A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi I have got a problem I have tried to deal with for nearly a year now I am in a fwb not a planned one just happened anyway I got the feeling he didn't want anything to do with me anymore so I text him and I asked him he replied back with I do and don't what do you think he meant by this he has been out of a long term relationship for three years now he came round we had a good talk he said he liked me and we will just see what happens between us in future but he finds it hard to trust he also trold me he is still in love with his ex of 15 year which I understand they have a daughter together how do I help him get over his ex he also said to me that we would be really good together as we have the same personality and are both really laidback about things he asked me how much I liked him so I told him I liked him a lot what do you think I should do should I wait and hope that we will be together one day as I do not want anyone else I have been asked out a lot in the year I have known him but I always say no as I don't want anyone else what do you think I should do thank you for any answers
View related questions:
his ex, text Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2012): My advice: Forget about him ASAP!
NO 1. Stop sleeping with him! It's the only way you can detach yourself emotionally, because you already love him. It will be extremely tough! He is going to call you up, filling you with all kinds of Bull sh*t and you'll want to give in, but you can't.
You need to stay strong.... and remember he is USING YOU. He is still getting his pleasure, but it's not so much fun for you any more. Therefore the FWB situation is clearly not working and he is not going to commit because he loves his ex.
NO 2. Stop contacting him! He told you out straight that he loves his ex. He as much as told you he is using you + they have a child together, they have a bond that can not be severed and she will ALWAYS be part of his life. Please don't allow yourself to be used.
NO 3. Get out there, take up those other guys on their offer, you could be passing up the opportunity to meet a really get guy that you could love just as much, if not more, but most importantly loves you. Forget about this user, you deserve better, everybody does.
You have two options: continue with the current situation, waiting for him, wasting your life and wake up when you're like 40 regretting it. Or do the above.
Never make somebody a priority, when you are only an option for them.
Good luck.x
A
male
reader, Kyle007  +, writes (21 January 2012):
If you are concerned with how a man feels about another woman, then an FWB relationship is just not for you.What you are describing here are relationship issues. Its my understanding that FWB does not involve having a relationship.Either don't care because he is just your "f##k buddy" but if you do care, then you need to have something real, with some commitment to it. And if you go the latter, you have to let him know that you have to be the only woman for him or it won't work.
...............................
|
