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writes:After I broke up with my ex he found me online and started creating fake accounts to talk to me( he might have been trying to get to know me better and see if he was better off without me or if he should come after me....... About a year later he finally had the courage to call me up and told me he had unsuccesfully tried to move into my buiding....We started talking again as friends and I was very supportive and loving to him when one of his parents first had heart surgery, then was diagnosed with cancer. However, I felt like he wasn't doing anything to keep me by his side but his actions were pushing me away(he talked about other girls, sent me emails he had also cc'ed to his exes, reffered to me as a friend..over and over again,not return my calls when he said he would, not always reply to my im's, that word friend was beggining to really irritate me( I didn't expect him to rush to declare love or propose or anything but he didn't need to remind me of my place all the time so one day I snapped and said sorry I can not do this anymore. Just before Christmass I sent him a short note saying I was sorry about everything and that I hoped he was well and wished to still be friends. His reply.........."what you did really hurt me and scarred me. I said I was sorry even though I didn't completely feel at fault but wanted to make peace. His only reply was...........we'll see.......I'm so confused and tormented over this....am I a total bitch for not being strong enough to be there for him or is he wrong in puting the blame on me. I am now trying to move on but I need to make sense of all this first so that I have closure.Thanx to you all
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you wordlywise,
It is odd.............we have this great chemistry and attraction and a strong connection but I never know where I stand with him or what he wants from me. He has admitted to me in the past that he is not a very open person and that he has some self esteem issues.
To answer your question, I am the one who ended it because he was driving me crazy with all these girls he was playing with and for lying about going on a trip alone(he actually went with a woman)I was falling in love with him in a big way and it hurt that he wasn't returning those feelings(well, he was very affectionate and loving with me when we were alone, but he was also very closed off and always refereed to me as a friend.........etc
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2011): He sounds a bit odd, stalking you online, trying to move into your building, then when you give in and agree to be friends,after a year, he behaves in a bizarre way towards you
You don't say who or why you initially ended the relationship, it would help to know or understand a bit better.
You were right to cut it off this time though, you need to let go 100% from this man - he's not your problem and being friends doesn't work,its almost like he wants you dangling there for him. You don't need to apologise anymore. He's an Ex.
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