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26-29,
anonymous
writes:There is a boy and he has a reputation of a player, but i really like him and we have a big thing. im trying my best not to get my feelings involved because i dont want to get hurt, but the feelings are too strong to hold back. how do i know he wont hurt me? is there anyway to make myself different then all the other girls because i dont want to get played and look stupid. please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2011): If you don't want to get played then don't mess with known players. This is not what you want to hear but this is the truth.
Half the girls that players mess with go into it saying the same stuff you are: "I won't be like the other girls he conquered." But they end up that way just like the others.
I'm sorry to sound like a gender bigot but I'm trying to make my point without writing you a novel. If you listen to what most women tell you about these things then you will end up like most of them have ended up at one time or another: Saying "He is the wrong guy for me but my feelings are too strong to pull out now."
The time to protect yourself and get out of trouble is NOW, not after you are a lot deeper and you know for sure that he's trouble. By that time it's too late. You will share in that common "growing up experience" (getting used for sex and becoming another notch on a player's bedpost) that so many other young women do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2011): You don't know if you'll get hurt or not - we can never know for certain what 'might' happen. Go in with your eyes open and have personal boundries. You can be the sort of girl who will not be messed around by just calling a halt the second you feel you have not been treated with reasonable respect. That is the best policy and can stand you in good stead for future relationships.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2011): hmmm yeah i guess you will never know if he would or not if you don't try..have you ever noticed how he acts towards other girls ? before you guys had your thing? and if you have..and he acts like the way he acts towards you, i wouldn't trust him with your heart...he would probly just through it around..wait till he knows you REALLY like him and then stomp on it....but then again...who knows till you try! just be careful!
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