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writes: My boyfriend and I broke up 5 mths. ago. He cheated and i do not want him back. i can't seem to get happy without him. I do drugs to numb thee pain. I am a mess. help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2006): my son does drugs
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reader, charlie432 +, writes (2 February 2006):
What drugs are you using? certain drugs have more devasting affect than others..but obviously none are good in this situation. you need to sober up, come to terms with what has happened, cry about it, then move on. you don't sound like you have taken the time to "mourn" over your relationship, and you need to otherwise you wont be able to move on. realise that no one is worth ruining your life over, ESPECIALLY if he cheated on you. no one deserves what you are going through, and you need your friends and family close to help you through it. talk to a friend, a relative, or if you cant phone an anonymous source, those are often the best as you can unload and cry your eyes out to someone you will never meet or judge you. all the best, Charlie x
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reader, llqueen +, writes (2 February 2006):
Please quit using drugs to hide your pain. It only makes the pain worse in the long run, because you wake up one day and realize you have screwed up your life and your pain is still there. You will get over him. Trust me, I divorced over infidelity. Just give it time. Try going out with friends or finding something (other than drugs) that you like. The reason I really recommend getting help for the drugs is because I have been there. I have now been clean for 1 year and feel so much better about EVERYTHING!!
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reader, kellyO  +, writes (2 February 2006):
 Dearie, I think you did right reaching out for help. I also think you made the right decision ending your relationship since he wasnt faithful to you. You should be with someone totally devoted to u.
You did indicate in your posting that u dont want to go back to your boyfriend, but u cant seem to get happy without him. The reason for this is that u chose the wrong way to deal with the situation. drugs never help to remove the pain permanently, it only help cloud your visions in an unreality way and the side effects can be very harmful. I would suggest that u seek counselling and drug rehabilitation centres for help. it usually doesnt take long and if u are truly devoted in a couple of weeks you should have completed the process.
You seem really down with life now but i want to tell you i have been there also. you cant afford to ruin your life based on the mistake of your boyfriend because believe me it wasnt your fault in anyway he chose to mess up. Concentrate on achieving and being the best of what u can so that when he sees you he will be full of regrets and so that u will be able to find someone else who will appreciate you for who u are.
Go to friends and family members for help. they will help see you through it all and you need their support .
Take care of yourself now
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reader, kellyO +, writes (2 February 2006):
Dearie, I think you did right reaching out for help. I also think you made the right decision ending your relationship since he wasnt faithful to you. You should be with someone totally devoted to u.
You did indicate in your posting that u dont want to go back to your boyfriend, but u cant seem to get happy without him. The reason for this is that u chose the wrong way to deal with the situation. drugs never help to remove the pain permanently, it only help cloud your visions in an unreality way and the side effects can be very harmful. I would suggest that u seek counselling and drug rehabilitation centres for help. it usually doesnt take long and if u are truly devoted in a couple of weeks you should have completed the process.
You seem really down with life now but i want to tell you i have been there also. you cant afford to ruin your life based on the mistake of your boyfriend because believe me it wasnt your fault in anyway he chose to mess up. Concentrate on achieving and being the best of what u can so that when he sees you he will be full of regrets and so that u will be able to find someone else who will appreciate you for who u are.
Go to friends and family members for help. they will help see you through it all and you need their support .
Take care of yourself now
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reader, willywombat +, writes (2 February 2006):
 Sweetheart, what type of drugs are you taking and how old are you? I ask because there are different ways of approaching this problem depending on the starting point. Please reply soon. xxx
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