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writes:I used to be good at giving oral sex, but a man I was with for a long time didn't like oral sex, and as a result of not doing it for so long, I have completely lost my touch. My boyfriend and I have been sexually active for about six months, and I have yet to make him climax from oral sex. I want to, and he wants me to finish, but I feel like I'm not doing it right or something. I get paranoid after a couple minutes that I'm not doing it right, so I just stop and have sex, to make it seem as though I wasn't trying to get him off, but rather just warmed up. What do men like for women to do during oral sex? How do I do it so that he will climax quickly? He and I have a fantastic sex life, except for this one aspect. I really want to be able to pleasure him. Thanks in advance for your help...
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your advice everyone. Might be a little bit too much information, but since receiving all of your advice, I have successfully pleased my boyfriend orally and to completion....twice. So I no longer feel insecure about it. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2012): Ask him to masturbate in front of you and/or onto you. That way you'll be able to see the motion required for him to get off. He may just be one of those guys that needs it hard and fast OP. In which case you'll have to use your hand a lot more during blow jobs. A blow job isn't just about the mouth OP as I'm sure you're aware, you can finish it off with the hand and just have the head in your mouth licking kind of thing.
We're all different OP, but the only way to figure it out is to ask him what he needs or at least watch him masturbate and see how tight he's clenching it.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (19 January 2012):
 Speed is not at all great. As a man, I have always preferred long, loving blow jobs with lots of licking and gentle strokes until I cum inside. What can be complicated about that? Actually, I have often tried to hold back to let my woman work for it, and the release seems to be even better.
It is very unlikely that you are not "doing it right." Only one woman I've ever known did not give head to my preference because she was very rough about it, and bit me, but she still took the load. Biting is a big no-no. Otherwise, I cannot imagine what can go wrong with a nice blow job as long as you do not stop during the finish.
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reader, Dear Mandy  +, writes (19 January 2012):
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you just need to relax, dont even think about giving him oral sex. it will happen when your both ready , and then only then will you both enjoy it without even thinking about it. you have just gone a little shy from not doing it for such a long time, and as you said you think you have lost your touch, but that is just in your mind. also he might not want to climax quickly, he may very well be really enjoying it, and savouring the moment. As a women I know I wouldn't want to be made to climax quickly, I would like to take my time,:)
hope this helps xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2012): hrmm.... maybe he just takes longer than your previous partner? If he wants you to finish, chances are he likes whatever it is that you are doing. Everyone likes something different... why dont you try asking him?
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