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| | *o_Very_Confused's profile:I've got the life experience to be wise for others, not so wise for myself. A degree in psych doesn't hurt either. So when I respond to people while I may just give advice, I'm more inclined to ask you questions that make you think and make you HURT and figure out what to do....
Choices I make are made on years of experience and may not be the best choices for YOU but what I do and what I advise may be two different things. Like I've said I KNOW what's the BEST thing to do and do not always choose to do what's BEST for me.
My primary interests include age gap relationships where the woman is older than the man... I am 13 years older than my future husband... I am also currently very interested in 12 step programs and addiction and recovery
and Long distance relationships...
I also understand alternative lifestyles as I was a "swinger" in my last marriage and I am a bisexual woman although currently I am just with my one male partner by choice...
NEVER STAY WHERE YOU ARE UNHAPPY NO MATTER WHAT. DO not make the same mistakes I made.
Rules:
IF YOU HAVE AN UNEASY FEELING IT'S FOR A GOOD REASON.. listen to that little voice
NEVER EVER trust a liar. IF they lied once, they could lie again. IF you dont' trust them there's a reason for it. LISTEN to it.
IF you have to ASK if you should leave... just do it.
We don't know WHY someone did something... only why WE would do it... so you have to ASK THEM.
IF you are afraid to ASK your PARTNER anything.. it's not a good relationship and you should probably end it.
IF he only calls when he's horny at 2 am you are a booty call nothing more....
Old cliches:
Women need a reason to have sex; men just need a place
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Males: why is porn so important and appealing?
Q. hello,I'm having a huge problem with jealousy and need some help. well,I say jealousy but I don't actually know how to put it. I trust my boyfriend 100% when he goes out that he will not be unfaithful to me. my problem is that when he is on the I...
A. 12 April 2013: don't forget to add
4. INGORE the ELEPHANT IN THE ROOM TILL IT shits on my floor... then whine about it.
AGAIN FOR THE THIRD TIME OP I ask you....
do you trust him now 100% that he will NEVER look at porn again?
will you snoo... (read in full...)
Should I welcome him back with open arms...?
Q. Hi I'm back so my man of 5 yrs went to meet his daughter she is 14 they are meeting for the first time he left on 2/12/13 and has been there since. He calls everyday or text to let me know what's going on. My problem is his "baby mama" she wants a ...
A. 12 April 2013: Ok so you answered the easy question and avoided all the painful stuff.
I would NOT marry this man at this time unless you want to always be the least important thing on his plate. the fact that he was there so long, came home and magically sh... (read in full...)
Males: why is porn so important and appealing?
Q. hello,I'm having a huge problem with jealousy and need some help. well,I say jealousy but I don't actually know how to put it. I trust my boyfriend 100% when he goes out that he will not be unfaithful to me. my problem is that when he is on the I...
A. 11 April 2013: so what he is saying is
I didn't know you would catch me doing something I already said I would not do. Now that you have caught me I'll be way more careful about deleting my history and not getting caught.
so AGAIN OP I ask you in all ser... (read in full...)
Males: why is porn so important and appealing?
Q. hello,I'm having a huge problem with jealousy and need some help. well,I say jealousy but I don't actually know how to put it. I trust my boyfriend 100% when he goes out that he will not be unfaithful to me. my problem is that when he is on the I...
A. 11 April 2013: OP you said in your most recent follow up: “he said he wouldn't do it again because he didn't realise how much it upset me,because to him it's not a big deal”
And yet in your original post you said “I've always said to him if he ever watched ... (read in full...)
Should I welcome him back with open arms...?
Q. Hi I'm back so my man of 5 yrs went to meet his daughter she is 14 they are meeting for the first time he left on 2/12/13 and has been there since. He calls everyday or text to let me know what's going on. My problem is his "baby mama" she wants a ...
A. 11 April 2013: The daughter got suspended because he left... or so momma says. personally I find that to be a bit convenient and also a lousy excuse to get him back there.
I do not think he needed to return. that just feeds the whole dysfunctional relation... (read in full...)
When the breakup comes should I ask him to return the gift?
Q. On Christmas I went way overboard and bought my boyfriend a very expensive gift. A bit over $300. I know. But I'm young and stupid and I guess it's one of those mistakes that when I'm older I'll look back and tell myself "well, that was ridicul...
A. 11 April 2013: Agreed that a gift is a gift given with no strings attached and no expectation of return (as Sageoldguy said an engagement ring is the only gift that is returned upon the breaking of an engagement).
I know you are afraid of ending the relation... (read in full...)
Feeling disconnected from my LDR
Q. I'm engaged and in college, it's somewhat of a long distance relationship though. I moved away for university, and he's doing the same. I was very scared about the distance, I know they hardly ever work out. Well lately I've been feeling very ...
A. 11 April 2013: well I think that you need to talk to him about how you feel and ask him what he would like you to do.
You are feeling disconnected from him. is this due to his behavior or your personal feelings?
You want the freedom of being sin... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to cheat if our sex life has sunk to the point of nothing? And possible ED that he will not seek help for.
Q. Is it wrong to cheat if your sexlife with your partner is zero? My partner is 43 and I 37. He doesn't have a high sex drive and over the past 6 months we have only been intimate twice. When we are intimate he completely focuses on himself and u...
A. 10 April 2013: NO cheating is never ok.
and the truth is K_C100 has it nailed... your complaints are valid... they are not about orgasms or sex... you have a toy.
you want a partner not just a warm body in the bed.
a lover (not sexual but the emotions ... (read in full...)
Should I date him? I'm worried he might be the jealous type....
Q. Hi. Im wondering whether to date this bloke or not. Basically we been talking for some time and we text most days he seems nice enough he even wrote me a very sweet poem the other day! But we have yet to meet Only problem is he seems the jealous ...
A. 10 April 2013: You have been talking to him for “some time” but have not met… if you live close and have not met, this is a very bad sign especially at your age.
If he’s getting jealous of you chatting with other guys already, then yeah that’s a red flag. Je... (read in full...)
Why does my bf want me to use a vibrator when I have never enjoyed having sex?
Q. Hello I haven't had sex with my bf yet and he told me I should get a vibrator. I have never enjoyed having sex in the past as its too uncomfortable and hurts (I have had sex about 10 times in the past and I felt no pleasure). My bf could only use ...
A. 10 April 2013: Well before we go to a vibrator (which btw if his goal is to loosen you up he means a dildo not a vibrator much like chigirl advised) I wonder if you have ever masturbated to orgasm.
Personally I think a vibrator while not a bad idea may not ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend spends loads on himself but wont even buy me a birthday gift! What can I do?
Q. My boyfriend spends lots and lots on his car and bike but dosen't buy me any gifts, let it be birthday, valentines day or annivesary he dosen't bring me anything. I don't expect much from him but somtimes I do want him to make me feel important. And ...
A. 10 April 2013: Have you told him what you want?
if not how is he supposed to know?
if you have told him and he refuses to comply and acknowledge your important days as you find appropriate then he may not be the right boyfriend for you.
some fo... (read in full...)
No sex, No kissing, different religion and now my BF does not want to talk to me?
Q. I'm 22yrs plus while my guy is 25yrs plus we have been dating gettin to 4yrs now despite our religion differences,we both love eachother ,he pays me visit,he introduce me to his friends as his wife to be but now everything change suddenly.each time ...
A. 10 April 2013: hold on guys... they are dating four years... they are both over 21
so it's 4 years and there is not even kissing on the lips!
and you will have sex with him when he marries you... why not get married? if that's not an option then end t... (read in full...)
Confession of my casual fling with an older woman to my new girlfriend?
Q. hi im 21 male. i recently had moved to another city for 3 months for exam coaching purpose. the thing is i was in a casual relationship with a neighbour women. she is 25. it was just sex oriented. then i moved back to my hometown, now I am in a ...
A. 10 April 2013: has she asked?... (read in full...)
I'm insulted that my ex said our time together was "nice"!
Q. My ex just said our time together was "nice" and I feel kind of insulted. I felt like replying, "and your love-making, sir, was perfectly adequate," but I'm just not that quick on my feet. Now that I've been downgraded, I can't stop thinkin...
A. 10 April 2013: yeah you wanted to be told you rocked his world and were the best he ever had and you will be missed.
he's an ex. he only has power if you let him.
and his words are just words and have no bearing on you or your actions or your behavior... (read in full...)
Is this guy using me to get to know my sister?
Q. How do I know if a guy is using me to get to know my sister? This 'friend' and I never really talk or text, and we've only hung out once. He has the same class as my younger sister, and always teases her. He doesn't really tease me, or talk, or hang ...
A. 10 April 2013: yep you are clearly the gateway to your sister
and two years is not a big deal age wise.
you gave him her number.. now he's done with you.
I'm sorry.... (read in full...)
B/f says if I leave the country he'll break up with me
Q. my boyfriend of 5 years wants us to get married within a few months. I will be leaving the country in the next few months also but he told me that if i leave he will break up with me. I have been waiting for this opporunity to go overseas for a ...
A. 10 April 2013: 5 years together and you have a chance to go overseas for a temporary time? how long? if less than a year or so, then he's being unfair and I would call his bluff and break up with him now before you go so he can "get used to it"
he doesn'... (read in full...)
My girlfriend admitted to masturbating to her male friends of hers. Is this normal?
Q. My girlfriend admitted to masturbating to certain male friends of hers. She even told me which ones. I appreciate how honest she is and regret that I even asked. She claims her fantasies don't reflect real desires- that she really doesn't want to ...
A. 10 April 2013: Dear OP,
I see your follow up (not validated but I’ll assume it’s you) and I have to respond.
Your girlfriend is GREAT! She’s open, she’s honest, she’s sexual, she’s probably a very devoted trustworthy girlfriend and here you are trying t... (read in full...)
I'm in a bad marriage and in love with my friend. We've already slept together once but he doesn't love me!
Q. My situation is complicated. Firstly I'm married. But unhappily and am on the brink of potentially leaving my husband. My husband knows. Have seen counsellors. The likelihood of me leaving him is high. Meanwhile over the past year I started w...
A. 10 April 2013: you are putting the cart before the horse honey.
first thing you need to do is clean house. Figure out what's going on with your marriage... either fix it or end it.
He told you he does not see you as more than a friend and a distraction. He... (read in full...)
How do I get over my shyness and talking openly about sex with my b/f?
Q. I'm a virgin and very inexperienced. I'm also in a long distance relationship and me and my boyfriend have done everything but sex, and its great in person, but we aren't going to be together for at least 5 months and I have trouble talking about ...
A. 10 April 2013: you can't tell him what you will do because as a virgin you have no clue.... and that's ok and normal.
tell him, honey I love you but i'm not comfortable talking about it.. but in five months when I see you I'll show you.
... (read in full...)
How do I stop trying to figure out what my ex boyfriend the player is up to?
Q. My ex boyfriend was really good looking and popular- known as somewhat of a player. He was that typical bad boy that knew he was adorable and could get away with anything. Girls were ALL over him and thought he was super cute. I really loved him and ...
A. 10 April 2013: He's an ex boyfriend. this means he's no longer supposed to be your problem or concern.
him being friends with his ex means NOTHING.
in addition to DELETING him from facebook BLOCK HIM.. .then you see NOTHING of him and can't wonder wha... (read in full...)
Boyfriend Living in a House with Three Girls!!!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating 9 months. We both go to different Universities; they are about an hour distance away. He is a lot older than me and so he is able to drive and park his car at school; however, I am a freshman and am not allowed to ...
A. 10 April 2013: ah the problems of young LDRs.
truthfully, what would you being upset about this change?
who knows what could happen during the year.... I think you need to stop looking for problems to crop up and decide if you trust HIM or not.
As... (read in full...)
I like her but so does another guy in our group. How do I get close to her?
Q. I need some advice!!!! This girl and I have been friends for two years and we've been communicating via text. One day she started flirting with me and eventually I would flirt back. She would say "you know you love me" and I would say "you t...
A. 10 April 2013: if you like her and you asked her to dinner and she accepted, clearly she likes you too.
I think you are over thinking this.
the problem is you already told her "even though I like you I don't want to date you" isn't that a lie?
if ... (read in full...)
Seeing someone but attracted to someone else. Normal?
Q. Hi there i was just wondering if its normal to be in a relationship but be attracted to someone else?this might sound stupid but im quite worried about it.Im actually in love with another guy,Although i cant let go of my boyfriend, please help me?...
A. 10 April 2013: you are very very young to tie yourself down to one boy especially if you are not sexual at this point (and I hope you are not)
Being in love with one person does not mean you don't find other people attractive.... there is nothing wrong with tha... (read in full...)
Why did my ex put on facebook a photo of us?
Q. My ex of 3 months has just put an old photo of us together up as his profile picture. Loads of friends clicked on like etc. Saying 'be happy' etc. I'm so angry. I put up a status saying 'I'm single single single single single. The camera never lies ...
A. 10 April 2013: well I think you should
a. ask him to take it down. it may just be that he liked the picture. I just put one up that's nearly 3 years old... but i just wanted to change what was up there...
b. he may not have meant anything by it... di... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants me to ditch my male personal trainer but I am getting great results!
Q. Hello all. My boyfriend does not like the idea of me having a male personal trainer. He is against it and would like me to find a female trainer. But this trainer is giving me the results I want. I had a relationship with my last traine...
A. 10 April 2013: If you have asked him what the problem is and he won't tell you, then he has no right to ask you to stop using the trainer you want to use. If he wants you to stop he has to give you a reason.
Yes you have a bad track record since you did once... (read in full...)
Is it bad to daydream all the time?
Q. Is it bad that I'm daydreaming all the time? I'm a college student with average grades, a waitress, have decent family and friends, and I'm single. However I'm constantly daydreaming about my imaginary life. My boyfriend and what we did for ...
A. 10 April 2013: sounds like me.
if it does not negatively impact on your life and it's your down time... enjoy it.
... (read in full...)
What does it mean when my girlfriend is getting short with me or doesn't send answers back at all?
Q. Hey whats going on :)....a few months ago i met the most amazing girl ever :) she's very sweet and very beautiful..she makes me smile so much my jaws hurt lol :) she makes me so happy. :) she's very shy and i think its the cutest thing ever.. And i ...
A. 10 April 2013: maybe she does not like texting.
how is she when you are together?... (read in full...)
Should I Swallow my pride or just move on?
Q. I left my husband a year ago because I found out he was cheating on me, we haven't filed for divorce but live in separate houses and live separate lives. I was so determine to file for divorce with my taxes money this year so that I could finally ...
A. 10 April 2013: IF you are questioning whether or not to go back (as is NORMAL btw) then I suggest you do what Eddie said.
get a counselor for yourself to work through your feelings alone.
going with him to marital counseling to find out why he did what... (read in full...)
Everyone including my boyfriend seems to want to hang out with this other girl!
Q. There is something that has been bothering me a lot and I don't know how to deal with it. Basically, my boyfriend's best friend has got a new girlfriend. This girl is absolutely gorgeous and seems to have a really flirty personality. She...
A. 10 April 2013:
I doubt strongly that she overpowers you in looks and personality. I’m betting that she’s just way more confident than you are. You say you are very different people. And that’s ok. And that’s good… that means you won’t appeal to the same man ... (read in full...)
Males: why is porn so important and appealing?
Q. hello,I'm having a huge problem with jealousy and need some help. well,I say jealousy but I don't actually know how to put it. I trust my boyfriend 100% when he goes out that he will not be unfaithful to me. my problem is that when he is on the I...
A. 10 April 2013: yes but you said you could not ask him not to look, you told him if he looks you would leave... he looked your not leaving
what do you think will happen the NEXT time you find out he's looked at porn?... (read in full...)
His friends are judgmental, mean, try to break us up and are so disrespectful!
Q. Dear Cupid I'm typing this post because I don't really know who to talk to about this. I have been with my boyfriend for a little over two years and me and him have been through a lot, like most long term relationships. I feel like I'...
A. 10 April 2013: OP said about her boyfriend’s friends “They have even made comments about me calling me a bitch and stupid.”
And when these so called FRIENDS say this to him about you or to you in front of him, what does HE DO? You said “My boyfriend does sti... (read in full...)
Males: why is porn so important and appealing?
Q. hello,I'm having a huge problem with jealousy and need some help. well,I say jealousy but I don't actually know how to put it. I trust my boyfriend 100% when he goes out that he will not be unfaithful to me. my problem is that when he is on the I...
A. 10 April 2013: Is it normal for me to react like this. Yes it’s normal for YOU. It’s not normal for me.
Everyone has their own levels of comfort. IF your level is “if you watch porn then I’m out of here” then that’s what you must do.
The problem is y... (read in full...)
Other than counseling, which I know needs to happen, what steps does she need to take to prove she deserves back in my life?
Q. My wife and I have been married for 12 years, 3 awesome kids. Very “stable” family with two educated and employed parents, no abuse, drugs, issue or anything like that. We are both good parents. Wanted to make that clear. We have had a "good" ...
A. 10 April 2013: Most folks will not like MY take on this. I am sure that I will be told I’m being too hard on the OP… but remember we only have HIS side of it… I would love the wife’s version of this as well.
In November you “caught” her texting a male co-... (read in full...)
He will not stop talking about his sexy female boss!
Q. Hi My bf of 3.5 years talks about his female boss very often like how hot she looks, how sexy her voice is. She is married with kids and i have seen her mildly flirting with my bf too. I told my bf not to talk about her often, as soon as he r...
A. 10 April 2013: you told him it bothered you... he has a work crush... it doesn't mean he's leaving you for her or she is hotter or better than you... he's got a crush. they are rather powerful and all consuming in the early days and they fade with time.... ... (read in full...)
Is there something wrong with me that I didn't want to hear anything about my ex? I'm happily married
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been happily married for the past six months. A couple of years ago I broke up with my ex of 6 years after meeting my current husband. It wasn't a good breakup, but I started it and I am so very happy I did it, so happy about my...
A. 10 April 2013: I tend to think you have unresolved issues about the ex also.
The opposite of love is not hate. The opposite of love is indifference or ambivalence.
Your reaction to hearing about your ex was swift (you interrupted her)and borderline h... (read in full...)
How do I get my BF to stop living with his parents and marry me and contribute more financially?
Q. My bf and i have been together for just over four years. He knows I eventually want marriage and a family. I am in my late 20s and he is early 30's so we are at that age to seriously start thinking about it etc. He jokes around, but he is probab...
A. 10 April 2013: I agree with Oldbag OP
He lives at home and pays 50 a week, he's not living in the mature grown up world where you are.
Your reasons for not wanting to sell or move are valid and I think that you may find that the relationship is heading ... (read in full...)
Sex after marriage vs sex if in a long term relationship, what is right?
Q. I'm in college, have never slept with anyone/had a boyfriend and I'm still undecided as to whether to do so before I get married (I'm also Christian though I wasn't raised religious). I would never sleep around but at the moment I feel it's unfair ...
A. 10 April 2013: You do realize OP that marriage will not guarantee a lifetime commitment. HOPEFULLY it will but people grow and change and sometimes marriages just don't work out for various reasons.
People often marry without being 100% committed (not saying ... (read in full...)
I don't feel as though the guy I'm seeing is 'allowing' me to open up to him!?
Q. I've been confused for the last few days. I have ongoing family issues that I am dealing with. (Parents divorcing, dad having an affair, dad leaving the country to start a life with the 'other woman') Although this all happened in 2011, it still ...
A. 10 April 2013: Dear OP,
Thank you for your follow up. I can see easily why you are so angry with your dad. And I can’t imagine how angry and hurt you are.
Do you WAIT for your dad to contact you or do you attempt to contact him also? If you have an ... (read in full...)
After five years the cousin thing is a dealbreaker?
Q. so me and my cousin have been together for five years and have lived together for four years... last week he broke up with me because we are cousins. He has known this from the beginning. I thought we were over the cousin drama thing after the first ...
A. 10 April 2013: Well if it's one of his FRIEND'S FAMILY, then he's using it as an excuse.... (read in full...)
I don't feel as though the guy I'm seeing is 'allowing' me to open up to him!?
Q. I've been confused for the last few days. I have ongoing family issues that I am dealing with. (Parents divorcing, dad having an affair, dad leaving the country to start a life with the 'other woman') Although this all happened in 2011, it still ...
A. 10 April 2013: I did NOT say you didn't have a right to be mad.
I did say your dad did not leave you. He's still your dad. You receive calls and emails from him. He's still your dad, he calls you and emails you. I know you are mad that he left your mom and ... (read in full...)
Been dumped by boyfriend - have a few questions on how to move on or how to get him back?
Q. I have been recently dumped by my bf over text with no real explanation. He refuses to reply when I ask for an explanation. One of the reasons may be me recently being needy and constantly calling.I'm trying to move on as this is my only option. I ...
A. 9 April 2013: How long does it take to stop thinking about your ex constantly?
In my experience at least 6 weeks of no contact. I know right now you wake up and he’s the first thing you think of. You think of him constantly. He’s the last thing yo... (read in full...)
I haven't heard from her, can I send a message without seeming desperate?
Q. i've been speaking to this girl on my tumblr and all of a sudden she added 2 x's (xx) at the end of her messages so i did the same then she added a third (xxx) and we've both stuck with 3 we spoke everyday mostly at least 1 message a day as she ...
A. 9 April 2013: don't have relationships through text messages.
clearly you like her and want to get to know her better
pick up the phone and call her and ask her to go get some coffee.
oh wait... if she's LONG DISTANCE (more than a couple of hours)...... (read in full...)
After 4 years I don't feel secure in this relationship. what should I do?
Q. Dear Cupid My bf of 4 years never really appreciates me for anything i do for him. Never compliments me, always expects me to compliment him. Always holds back his love, if i ask him says that if he says how he feels about me or show in his acti...
A. 9 April 2013: I think you need to consider ending the relationship.
are you really ready to never have children?
are you always willing to live on egg shells?
... (read in full...)
How do I get my BF to stop living with his parents and marry me and contribute more financially?
Q. My bf and i have been together for just over four years. He knows I eventually want marriage and a family. I am in my late 20s and he is early 30's so we are at that age to seriously start thinking about it etc. He jokes around, but he is probab...
A. 9 April 2013: I don't think you can make this work if you are not willing to sell or at minimum rent your home out and get a place for the two of you if he's that adamant about it.
Perhaps he has picked this particular battle BECAUSE HE KNOWS you won't co... (read in full...)
I made a big issue of my husband not being able to about his dead mom!
Q. I feel my partner has never properly grieved for his Mother. She passed away when he was 14 after battling with cancer for years but her death came quite suddenly. He has younger brothers who were 10 and 8 at the time. He is now 27. This is litera...
A. 9 April 2013: YOU feel left out. You said "I know it sounds pathetic but I feel the whole family have this big connection or secret and I have no part in knowing."
you do not feel part of the family because of this.
You have no clue how he has grie... (read in full...)
I don't feel as though the guy I'm seeing is 'allowing' me to open up to him!?
Q. I've been confused for the last few days. I have ongoing family issues that I am dealing with. (Parents divorcing, dad having an affair, dad leaving the country to start a life with the 'other woman') Although this all happened in 2011, it still ...
A. 9 April 2013: A couple of things... your dad left your mom NOT you.
this is not about you and it's nearly 2 years ago. IF you can't let it go then you should get some therapy to work on it.
secondly TEXTING is no way to have a relationship and hav... (read in full...)
After five years the cousin thing is a dealbreaker?
Q. so me and my cousin have been together for five years and have lived together for four years... last week he broke up with me because we are cousins. He has known this from the beginning. I thought we were over the cousin drama thing after the first ...
A. 9 April 2013: Someone clearly said SOMETHING to him about it.
Perhaps an inheritance will be withheld if he continues with you....
if you live in a state where first cousins can legally marry (I assume you are first cousins) then legally it's not an ... (read in full...)
Should I welcome him back with open arms...?
Q. Hi I'm back so my man of 5 yrs went to meet his daughter she is 14 they are meeting for the first time he left on 2/12/13 and has been there since. He calls everyday or text to let me know what's going on. My problem is his "baby mama" she wants a ...
A. 16 March 2013: Ya know if he had a flight and she refused to drive him, he could have called a cab or car service. he probably still can do that and go to the airport and they probably will help him get a flight with the unused ticket. I've missed flights ... (read in full...)
Should I welcome him back with open arms...?
Q. Hi I'm back so my man of 5 yrs went to meet his daughter she is 14 they are meeting for the first time he left on 2/12/13 and has been there since. He calls everyday or text to let me know what's going on. My problem is his "baby mama" she wants a ...
A. 14 March 2013: I can see him wanting to spend time with his child and get to know her and make up for lost time
but I still am not comfortable with him going for a month and staying with her and her mother in their home...
staying with friends and seeing h... (read in full...)
Should I welcome him back with open arms...?
Q. Hi I'm back so my man of 5 yrs went to meet his daughter she is 14 they are meeting for the first time he left on 2/12/13 and has been there since. He calls everyday or text to let me know what's going on. My problem is his "baby mama" she wants a ...
A. 12 March 2013: People can live without sex
IF she is trying to get with him, then it's on him to put her in her place.
If he had sex with her, then he was wrong and you have to make a choice
Personally I cannot understand why he's stayed a month with her.... (read in full...)
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