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writes:Is it bad that I'm daydreaming all the time? I'm a college student with average grades, a waitress, have decent family and friends, and I'm single. However I'm constantly daydreaming about my imaginary life. My boyfriend and what we did for Valentine's Day, my job as an English tutor abroad and accompanying trips around Asia, my ideal closet. Nothing extreme or fancy, in fact my imaginations are quite realistic. Thinking about these things makes me happy. It releases endorphins. I guess you could say it's a hobby. Some people put their creativity in art or writing, I do it in my mind. It does not affect my real life which I'm generally satisfied with. I only daydream when I'm alone. When I'm out with friends, working, or studying, it's completely out the door. But my imaginations aren't spontaneous, they're an ongoing story. Perhaps fulfilling what I don't have and what to do - boyfriend, travel, particular type of friends. Any thoughts? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you everyone! So happy to hear I'm not the only one. :)
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (10 April 2013):
 sounds like me.
if it does not negatively impact on your life and it's your down time... enjoy it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2013): I was also always concerned about this habit I had and still have, it's like you say almost a hobby, I create these stories in my mind and it feels so good. I always wondered if I could turn them into books or movies. I am glad I am not the only one.. Dream on.. These days I'm dreaming of Usher and a beach house.. I'm 26 btw.Maybe we daydream about things we lack in our real lives, like for me it's passion and wealth, and it's not like it's unreachable, maybe I'm just comfortable with my current lifestyle and to pursue those things would mean giving up on other great things I have now.. So I day dream about them..Ps. When creativity seems low, something unusual or unexpected happens in my real life, or I actually dream something awesome at night, and I have material for like some time again..
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (10 April 2013):
 If instead than calling it " daydreaming " you call it " creative visualization " or " The Secret " ... you can write books about it, organize lectures and workshops, and become a millionaire self - help guru :).
There's nothing wrong in daydreaming, as long as it does not interfere with your conscious life- work , study, etc., and as long as you don't pass up opportunities in real life ( for relationships or purchases etc. ) waiting for the dream relationship or purchase.
And, I am not newageish enough to tell you that " visualizing " is a foolproof tool to get what you want, but ... yet... curiously, I had spent a lot of time when I was a child and young teen daydreaming about living in California, where I have no reason or way or chances to go, and years later, due to a series of unforeseen circumstances, there I was ,living in L.A, going to the beach in Venice , driving a convertible down Sunset Boulevard etc. like in my daydreams ( In my daydreams I had not included the 6.5 earhquake, but , let's not be finicky :).
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reader, Glacier  +, writes (10 April 2013):
You're not alone in daydreaming. I do it a lot.
I'm kind of a hopeless romantic. Love nature, old music, longing for past times, daydreaming about what I long for.
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