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writes:Basically, I’ve been with a guy for two and a half years but a few weeks back we broke up. Reason he gave was he couldn’t deal with having a relationship because he was too stressed…Actual reason, he had been cheating on me with another girl. I was devastated but told myself I wasn’t going to let it get the better of me. I have been trying to stay strong and I honestly thought I was getting over him. Now I have met a new guy who I have been talking via facebook and we met for the first time a couple days ago. It was so nice, and I was thinking ‘this is someone I really need in my life at the moment’ he’s so kind to me. Last night I invited him to a party because he wanted to meet some of my friends, and after a lot of alcohol was consumed we kissed…he was sober and although it was just a kiss, it made me realise I wasn’t ready to move on yet but now I’ve given the guy false hope. It felt wrong kissing him, almost like I was cheating on someone and im really not sure how I feel about him where as he told me he really likes me. This morning I didn’t remember what I said to him but one of my friends said I told him i liked him a lot too… im still in love with my ex and don’t know how to let this other guy down gently…do you think he will understand the fact that I was drunk and not thinking straight? I just really don’t want to rush things...help?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2012): Be honest. Tell the new guy that you're still hung up on the ex who dumped you for another girl, and the only reason you threw yourself at him is you were drunk.
He should be gentleman enough to bow out gracefully.
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reader, Kyle007  +, writes (21 January 2012):
Its just a kiss, don't feel guilty.
Objectively ask yourself, ex or not, if you really would want to pursue this guy and base your decision on that.
Just telling him you are still in love with your ex may be enough to make him want to pull out of it himself.
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reader, peacelovecandy +, writes (21 January 2012):
 Whatever you do, don't dwell on your ex. Try to let go of him as hard as you can so that it's possible you CAN find another man! I had a "thing" with someone I REALLY fell for and I'm still not yet over him, despite a few years having passed. I've had two boyfriends after him and it has somewhat messed up my relationships. I don't see anyone as good as him, but you have to let that feeling go and put it in the back of your mind. He didn't do you any good, so you have to find someone that will. Getting over someone is hard, and you're the only person that can save yourself. As for the new guy, just hint that you aren't looking for a relationship. Tell him you were still upset by your last one, hopefully he would understand. Good luck!
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reader, N91 +, writes (21 January 2012):
 Tell him exactly what you've just told us. That you're still not fully over your ex and you don't wanmt to rush into something too soon.
Simples...
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