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writes:Hello all.My boyfriend does not like the idea of me having a male personal trainer. He is against it and would like me to find a female trainer. But this trainer is giving me the results I want.I had a relationship with my last trainer. It started out that I was his client but we started to see each other outside the sessions and became a couple. My boyfriend knows about that. Could this be why he does not like the idea of another guy trainer? Does he think I have a habit of falling for my trainers?I asked my boyfriend but he will not say why. And whenever I mention I am going to a session with my trainer, he says nothing and goes pretty silent.What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2013): You are asking why your boyfriend wouldn't want you to have a fairly intimate relationship (and they do get intimate) with a fit, muscular guy (most personal trainers have good bodies)and to top it off most are very confident and great with their "social" lives.... Add to that that you have previously dated your last personal trainer... I am not sure why the answer to your question is so hard for you to see.I will change it up a little. What if your boyfriend was a personal trainer? would you feel any jealousy towards his female clients? Would you worry he might get too close with one if in the past he did?I would say that sometimes people need personal trainers until they get motivated, and then they are a waste of money. Someone asked Muhammad Ali how many sit ups and push ups he did a day and he said that he didnt know. He said that he started counting when it started hurting.For me and the gym that was my motivation. That one story was more useful then any personal training sessions.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (10 April 2013):
 If you have asked him what the problem is and he won't tell you, then he has no right to ask you to stop using the trainer you want to use. If he wants you to stop he has to give you a reason.
Yes you have a bad track record since you did once overstep the bounds of trainer/client and date a former trainer but that does not mean you would do it with this guy.
To be honest, once you have learned the routines and established a pattern of going and working out regularly, you can dispense with the expense of a trainer... yes I know it's more fun to have one and it makes you more inclined to work out regularly, but if you are more than 6 months into training with this guy, then maybe you hold on for the wrong reasons.... I hated not having my trainer (and I had a woman) because I get scattered and would find excuses not to go to the gym... but if you are not scattered and a you are dedicated... and it's been more than a couple of months of regular training sessions you can probably save money and go it alone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2013): I think you should ditch your personal trainer. If you really like you boyfriend why make him uncomfortable? If he is jelous of everything thats differnt story.
If you really like, love your boyfriend stop it. Do it without remorse, If you cant you are attached to your trainer. Dot it without remorse. If you cant do it you shouldnt be with your boyfriend. Why make him suffer?
I am not the jelous type and my girfriend just hired a personal trainer one of those monster guys. I can stop thinking about it. I havent said anything yet. She just started. She lives three hours away and see her every few months. I am actually obsessing over this, Daily. I dont really know how to aproach this yet. Because she inettionally picked a male.
If I had a female personal trainer and she didnt like I would stop.
Personal trainers become a close relationshiop with women. It can become a slippery slope very fast.
Think about it you already have a history of personal trainers.
Why not a female they can train just as well?
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (10 April 2013):
 I see his point definitely. However he needs to trust you. If youve cheated on him or done anything else in the past to break trust then id say he has the right to request u get a different trainer. if youve done nothing then he needs to relax. Good luck with ur training.
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