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writes:I have been in and out of many relationships each of which lasting for a significant amount of time. All of the girls have been nice and special in their own way, and initially I got very excited about having the privilege to call them my own/my girlfriend. However, after a while things hit a plateau, and that excited, nervous, giddy feeling goes away. Lately I have been dating a girl for about 6 months now, and I am starting to hit that same plateau. She is beautiful, smart, funny, cares a lot about others and me and would do anything for me. I know I like her and I enjoy being around her, but I feel that plateau beginning to hit me and I know it is not because of her, she is probably the most special and unique girl I have ever been with. I was wondering if this is a sign that I just have not found the perfect girl for me yet, or if this is normal and if so, are there ways to get that honey moon like feeling back in our relationship? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2012): Hi there,
The previous poster hit the nail on the head, that the honeymoon phase in a new relationship is temporary, due to hormones and the initial excitement of meeting and getting to know someone new. Depending on the individuals, for some it lasts longer than others, it all depends. Some people go through various relationships always striving for that, which results in only temporary excitement and happiness.
It is normal for you to feel this way, whether one has been with a new person a short time, or a long time. That is why they say relationships/marriage take work - because you have to work at it, and maintain some excitement, mystery, etc. You should regularly schedule some quality time together, to bring about that closeness and intimacy shared in relationships. Whether it's through open and honest communication, shared hobbies or interests, mutual goals and vision for the future. I've been with my boyfriend almost 1.5 years now, and I still have that excitement around him, and continue to be attracted to him in every way. Why? because we spend quality time together, we make each other a priority, we care about each other and are each other's best friends. The honeymoon phase comes and goes, but true love stays, no matter what the age, or how long you are together.
I wish you happiness :)
xxxx E
normal and if so, are there ways to get that honey moon like feeling back in our relationship?
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