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writes: I am 16 years old and a couple of years ago I was asked out by this girl. At the time I didn't think she was anything special so I said no. Ironically now its me that fancies her and I don't know if she still likes me. The problem is that I haven't spoken to her since I turned her down and I found out some other guy is planning on asking her out.What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, fairyangel  +, writes (5 February 2006):
 There's a good old saying that goes...
Don't burn your bridges... cause you never know when you might need to cross them again.
Perfect advice from Bev, take it.
Good Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2006): well that is a tought one. did you reject her meanly, like harsh. if so, you won't have much of a chance to go out with her. she probably hated you for that moment and never thought about you again, unless she is still interested on you which mean you guys must be atleast a friend or cool with each other or kicked with each other alot. if not your chances are very slim.
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (2 February 2006):
 Why not try to get to know her as a friend for a start? Just a smile and "hey, how's it going?" at first. In a few days, you could progress to talking to her about something superficial (mutual friends, classwork, TV etc).
By that time, if you pay attention and watch for her to smile, look you in the eyes and so on, you'll know if she's still interested in you. If she's not interested, then you've pretty much done your dash, and should consider her a zero-chance.
If she shows that she still thinks you're OK, you can tell her something like, "I've always been sorry that I didn't go out with you when you asked. Would you let me make it up to you?", which gives her an apology, acknowledges that you were being a twit before ("...she wasn't anything special..."?! For shame!), and gives you an excellent opportunity to ask her out, all at the same time.
Part of me wants to rake you over the coals for being a bonehead when a a girl went out of her way to ask you out, but then on the other hand, this is sort of Cosmic Justice for your previous, regrettable behaviour, so you're off the hook.
Good luck, and in future, don't be so quick to judge girls by appearances.
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (2 February 2006):
 Tell her.
nothing ventured nothing gained, and believe me if this guy goes for it you will regret it.
Good luck.x
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