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writes:I have a question... I've been living with my boyfriend for a little over a year, we're very open and have a good relationship. We've spoken about marriage a bit, and we've both been in a few long term relationships before this. We were joking about christmas gifts for me and he was telling me he was thinking of jewelry. He said he got me earrings for my birthday so maybe a necklace, then a ring he said.I laughed and said jokingly, 'oh, you already got me a necklace, remember?' and he laughed and then said seriously, 'You have to wait for the right time'. To me, this means he's ready to propose, just waiting for the right time... We were reading an article on his computer and I saw an ad for jewelry on his favorite website. Usually there's just video game ads and football ads, because that's what he normally looks at. I know those ads are smart, and if he was looking at jewelry then they would put different ads up. What do you guys think? Thanks for the input!
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (11 December 2011):
 How long have you 2 been together?
Do you wear a lot of accessories? A lot of statement rings?
I wouldn't necessarily start looking at color swatches for your wedding, or visit your local bridal boutique for a wedding dress. You don't know if he's going to propose, we have NO IDEA if he's going to propose.
To me it sounds as if he's looking at rings, but will propose in the future. Not around Christmas. IMO, that's a bit cliche..every woman gets a ring for Christmas.
Anyways, don't be disappointed when you get a necklace. Besides, a engagement proposal is supposed to be a surprise!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2011): I wouldn't get ahead of myself here because you may be disappointed if he doesn't propose. You 2 were joking around at the time he said it, so just take it as joking around, and maybe just trying to find out what you prefer, it doesn;t necessarily mean he is thinking of an engagement ring. Just take it as it comes and see what happens. To me it doesn't sound like he is actually planning anything in the immediate future, I think it is more likely to be someonething in the distant future. Just take a step back and take a deep breath and wait and see what happens, but don't expect it because if it's not an engagement ring you will be feeling ver hurt and disappointed. Good Luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2011): Well, it's possible. He could've been looking at necklaces, though, or bracelets. Try not to get your hopes up, just in case.
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reader, fishdish +, writes (10 December 2011):
 well he did say he was considering jewelry for you. It sort of depends on his tone, but if someone said to me I have to wait for the right time, I think I would not consider that to be an engagement hint, because it sounds too hypothetical, or too far into the future. just take it day by day, so you don't ruin any surprise by overthinking things.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2011): I don't think it means he's ready to propose. I think he said what he meant and that's you having to wait for when the time is right. However long that is I would get some idea of so you can enjoy your relationship and not get disappointed by expectations.
After living together for a year you should be able to discuss timelines because alot of guys are so vague and will put off marriage as long as they can!
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