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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:My ex boyfriend was really good looking and popular- known as somewhat of a player. He was that typical bad boy that knew he was adorable and could get away with anything. Girls were ALL over him and thought he was super cute. I really loved him and loved being with him. He pursued me really strongly really quickly. He said all the right things and made me feel special. Then a few months later he was over me and I never heard from him again. I feel ridiculous because I cared so much and he clearly never did. I'm so used to his lies that I don't know what to believe anymore and have over analyzed every aspect of what we had. Also, I deleted him on Facebook, but noticed he and his ex from 3 years ago are friends again. What does that mean? How do I move on and stop playing back the good times we had and how amazing I felt for once? I feel lost now. I don't want him to control my life or have anymore power over me, but it's really hard.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (10 April 2013):
 He's an ex boyfriend. this means he's no longer supposed to be your problem or concern.
him being friends with his ex means NOTHING.
in addition to DELETING him from facebook BLOCK HIM.. .then you see NOTHING of him and can't wonder what's going on or why.
now to help figure out all his good points and bad make two columns on a sheet of paper and write pros and cons over the top of them
on the pro side list all the GOOD things about him... and I am betting you will have plenty and it won't be hard.
now on the CON side list all the bad things about him
can't trust him
his right front tooth is crooked
he has too much back hair
any and everything that sheds him in a bad light... especially focus on the bad times and how sad you felt when he just dumped you after he used you....
then get back to me and let me know how it went and if you still need help getting over him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2013): You have very clearly said that he lied to you. I know the world is completely nuts at this point, but lies are still frowned upon. How far would your relationship have gone if it was based on lies? Lies pass when things are superficial.
You were scammed. Understand it, digest it and come to terms with it. Now you know what to look for next time.
Actions ALWAYS speak louder than words and much, much louder than facebook.
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