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writes:Hello all, I am new to the site.My question is, I am a 36 yr old male, married with 2 small kids. The problem I am facing is that I am all ways horny, and I mean all the time. My wife helps me out with it most of the time, but other times I do not want to bother her so I masturbate. Is this normal that, I am that horny all the time?
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reader, Domolovescookies  +, writes (21 January 2012):
 Tell her.
Trust me, if she loves you... and chances are she does... she does NOT want to see this ruin your relationship.
like the other post said, it does sound like the type of situation where the guy ends up cheating. dont do it. whatever you decide to do, talk to her first.... and when you do, start out with talking about how much she DOES do for you already, tell her that you understand how busy she is, how the children have changed the chemistry of her life, etc. Then ask her if she could maybe just squeeze in a little extra time just for you.
Also, if shes the right type of gal, maybe you could initiate it? and just see where it goes. Get the kids a nice babysitter planned, plan the evening, and type it all up as a nice invitation to give to her~ (warning lol... it'd be a good idea to tell her before giving the kids to a sitter... mom's are really picky on the sitters)
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (21 January 2012):
 Is that normal? or is that normal for you?
If you are a decent intelligent man, you will apreciate and know it is normal for a woman's sex drive to drop when she has small children or babies. After all, isn't it more important that she is taking good care of the children and getting good rest when she can instead of having to constantly worry about 'servicing' you?
It always baffles me that men cannot look at the mothers of their kids and see how difficult, busy and tiring it is for her and then put themselves on the other side of the 'seesaw' so she has to keep both happy at the same time.
If you feel you are excessively horny, maybe there is something going wrong in your body? If you are going to use it as an excuse to cheat and blame it on your wife because she doesn't have enough time for you in her busy day, then that means you arn't really a good person.
Do what most men do in your situation, sort yourself out or make a special time, get a sitter and have some one on one time with your wife (but don't blame her if she worries about the kids all night). If you tackle the tough times together with love and understanding, be patient and don't give in to cheating, then you will have a much closer bond...and when the kids get a little older, the sparks and fireworks will return (as they do for most couples).
If its getting out of control then maybe you need to see a doctor to help you get your life in check.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (21 January 2012):
Some people have a high sex drive, some don't. You do sound pretty normal to me, so I don't think there's anything wrong. All I would say is make sure your wife doesn't think she's just being used for sex, otherwise she might grow resentful.
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