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writes:My wife and I are currently on vacation and staying at my mother in laws house for a week. Last night my mother in law walked into my bed room as I stepped out of the the bathroom. I was completely naked. She did not seem at all bothered by the situation and carried on packing away a few item and asks me a few questions. I quickly put on a pair of underwear and continued to speak to her. I now feel rather awkward around her. I think she feels like she can she can be around me when I'm naked. I don't want to do anything to offend her so I won't say anything. But should I just try be natural about it and not worry about her seeing me?
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reader, AlAnonMan  +, writes (23 March 2021):
It wouldn't be any kind of big deal to me, but my mother in law has seen me naked before. Just make sure your wife knows what happened. Most likely your wife will think it's funny and won't care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2017): I am not sure if how she reacted or how you reacted is more strange.
She came in as you were coming out of the bathroom...if it were me I would have run right back into the bathroom, shut the door and asked my wife or even MIL to pass me in some clothes immediately.
The fact that you just paraded out of the bathroom, and then just casually slipped on underpants--- UNDERPANTS?!?! not even clothes?
I would have asked, or maybe shouted "please go out again, I need to get decent and then I will let you in"
I don't know, I just get a strange vibe that this is playing into some fantasy of YOURS.
I think you need to have a little respect for your wife, and if your MIL doesn't understand appropriate boundaries than you can't just lie back and be passive about it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2017): Just because your MIL has seen naked men before, doesn't mean it's okay for her to see you naked. There's this thing called respect. She is an older woman, and although it may be okay with her; your father-in-law might kick you out on your ass.
I'm surprised that anyone would advise that this is okay. I would not like my boyfriend parading around naked in-front of my mom. I don't!
I do agree, it's no big deal. What happened happened, and if she made no issue of it, okay. It doesn't mean you don't show her the proper respect in her home; which she should have shown you and your wife, by not entering the room knowing she could have walked in on you. Like I said, I think she just wanted to take a peek.
Maybe it's been awhile since she's seen the naked body of a young man; but your wife and father-in-law would not approve of you giving her voyeuristic mom a peep-show!
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (30 January 2017):
You have any idea how many times she has seen a man naked in her years?
Does she have sons? Grand kids that are boys? Her own husband...Please.. you are another pair socks to her.
If it meant something to her, she would be shocked and ran out of the room.
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reader, PaulDove +, writes (30 January 2017):
PaulDove is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for all of your answers, they are all valued.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2017): I actually think differently from the other aunts and uncles. What I feel is that she was JUST as embarrassed and awkward about unintentionally walking in on you in that state and simply PRETENDED to talk shop like nothing happened in order to make it less awkward for you. Regardless if it's eating away at you, confide in your wife
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reader, Plexi +, writes (30 January 2017):
 I think it has nothing to do with YOU per se. its just how she is..........some people are just more comfortable around nudism and are more open minded. Trust me, you are not the first naked man she has seen........she is not shocked like a 15 year old girl would be...............She DOESN'T CARE!! Move on and act like nothing happened unless she sais something to you. Next time put on a bathrobe before you live the bathroom unless you live alone(its just the civilized thing to do)
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2017): Simply lock bathroom and bedroom door when you are bathing. When you're a guest in someone's home, you should have a robe and/or towel to cover yourself before exiting the bathroom.
Why would you be so comfortable as to walk around naked in your in-law's house to begin with? You SHOULD feel uncomfortable; because it was thoughtless that you didn't cover yourself before you came out of the bathroom.
She should have knocked, but really had no business entering the room; even if you were still in the shower. What's up with that anyway?
She should have left immediately. I think she was hoping to catch you unclothed. The behavior on both parts was inappropriate. She should have apologized and excused herself from the room, or you should have returned to the bathroom and closed the door until she left.
What the heck were you thinking strutting around naked in-front of her?
Ask your wife to inform your mother-in-law that you were quite uncomfortable about the incident. Lock the bedroom door when you are alone or unclothed in their house. Never leave the bathroom, unless you are wrapped with a towel, dressed, or wearing a bathrobe. That should be a habit when you're a guest.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2017): I dont think asking your wife to talk to her mum about the incident is a good idea. It will embarrass your MIL and cause a rift between them.It could have been a genuine miscalculation by her not to retreat and shut the door. Instead take precautions next time you shower so such incidents dont happen again.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (29 January 2017):
 You did the right thing. She should have knocked. Tell your wife what happened but don't make a big deal out of it. Maybe she'll knock next time. In the meantime try to be prepared for the next no knock situation.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (29 January 2017):
 I agree with Andie here. You should talk to your wife about what happened and ask her to have a conversation with her mom about it.
If your bedroom door was closed, your MIL had no business entering it while you were in there. What would bother me more is that she didn't immediately excuse herself when the walk-in DID occur, but she STAYED in there and carried on conversation with you!
That isn't appropriate. Yes, I know some cultures aren't as modest when it comes to that sort of thing. I have a friend whose father used to hang around the house and family without a stitch of clothing on with the exception of a pair of slippers.
Have your wife convey your discomfort to her mother for you. AND - if your bedroom door was OPEN while you were in the bathroom showering, you might want to start closing your door. If the bedroom door has a lock, that might provide additional peace of mind.
In a guest's house, I usually bring clothes into the bathroom, and don't leave it naked. That's also a possibility for you as well. Bring your underwear into the bathroom and put it on once you finish drying off.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (29 January 2017):
 Talk to your wife about it. Do not get comfortable with it - if it happens again, say something. Perhaps she didn't realise you'd come out naked while she was there, but she should have left when she saw you.
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