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writes: I am an 18 year old male and I have been friends with a 15 year old girl. We now have relationship feelings for each other. Is this illegal if we did go out? Or would it be illegal only if we had sexual contact? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2007): no its not illegal and seriusly dont listen to those saying th girl is immature! i have only just been able to properly go out with a guy i had been seeing in secret 4 ages because it we wsn2lowd there is a 4 year age gap and i know it can b reli tuf wen th girl is under 16 like myself but if the age starts to bother you, let her know because it isnt fair. i know how hard it is to find out what is and isnt alowd as well it took us ages but if you car for enough you wil do what is right and for you both and if that turns out to end up doing soomething that 'isnt alowd' then keep it to yourself other wise you could loser her and both be in a whole lot of trouble! good luck with it all x
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2007): Listen man... I had the same problem a while back. Well, I was 16 and she was 13, but still, same amount of years. Anyways, I went out with her for a long time, and was able to keep a healthy relationship with her, even without sexual contact. The problem arises when you want to move on to that stage... but she isn't old enough. Don't listen to the people who say she is immature, I mean they have no way of knowing unless they actually know this girl. Anyway, if you have this desire for a long time it can end up in adultery, which you might not want. So go for it man - but be prepared for a wait.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2006): she is immature no matter how much you wanna deny that,no matter how much she denies it aswell.If i was you i'd walk away from her, your only burying yourself in your own grave if you think that you as an adult can have a relationship with a mere child. Godsakes man what are you thiking of
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2006): It is ok to just go out with her but not to have sex.Because other wise I think that would be raping her.
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (30 January 2006):
 No it's not ilegal for you to go out with her. But keep it as a friendship. You have all the time in the world to let this relationship develop as you get older.
Good luck.x
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2006): IN THE EYES OF THE LAW IT IS WHAT I WOULD DO IS MAYBE SEE HOW THINGS GO AND MAYBE GO OUT WITH HER WHEN SHES A BIT OLDER
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reader, GLforever +, writes (2 January 2006):
 Well, it is certainly legal to "go out with" her. You can legally "go out with" a 12 year old (assuming you could get her parents approval!)
Sex, or sexual contact, is another matter though. You should check on the age of consent laws for your country or state. You need to look into the details, not just "the age", as many state laws in the USA have exceptions when the age difference is not too great. For example, a 15 year old might be able to legally have sex with a 16 or 17 year old, but not with a 25 year old.
That said, if sex between the two of you is legal in your area, please treat her with respect. Her decision to have or not have sex should be made without any pressure, coercion, or manipulation from you.
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reader, beenthere +, writes (1 January 2006):
I don't think there's actually any law anywhere about going out with a minor, only about having sex. most places the age of consent is 16 but check that out. as long as you're not getting to that stage yet then you are not breaking any law
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (1 January 2006):
 This depends on what the local laws are where you live. In most US states the "age of consent" (for sexual contact) is 16, but in some states it's 17 or 18. If you're in America, you may need to look it up for your State. In the UK and in Australia, the age of consent is 16.
Therefore, it's not likely to be "illegal" for you two to merely go out with each other, but there could be an issue of sexual misconduct or statutory rape or some other charge if you two have sex.
So, don't.
If you care for this girl, you'll want to do the right thing by her, respecting her, following your local laws, and incidentally proving to her parents that you care for the person she is, not what you can "get" from her.
If you don't picture yourself waiting until she's legally old enough to give consent, then you probably should be dating another adult and not a minor.
Hope this helps.
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