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| | *o_Very_Confused's profile:I've got the life experience to be wise for others, not so wise for myself. A degree in psych doesn't hurt either. So when I respond to people while I may just give advice, I'm more inclined to ask you questions that make you think and make you HURT and figure out what to do....
Choices I make are made on years of experience and may not be the best choices for YOU but what I do and what I advise may be two different things. Like I've said I KNOW what's the BEST thing to do and do not always choose to do what's BEST for me.
My primary interests include age gap relationships where the woman is older than the man... I am 13 years older than my future husband... I am also currently very interested in 12 step programs and addiction and recovery
and Long distance relationships...
I also understand alternative lifestyles as I was a "swinger" in my last marriage and I am a bisexual woman although currently I am just with my one male partner by choice...
NEVER STAY WHERE YOU ARE UNHAPPY NO MATTER WHAT. DO not make the same mistakes I made.
Rules:
IF YOU HAVE AN UNEASY FEELING IT'S FOR A GOOD REASON.. listen to that little voice
NEVER EVER trust a liar. IF they lied once, they could lie again. IF you dont' trust them there's a reason for it. LISTEN to it.
IF you have to ASK if you should leave... just do it.
We don't know WHY someone did something... only why WE would do it... so you have to ASK THEM.
IF you are afraid to ASK your PARTNER anything.. it's not a good relationship and you should probably end it.
IF he only calls when he's horny at 2 am you are a booty call nothing more....
Old cliches:
Women need a reason to have sex; men just need a place
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When to reveal a disability during online dating?
Q. I have a disability, cerebral palsy. Unlike some other people with cerebral palsy, I am not in a wheelchair, I run my own business. I have been exchanging messages with a girl on Match.com now for three weeks (only small messages.) So: 1) When s...
A. 20 May 2013: I'm so sorry OP but it sounds like she HOPED she would be able to find someone to distract her from her divorce and now she realizes it's not fair to you.
I would not get my hopes up with her any more.... (read in full...)
I'm afraid of people judging us over the age difference
Q. Im 21 and my boyfriend is 62. I am falling in love with him. When we go out Im a little nervous about people staring or asking questions. How do I get over this? He is the most amazing man I have ever met. Hes so patient, kind, and understanding. He ...
A. 17 May 2013: OP no one is angry with you.
We really do want everyone here to be happy healthy and whole.
Sometimes with age and experience comes wisdom that we could not imagine ourselves at your age. I know it has for me. And every day I get older, I l... (read in full...)
When to reveal a disability during online dating?
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A. 13 May 2013: YOu need to WAIT till she is no longer living with her estranged husband. At this point she is legally married and living with her spouse. Something she should have told you from the get go.... (read in full...)
I'm afraid of people judging us over the age difference
Q. Im 21 and my boyfriend is 62. I am falling in love with him. When we go out Im a little nervous about people staring or asking questions. How do I get over this? He is the most amazing man I have ever met. Hes so patient, kind, and understanding. He ...
A. 9 May 2013: OP, he is 62 with children that are young for his age. I assume their mother is also YOUNGER than he is by a bit…. In which case, carry on as happy as you can be but look closely at why his last relationship ended…. Does he TARGET younger women? ... (read in full...)
Is he still interested in me or is he saying this out of guilt or politeness??
Q. My ex who dumped me and moved interstate calls me a couple of times a week. I am getting mixed messages. When he phoned the last time we had a good chat about general stuff and he said it was really good to hear my voice and he said if I need a...
A. 7 May 2013: I doubt he has any real feelings and is just being nice.
my advice is that if you still have feelings for him, you must go NO CONTACT to help yourself heal.
... (read in full...)
He is drunk every day and flirts with others. Does this mean he'll cheat while I am in hospital giving birth? Or am I having pregnancy paranoia?
Q. if a man is drunk every day and will flirt in front of you. Does this mean he is likely to cheat when you're not there? I am weeks away from giving birth so i am not very attractive at the moment. not sure if it's pregnancy paranoia or not......
A. 7 May 2013: He may cheat… he may not… flirting is not cheating. I flirt all the time, I would never cheat. I would sooner ask permission or tell before I did it.
BTW pregnant women FEEL unattractive with good reason but they glow and are very attracti... (read in full...)
How can I get over him? I need to get over him. He's a player and I'm starting to feel he treats me like a booty call.
Q. This question and the content inside is bizarre and I know that, thats why I need help. I like my cousin a lot and I really want to learn how to stop I want to learn how to stop thinking of him sexually and being in a relationship all that stuff. ...
A. 7 May 2013: he's a predator and a player and at 16/17 you are yourself not equipped to handle his BS
you MUST tell your parents he is preying on your sister.
if you tell him to back off he'll think you are jealous.
same for her... but he's using bo... (read in full...)
Is it flirting? Being drunk? What kind of behavior is this?
Q. If a bloke is out getting drunk every day without you. then when you are there he drunkenly flirts with everyone ,that makes him a flirt. right? harmless drunken flirt. But if he ignores you and later on when u pull him outside to ask him to st...
A. 7 May 2013: my husband is an alcoholic. He drinks regularly to black out mode... I still HOLD HIM RESPONSIBLE FOR HIS BEHAVIOR.
it does not matter if it's "flirting" or if there is more there... if his behavior bothers you, that's all that matters.
... (read in full...)
Nothing seems to turn me on anymore. Is it my age?
Q. My husband and I have been married for 24 years and have always had an active sex life together, at least 3 to 4 times a week even while he's been truck driving and is only home 3 nights a week, it's still 3-4 times a week. In all these years I can ...
A. 7 May 2013: Yep welcome to middle age.... I can only have orgasms from clitoral stimulation and it has to be very precise so it's not something my partner can give me... and even I have found that it takes me longer and longer... my BFF is 6 years older than ... (read in full...)
Has my boyfriend broken up without telling me? He owes me money!
Q. Dear Cupid My bf (or ex) of 3 years was very abusive lately (verbally), we had a fight, actually to be precise he called me names and stormed out of my apartment. He said he's getting bored with me, i tried hard to make myself interesting to hi...
A. 7 May 2013: NEVER change yourself for someone else... only change for you... that's rule one...
fights are one thing, being abusive is a different issue... calling names is abusive.
IF he's bored with you, well then it's time to leave.
I would perso... (read in full...)
Your thoughts please? Do men see women differently to how women see themselves?
Q. Hey aunts and uncles. I have been wondering about something for a while, and would like your opinions on it. My question is, do men see women differently than women see themselves? The reason I ask is because a lot of my female family members...
A. 7 May 2013: Yep the new dove ads are rocking... I would love to do that to see how I see myself vs how say my husband and other friends see me. I am sure I am way more critical of myself than others.
hubby and i were sitting together last week and I realiz... (read in full...)
I'm afraid of people judging us over the age difference
Q. Im 21 and my boyfriend is 62. I am falling in love with him. When we go out Im a little nervous about people staring or asking questions. How do I get over this? He is the most amazing man I have ever met. Hes so patient, kind, and understanding. He ...
A. 7 May 2013: The one thing you have to have when in an age gap relationship is a thick skin. Folks will stare. They will point, and talk… and wonder. If it bothers you, then you are not built for an age gap relationship. Truthfully even with the man being ... (read in full...)
When to reveal a disability during online dating?
Q. I have a disability, cerebral palsy. Unlike some other people with cerebral palsy, I am not in a wheelchair, I run my own business. I have been exchanging messages with a girl on Match.com now for three weeks (only small messages.) So: 1) When s...
A. 7 May 2013: why wait till half term? why not ask about this weekend?... (read in full...)
Gift ideas (Adult toys)
Q. I'm looking for gift ideas for my wife. Sex toys in particular. Background: We've been married for 12 years now. The number of times she's had an orgasm in the first 11 years was less than 11! Even when I went down on her. Last year we moved to...
A. 7 May 2013: OP,
If you have a shower head in your home now it's very VERY easy to swap it out with a hand held. I did it myself in my apartments. they cost next to nothing (I've seen them here as cheap as ten dollars) and it takes maybe 20 minutes if you d... (read in full...)
Is he reluctant to marry me?
Q. Hi aunts and uncles:) I am needing some honest advise here about my boyfriend. We dated for one year and have been living together for almost another year this coming June. So we have been together for almost two years now. I was married in t...
A. 6 May 2013: If you give him an ultimatum and he marries you, will you be happy... is it the marriage you want or is it him WANTING to marry you?
My dad has been with his partner for over 17 years. He will not marry her. but I introduce her as my stepmom a... (read in full...)
Am I too short to find a boyfriend?
Q. I'm 17 now, and throughout my childhood I realized I grew much slower than the others. I used to be the shortest among my (same-age) friends, and basically I felt like I've stopped grwoing in these 2 years. So now I'm only 4'11, 90 pounds. ...
A. 6 May 2013: No you are NOT too short. My grandmothers were both 5 feet tall… both had taller husbands and my father turned out to be 6’2 with a 4’11” sister. My mom was 5’2”
Guys actually like short girls a lot of the time… and you can date a 5’5” guy and ... (read in full...)
Needy Family. Anyone out there with similar experiences to me?
Q. I'm not sure if this is the right website to ask this... My wife and son never seem to let me be alone and do what I like. I leave house at 7am and come back at 7pm. As soon as I arrive they surround me and want my full attention. They talk endles...
A. 6 May 2013: ah the dreaded 'detox time'
growing up I knew my dad left the house at 6:30 and returned at 6 pm you could set the clock by it.
dinner was at 6:30. He went upstairs and changed out of his suit and had "private time" in the bathroom with... (read in full...)
Gift ideas (Adult toys)
Q. I'm looking for gift ideas for my wife. Sex toys in particular. Background: We've been married for 12 years now. The number of times she's had an orgasm in the first 11 years was less than 11! Even when I went down on her. Last year we moved to...
A. 6 May 2013: I agree it's a private thing and taking her shopping is a better idea...
I can say that I love my pocket rocket or maybe a jack rabbit would be interesting for her
to be honest a clitoral stimulator will NOT have an anal option so you wi... (read in full...)
Does the number of people you sleep with have any effect on you later in life?
Q. I am just wondering if the number of people you sleep with has any psychological or emotional effect on you later. I am not talking 3 or 4 partners. I mean, like, say 50 partners. My best bud is dating seriously a girl who has slept around qui...
A. 6 May 2013: NOT your worry or your place to worry. He's a grown up and can make his own choices. AND you are not privy to their private moments... just what he tells you or you ferret out.
FWIW I have slept with more than 100 people both male and female a... (read in full...)
I always end up paying for my fiancee!
Q. im always ending up paying for my fiancee,we r together for 8 months and i know he loves me and i love him too,but this is just making me sad.he is financially irresponsible and he earns almost 3 times more than me but cant even make it to his ...
A. 6 May 2013: why at 18-21 are you engaged after a mere 8 months?
If he is financially irresponsible now what makes you think that after marriage things will change?
If he is manipulative that' will not change.
you love him and he's sweet and lovin... (read in full...)
When do I tell someone I am dating that I cannot ever have children.
Q. I am an 19 year old female, I have just met a guy who I have started dating, we have been on 1 date, but been talking for months. Last year I found out that I can never have children, when should I tell him this? I have been thinking I should tell ...
A. 6 May 2013: my very dear gf is 32. at 19 she too was told that she could not have children.
She married and for TEN years did not use birth control. She did not get married. she had gastric bypass surgery and used birth control for 18 months as required... (read in full...)
Why can't he tell her to move on 2 years after they broke up?
Q. Hello everyone, I´m with my bf almost 2 years, everything´s great, but one thing. My bf´s been always friends with his ex of 4 years..It always bothered me. And finally, after almost year and a half that I hated her I had to really speak about her ...
A. 6 May 2013: what does he do with these letters (email I assume) if he ignores them and does not reply then just let it go.
IF he answers her daily he's egging her on and you have every right to say write to her daily or be with me... YOUR choice. ... (read in full...)
Should I contact an ex who hurt me for answers and possibly to get him back
Q. I was in a 1 and a half relationship and ended it last year March because my boyfriend was behaving badly He was flirting with other women. I expressed my distaste with this behavior and suspected that he was doing more than flirting with two other ...
A. 6 May 2013: Yes you got played. Live and learn. NO MORE thinking of him, no contact with him. no wondering what MIGHT have been.
it's over and done.
You want closure. You have it. It’s over between you and him, he just never was that into you. “Why ... (read in full...)
HE wouldn't tell me if I'm his girlfriend, what should I do?
Q. I've met a guy 7months ago. We've been sleeping together we text each other everyday he calls sometimes. 5months ago i told him that i want a serious relationship. So i asked him where do i stand with you? Am i your girlfriend? And he could'nt give ...
A. 6 May 2013: you asked and he's GONE... that's your answer honey.
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How long after our break up should I wait to ask her how she is doing?
Q. I broke up with my gf of 2 years yesterday. We both parted saying that we love each other a lot but she is not sure if she wants to commit to me cause she is 10 years younger. She is afraid we might not want the same things even though we have ...
A. 6 May 2013: As long as humanly possible.
there is NO need for ex partners to be friends or in touch unless you have children together.
make a clean break and move on if you can.... (read in full...)
If 20% of the relationship is bad, and 80% is good, is it worth it?
Q. Hypothetical situation, curious what everyone's tolerance level is. If in a relationship, 20% of the time, you and your partner were either fighting, not speaking to each other, or "sad" with each other and the rest of the time, 80%, is perfectly ...
A. 6 May 2013: I was trying to figure out how to explain this… Cerberus has a good post on this. My husband and I are VERY volatile. We fight, we are loud and almost daily there are loud words in our home. But we were both raised in screaming, door slamming ... (read in full...)
Should you be worried if your partner says they don't know why they love you?
Q. So I hear recently from a radio advice guru on love that it is always important to ask your partner WHY he or she loves you. If they can't tell you...then it's a cause for concern. The reason he said that is that often infatuation is mistaken for ...
A. 6 May 2013: Ok I was going to answer with this:
Really? So if my husband can’t articulate WHY he LOVES me it’s cause for concern even if I KNOW he loves me and he SHOWS me he loves me?
But I love YouWish so much I have to say that. She’s right. Th... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to date him if I still chat with his ex-wife?
Q. So this may be drawn out but I feel like I need to include as much info as I can. My ex and I are currently going through a divorce. We have been separated for 1.5 yr and were married 7 years. During our relationship we became close with an old ...
A. 6 May 2013: I don't think it's WRONG (not legally or morally) but it could be awkward.... these guys are friends from college.
I would consider meeting him for the drink and as friends see what's what.
IF you two think dating is in the cards for you, i... (read in full...)
We've run our course, but our holiday abroad is imminent. I don't want to hurt her. What should I do?
Q. So very confused. I will keep this as short as I can... I have been in a relationship for 1 1/2 years, but I feel it has run its course. She is a great girl, I still like her very much, but I don't see a future with her and haven't for quit...
A. 6 May 2013: Look you were honest.
she knows where you stand
go on holiday with her... have fun
talk about the wonderful Memories you will have of her years from now from the vacation (to make it very clear that you have no intent of staying when it... (read in full...)
He says he is not verbally affectionate or "open", but he used to be before. Am I asking for too much?
Q. Im 20. He's 21. We are in a long distance "relationship" (I use inverted commas because it isn't at the boyfriend/girlfriend stage yet. We are exclusively dating/seeing each other, but it isn't official, we're progressing to the relation...
A. 6 May 2013: I am not sure how you can be exclusive and NOT be boyfriend and girlfriend but then I’m old and often confused at how young folks date nowadays.
He’s made it clear he’s NOT the man you NEED him to be or WANT him to be. That what you see is what ... (read in full...)
I feel the need to pay him back but don't know how to give hand jobs or blow jobs
Q. HI! I'm starting with a guy that I really really like!! i will move to another country in Europe at the end of June, so Iknow there's not that much time to be with him. I like him a lot and he likes me too and the other day we started kissing and he ...
A. 6 May 2013: YOU DON'T OWE him anything. IF YOU WANT to give him a hand job or a blow job you CAN but it's not a tit for tat thing with sex.
And to be honest most guys would LOVE to be the one to teach you how THEY like it... I will tell you that I hate ... (read in full...)
I Have been seeing my ex-husbands brother ever since my divorce 4 yrs ago
Q. I was married for 15 yrs. my ex cheated on me with his best friends wife. I was a very loyal wife when I was married to him. After my divorse I fell head over heals in love with his brother. we have been seeing one another in secret for 4 yrs now. ...
A. 6 May 2013: I don't think this is a good scenario.
Why are you still keeping it secret after 4 years?
I can see keeping it quiet till you two knew it was serious... but after four years a decision needs to be made.
I sense he's not as committed to the... (read in full...)
I discovered she doesn't shave her legs and it bothers me!
Q. Hello! Well I kinda have a problem. I met this girl online about 3 weeks ago and we've hung out a lot. We decided lastnight that we would be together. Today she ran a marathon and she wore shorts which she hasn't at all since I've known her but I ...
A. 6 May 2013: Maybe she waxes them and she's due for an appointment?
you have to have growth to wax. I much prefer waxing to shaving.
but the best thing to do is talk to her about it. It's an awkward conversation early on in a relationship but if ... (read in full...)
I am extremely unhappy with me weight...can you help?
Q. I am very overweight and i am extremely unhappy with my weight. I am 5'5 and currently weight 122.5kg, i have lost 2 kg but even with exercise and lowered calorie intake it wont shift anymore. When i started loosing weight i lost 3 kg, put on 4, ...
A. 6 May 2013: Losing weight at your age should be easy.
IF you are ACTUALLY taking in less than you are putting out (and do not fall into the trap of over estimating how many calories you are burning during exercise as it’s not all that many) AND the intake ... (read in full...)
Online dating. I'm interested. What should I say in my message?
Q. I asked for advice on using dating sites a few days ago. Now I have a more specific question. There's a guy I'm interested in someone on OKCupid. Should I message him? Why or why not? And if so, what should I say? I'm a bit shy and embarassed about ...
A. 6 May 2013: If you are interested then message him.
ONCE!
let him get back to you and set the tone...
if he gets back to you and it's agreeable then set a time to meet up after 3-5 messages. ... (read in full...)
Between My Head and My Heart. Should I try to make it work with him?
Q. My fiance recently broke off our engagement. He immediately stopped talking to me saying he was unhappy and that he didn't want to change, although he said he loved me. He said he was tired of feeling like he couldn't be happy with me and that he ...
A. 6 May 2013: If you are stuck and scared there is a reason for it. There is nothing wrong with a young healthy fit woman wearing shorts and a bikini top.
The fact that he DELETED you off of facebook and added his ex but did not block you shows he did it t... (read in full...)
Boyfriend broke up with me but we work together and no one knew we were dating!
Q. Dear Cupid My bf of 2 years dumped me thru phone. He was very mean and verbally abusive to me all the time and broke up with me yesterday. We started working in the same office 2 months back. I cant quit my job, noone in office knows we are dat...
A. 6 May 2013: I agree totally with YouWish. He’s been your boyfriend for two years. He’s mean. He’s verbally abusive and he’s chicken shit (breaking up over the phone is the mark of a coward).
IT will pass with time. Best advice. DRESS well. Be well... (read in full...)
Will she come back to me because I can support her and her kids?
Q. I married a philippine women 3.years ago and I.regret that everyday of my life but im glad I discovered she was going to use me for a green card because I.went.back to visit her and.discovered she was sleeping with so many men and I wonder is she ...
A. 6 May 2013: you need a good attorney.... that's the best advice I can give you...
once the divorce is final (and you can get it done without her consent I know I got a divorce from my second disaster without anything from him) then block her and be done.... (read in full...)
I'm attracted to a man 21 years older than me. Could it work?
Q. Hi, I am a 26 year old woman and I find a 45 year old man attractive who barely looks 40, he could pass for late 30s. My question is does anyone know of any successful stories of people with an age gap this big? My ex was 36, we split due to other ...
A. 6 May 2013: How he LOOKS has no bearing on it. How he ACTS and behaves is the issue. I look every inch of 53 and my 39 yr old hubby looks about 30… and no one bats an eye and if they do who cares. I think if anything I care more than my husband does.. he’s ... (read in full...)
Would being involved with his friend's mother make him uncomfortable?
Q. I fell for a guy who is 34 and i am 45,however he is my son's friend . He has not denied his attraction for me ,at first he thought I was his friend's sister :)I really like him a lot,we spoke and we have so much in common i have never met anyone i...
A. 6 May 2013: If he is not comfortable with it, then you can't make it happen.
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How do I negotiate dating a soon to be divorced man with a child?
Q. I started seeing a guy. It started out as a hook up ad we started meeting regularly for BDSM type nights. I'm quite a bit younger than he is and he is in the middle of negotiating a divorce with a young child. I met her a few weeks ago and have seen ...
A. 6 May 2013: I personally think everyone is being a bit hard on you.
It's HIS choice to involve his kids with his friends.
It's not like he makes the kid watch you have sex.
My kids were always involved with friends in my life that came and went and s... (read in full...)
Risk the friendship with former teacher, or risk the whole thing?
Q. I'm about to be a sophomore in College and after a year of getting away from the high school scene, I thought a few feelings for a former teacher would subside, however, I think they've only grown. From my freshman to senior year in high school, ...
A. 6 May 2013: you are over 18 and legal and no longer his student, therefore there in no legal impediment to you being partnered with him. the moral and ethical implications are the concern.
the concern is that his behavior with you WHILE YOU WERE HIS stu... (read in full...)
My girlfriend stayed the night with her ex. I don't know what to do!
Q. My Gf and I have been dating for 7months. Im 19 and she's 20. 2 days ago her ex and some of his friends were in her city and asked her out. The very last minute she left, she told me she'd stay the night with them. (at the time i didn't know her...
A. 3 May 2013: Cheating is more than sex. Emotional cheating in my opinion is worse.
You say you don't' want to lose her but what are you losing? a girl who making you nervous about the relationship? a girl who you clearly don't trust or believe? ... (read in full...)
When I show some weakness like depending him for emotional support or ask him for his help, he pulls back and is disinterested in me.
Q. Dear cupid My bf of 3.5 years talks to me nicely when i pull back i.e doesn't show any interest whatsoever in him, but if when i show some weakness like depending him for emotional support or ask him for his help, he pulls back and is disintere...
A. 3 May 2013: it's human nature to want what we can't have.
I'm betting that the minute you pull back he's afraid he will lose you and he steps up his game but once he is secure that you need him no matter how badly he behaves, he can relax and be himself a... (read in full...)
He's 25 years older than me! Should I just find someone my own age?
Q. Hi, am a young lady of 20 years old and 4months ago I months ago I met a 45year old man. Since then we have been communicating very well, but we don't meet regularly as he doesn't stay in town but works here. He told me he have never been married ...
A. 3 May 2013: I normally am very supportive of age gap relationships but this one raises some flags for me....
1. a man of 45 with a 5 year old... how old is her mother? I'm sensing he targets younger women... NOT GOOD. Never married? was this child PL... (read in full...)
When to reveal a disability during online dating?
Q. I have a disability, cerebral palsy. Unlike some other people with cerebral palsy, I am not in a wheelchair, I run my own business. I have been exchanging messages with a girl on Match.com now for three weeks (only small messages.) So: 1) When s...
A. 2 May 2013: Yes to me it would be important to know you did not drive. but you can explain it quite naturally by saying when you make the plans, I don't drive so can we meet at such and such a place which is near the train station...
My girlfriend is marri... (read in full...)
When to reveal a disability during online dating?
Q. I have a disability, cerebral palsy. Unlike some other people with cerebral palsy, I am not in a wheelchair, I run my own business. I have been exchanging messages with a girl on Match.com now for three weeks (only small messages.) So: 1) When s...
A. 1 May 2013: Sure... you can ask... but I would not ask her to pick you up...
offer to meet her but tell her you need it to be close to public transportation (if you do, I know if i did not drive walking would be difficult for me so I would need to be c... (read in full...)
When to reveal a disability during online dating?
Q. I have a disability, cerebral palsy. Unlike some other people with cerebral palsy, I am not in a wheelchair, I run my own business. I have been exchanging messages with a girl on Match.com now for three weeks (only small messages.) So: 1) When s...
A. 1 May 2013: GOOD LUCK and keep us posted!... (read in full...)
When to reveal a disability during online dating?
Q. I have a disability, cerebral palsy. Unlike some other people with cerebral palsy, I am not in a wheelchair, I run my own business. I have been exchanging messages with a girl on Match.com now for three weeks (only small messages.) So: 1) When s...
A. 1 May 2013: STOP OVER THINKING THIS OP!
you told her in a most lovely way
she responded in KIND
IT sounds like it's going WELL
how far apart are you guys? what's the transportation issue?
why can't you just ask her for dinner or a drink next... (read in full...)
When to reveal a disability during online dating?
Q. I have a disability, cerebral palsy. Unlike some other people with cerebral palsy, I am not in a wheelchair, I run my own business. I have been exchanging messages with a girl on Match.com now for three weeks (only small messages.) So: 1) When s...
A. 26 April 2013: I think you should ask her for coffee soon Very soon. not sure how far Kent is from Crawly but if it's doable meet up
Do you require assistive devices to walk? CP can manifest itself in many ways and I think that the level of your "impair... (read in full...)
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