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writes: Am I being an inconsiderate friend to my flatmate, she doesn't get her loan. her parents do because it goes towards her rent. She lives on 40 a week and of course her parents wouldn't fund for event tickets or nights/days out. Well she's the only person who I really go out with because we both came into uni late when everyone already had their groups and our flat are always working the pubs/club. But the things is I get my loan and I have a job, so I can afford this stuff. And through my work I'm become friends with these girls who are really fun outgoing people and I love hanging out with them. I do invite her along all the time, but she can never afford it. I feel guilty that she can't, but I don't want to miss out on having fun and doing what just because she can't. I have already missed out on many night/days out because of this which I'm not annoyed at her for. But right now all the student tickets for the massive summer events, trips, parties and everything is starting to kick off! I can't afford to wait around on the hope she can go, because then i'll miss out and I know this, I would resent her for. I say this because I've been so excited since last year!! It's what every university student looks forward to sine the year started! But I feel bad because we also talked about us going and now it's me going to all of these, but without her.. She can do maybe one or two, but we know it's not the same. What should I do? And should I not go out with the new group i'm friends with, of course i'd never leave her out! But I don't know if i'm being a bad friend or if it's a selfish thing to do...
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reader, peacelovecandy  +, writes (21 January 2012):
 You seem more selfish saying that than actually leaving her out. The poor girl has $40 a week and you're expecting her to go out and spend money for events, etc? Just go with other people. I'm sure she would be upset to see you were annoyed just because she couldn't afford going out!
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reader, Starlights  +, writes (21 January 2012):
Your friend might be finding things tough and you've been there to support her with staying in some nights, but I think you need your fun time too!
why does your friend not work?
that way she can come out with you guys... ?
If your friend is a true friend she would want to see you happy and going out.
Your uni years are meant to be fun so you should enjoy.
Goodluck
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