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writes:dear cupid,back in march, i met this guy through a mutual friend. i wasn't really all that interested in him at first; to be honest, our first date was actually kind of a pity date. but eventually, i wound up falling for him. HARD. and when i say hard, i mean harder than i've ever fallen for anyone else before in my whole entire life. we became boyfriend and girlfriend in the beginning of april, but after about a week, we had to break up because of some circumstances that were beyond our control. however, we started "talking" again in may, and by june, we were a couple again (that same month, i lost my virginity to him).all throughout the summer, everything was great. we talked about our future quite often, and it seemed like we grew to love each other more and more every day. then, in august, he suddenly started saying that he wasn't happy anymore...and our relationship started suffering because of it. throughout all of that, though, i still loved him like crazy, and he said that he still loved me, too. then, toward the end of october, we broke up (it was his decision). after the break-up, we didn't talk for about a week. then, he texted me randomly one night and continued to randomly text me in the days and weeks that followed. we still hung out (and had sex and stuff like that) quite often. each time, he was the one to strike up the conversation and the one to invite me over.at the beginning of december, he agreed that we could start "talking" again. then, earlier this month, i asked him about us officially getting back together, and he asked what was wrong with us just talking. i've talked to him about it several more times since then, but we're still not back together. he says that he still loves me and doesn't want to be with anybody else and that he's just really stressed-out right now.his best friend/roommate/the guy who set us up thinks that he's just using me as a "booty call" and doesn't really love me anymore...and that if he had the chance to be with somebody else, he would take it. i've talked to his mom about what she thinks, and her opinion is that the roommate is just trying to start stuff and isn't actually telling the truth...because according to her, he says he still cares about me.my question is, who do you think i should believe? and should i tell the guy about what his roommate has been saying? and, most importantly, do you think there's any hope of me and him ever being able to work things out?
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (18 January 2012):
 I think you should believe ONLY yourself.....
And.... I hope that "yourself" will tell you that this guy is USING YOU (for s*x).... and that you are being a fool for even giving him the time of day.....
Good luck...
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (18 January 2012):
 Right off the top of my head, I tend to agree with his roomate.
I mean, come on, he ended it with you saying he wasn't happy, THEN a mere WEEK later started texting you wanting to hang out and have sex. Just one month after that - the beginning of December - you asked him about getting back together and he gives you the runaround, telling you he's "stressed." What's he stressed about? Has he told you?
I leave it to you to draw your own conclusions about all this.
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