I have a bad case of social anxiety. I think she used to like me too but think I've waited too long and she's loosing/lost interest.I get to see her once a week. Most times I give her an awkward smile an... (158 words)

I'm having doubts about his ability to stay faithful

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2880 days ago

28 January 2017 (F)

age 36-40 - I have been with my boyfriend for about 8/9 months now. He is 29 and I'm 31. He is into sex a lot and has a really high sex drive. He needs to have sex everyday plus masturbate once a day on top of that. I am not always up for sex everyday, sometimes I'm just quite tired. He ... (301 words)

LDR boyfriend is dragging his feet about us moving in together

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2880 days ago

28 January 2017 (F)

age 41-50 - I am in a long distance relationship and have been for almost four years.My finance live 88 miles away so I see him every weekend. The problem is he is dragging his feet for us to live together and I have become extremely resentful.He says we can buy a house near where I live ... (174 words)

Is my boyfriend not attracted to me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2880 days ago

28 January 2017 (F)

age 36-40 - So I have been with my bf for a year now. He's such a caring, supportive and generous guy. During our first weeks of relationship, he initiates sex more often but not the great even but these days,he doesn't anymore. Sometimes, he even has a hard time erecting. He hasn't ... (158 words)

He has told me he no longer loves me ... but we have been happier than ever.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2881 days ago

28 January 2017 (F)

age 30-35 - I am having some troubles with my fiancé. I am 22 years old and we have been together for four years now, we also live together and have a mortgage on our own house. Over the pst few months he keeps saying things like "I need some space" and "I want to have fun", which I ha... (480 words)

I'm a sex addict and now my boyfriend is angry and withholding sex from me

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 2880 days ago

28 January 2017 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi all. Im stuck in a situation that is difficult for me to talk about due to embarrassment. Im a sex addict and have been dating the same man for going on 5 years now. At first, our sex life was incredible. I thanked god for sending me a man that could finally keep up with my ... (511 words)

Affair with my best friend but I have a partner of 18 years and a one year old that we had after years of trying. What do I do now?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 2877 days ago

28 January 2017 (F)

age 41-50 - I've been with my partner for 18 years I do love him and we have a one year old which we tried for years to have. But for the last 3 year I have been having an affair with my best friend who's showed me so much love , a lot more love than I seem to get at home. He now won't see ... (138 words)

I kissed Max on the cheek and Mark thinks I cheated!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2881 days ago

28 January 2017 (F)

age 22-25 - Hi, me and this boy have known each other for around 3 years now. Lets say his name is mark, me and mark have been quite good mates. The other day he asked me to be his girlfriend and I said yes. I told him not to tell anyone we were together because I thought my best friend ... (241 words)

Why is he checking on his ex flings FB page after she unfriended him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2881 days ago

28 January 2017 (F)

age 36-40 - Something happened a few months ago with my husband and an "ex-fling" of his. I was there when the incident occurred and it was just a bit of drunk stupidity on his part, which we are both fine with in our relationship - it was a private message social media incident and it has ... (280 words)

Could my bf's avoidance of my compliments suggest he is cheating?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 2872 days ago

28 January 2017 (F) age 41-50 - I have been suspecting my bf has been unfaithful recently. Just sense a change. When having a text conversation this evening, I went on about how lucky I am to have him. What a good guy he is and how I am glad he is not like other men. I said he makes me so happy and I know... (265 words)

I know we can solve any problems but he just acts distant!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2884 days ago

28 January 2017 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi I really need some male opinion on this, I was friends with this guy 3 years ago we started having sex without admitting that we were in a relationship which was what we both wanted at that time ( though it seemed like we had feelings for each other), we had some sex prob... (271 words)