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male
age
30-35,
*bx123
writes:I need some advice!!!! This girl and I have been friends for two years and we've been communicating via text. One day she started flirting with me and eventually I would flirt back. She would say "you know you love me" and I would say "you tell me first" that kind of flirting. Recently I told her I kinda like her and I explain to her I like her not because of what's on the outside, it's more on the inside. I told her I like her because she's ambitious and she's a nice person. Her reply was that she only see me as a valued friend. I told her that "even though I like her I don't want to date her". I don't want to date her because everything we talk about she tells her other friend Even though she likes me as a friend her and I are going to hangout this weekend. It's just weird, because if she only see me as a friend why would she pick up my offer for having dinner with me. Keep in mind that she and I never hung out alone before. Someone told me to still hang out with her and be a complete gentleman and impress her with gesture such as opening the car door for her, opening the restaurant door for her and pulling out her chair. I was told to do that but keep low expectation. Side note: We are a group of friends and her best friend is dating another friend of mine and her best friend has a brother my age who is also a friend and I notice that the brother is trying to get close to the girl I like. What should I do?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (10 April 2013):
 if you like her and you asked her to dinner and she accepted, clearly she likes you too.
I think you are over thinking this.
the problem is you already told her "even though I like you I don't want to date you" isn't that a lie?
if it is I think at dinner you should come clean
so yeah, dress to impress, pick up the tab, be on time, hold the car door, the chair etc...
if nothing happens at least you know you gave it your best shot.
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reader, HelpWithAnwsers  +, writes (10 April 2013):
Well you have to grab her attention and keep it make sure you compliment her and make sure your always there for her
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