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writes:I'm 19 and IT's been 2 years that I live in this new town, I left my bestfriends and my boyfriend and everybody I'm attached to and when i got here it was so difficult making friends again. But I made two best friends and we used to spend all the time of the day together every day for a year and a half, we used to be inseparable, and we used to never lie to each other...we were really good to each other. I got into a stupid misunderstanding with one of them a month ago, and since then we never talked to each other, the other one chose to hung out with her so I'm left by myself. the thing is it's difficult for me to forget them cause we're classmates and we have a final project to do together so we work as a team even though me and the other one don't talk to each other at all. I believe it's okay to lose people in your life cause that proves they're not meant to be a part of it, and since the misunderstanding is so not my fault I wont go and talk to her. I just want to move on but it really hurts to just let it go. evertime I think about it I feel like crying but I try to stop myself cause I feel so stupid. I feel really disapointed maybe because I always thought our relationship was perfect but now it doesnt even exist. Why do I feel so sad, and why does it hurt so bad, and how can I just swallow all this and forget about them, and be able to live and enjoy my senior year alone with no friends in this town, cause anyway I'm goin back next year to my old town where my old friends are?
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reader, 11muds11  +, writes (21 January 2012):
I'm so sorry you feel alone. I know how you feel that it can be tough, especially when you're in a new place.
Sometimes, when you're younger, these things happen. Try and write a letter to your friend to straighten things out. It might work if you're sincere about it, and say how sorry that this little miscommunication has caused such trouble. Stay positive and don't point out what she did wrong. I hope it works.
Sometimes, some people don't like to be in a three-way friendship and maybe this was her way of dealing with it. It gets better making and staying friends as you get older as people become more mature about it.
If they don't want to be friends, then try and find others. Sometimes, if you look around, there's someone else just like you. If you really feel alone than stay close to your family and talk to extended family members.
Next year, you'll feel better. But that doesn't mean you shouldn't try and make new friends now. I hope this helps. Good luck.
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