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| | *o_Very_Confused's profile:I've got the life experience to be wise for others, not so wise for myself. A degree in psych doesn't hurt either. So when I respond to people while I may just give advice, I'm more inclined to ask you questions that make you think and make you HURT and figure out what to do....
Choices I make are made on years of experience and may not be the best choices for YOU but what I do and what I advise may be two different things. Like I've said I KNOW what's the BEST thing to do and do not always choose to do what's BEST for me.
My primary interests include age gap relationships where the woman is older than the man... I am 13 years older than my future husband... I am also currently very interested in 12 step programs and addiction and recovery
and Long distance relationships...
I also understand alternative lifestyles as I was a "swinger" in my last marriage and I am a bisexual woman although currently I am just with my one male partner by choice...
NEVER STAY WHERE YOU ARE UNHAPPY NO MATTER WHAT. DO not make the same mistakes I made.
Rules:
IF YOU HAVE AN UNEASY FEELING IT'S FOR A GOOD REASON.. listen to that little voice
NEVER EVER trust a liar. IF they lied once, they could lie again. IF you dont' trust them there's a reason for it. LISTEN to it.
IF you have to ASK if you should leave... just do it.
We don't know WHY someone did something... only why WE would do it... so you have to ASK THEM.
IF you are afraid to ASK your PARTNER anything.. it's not a good relationship and you should probably end it.
IF he only calls when he's horny at 2 am you are a booty call nothing more....
Old cliches:
Women need a reason to have sex; men just need a place
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When to reveal a disability during online dating?
Q. I have a disability, cerebral palsy. Unlike some other people with cerebral palsy, I am not in a wheelchair, I run my own business. I have been exchanging messages with a girl on Match.com now for three weeks (only small messages.) So: 1) When s...
A. 20 May 2013: I'm so sorry OP but it sounds like she HOPED she would be able to find someone to distract her from her divorce and now she realizes it's not fair to you.
I would not get my hopes up with her any more.... (read in full...)
When to reveal a disability during online dating?
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When to reveal a disability during online dating?
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He's 25 years older than me! Should I just find someone my own age?
Q. Hi, am a young lady of 20 years old and 4months ago I months ago I met a 45year old man. Since then we have been communicating very well, but we don't meet regularly as he doesn't stay in town but works here. He told me he have never been married ...
A. 3 May 2013: I normally am very supportive of age gap relationships but this one raises some flags for me....
1. a man of 45 with a 5 year old... how old is her mother? I'm sensing he targets younger women... NOT GOOD. Never married? was this child PL... (read in full...)
Can a serial monogamist finally really commit?!
Q. My boyfriend has been a serial monogamist - so how do I know I'm just not another woman he commits to for a short period of time ?! He says all the right things - and he's open to having children. He has told me he's "invested" ... We've been dating ...
A. 3 May 2013: OP it's a risk you have to take if you want to take it
FWIW my husband was a total dog before we started.... used escorts, no real relationships in the past... the minute he fell in love at age 37 it was a done deal for him.
we marrie... (read in full...)
Do you think I'm making a mistake? Is it stupid to marry a twice divorced man?
Q. I am nearly 30 and I want to marry a man who is 46. My parents are opposed to the match because he is much older than I am, belongs to a different country and race and primarily because he is twice divorced and is a train driver in the UK. On the...
A. 3 May 2013:
Women don't make the sacrifices unless they WANT to OP
IF he makes the choice to leave his almost grown children that's his choice.
My husband when we were LDR gave up his home, his job, his friends and his life to move to be with me b... (read in full...)
How to approach girl. Will I have to make a random approach on Facebook or is there a better way?
Q. Hey everyone, So a while ago I saw a photo from a female friend of mine on Facebook which was with her and this really attractive girl. Didn't think much of it. Turns out I saw her on the bus going home a few days ago, I couldn't approach he...
A. 2 May 2013: I would ask your mutual friend what her (the girl you are interested in) story is. She may have a boyfriend. She may be a lesbian.
Ask your friend if she thinks her friend would be receptive to meeting you.
BUT be aware that if your friend i... (read in full...)
He's lost interest in me since he's been watching porn, how do I get him to stop?
Q. i am 21 i we've been in relation for around 8 months...he loves me so much...we were very happy ...and he told me many times that he watch porn i didnt care because it didnt show any change in our relationship...recently i saw him watching nude pics ...
A. 2 May 2013: Nora is right. You knew about the porn from the beginning. And as long as it does not affect your relationship you are ok with it. This works for me too.
The title implies that the porn has started being a problem and he’s lost interest in y... (read in full...)
I've just found out my boyfriend has a second child with his ex, I don't think I can deal with him having so many kids but I'm pregnant with his baby! Help!
Q. Just found out my boyfriend has another baby with his first baby mama, they already have a son I knew about. im also 5 months pregnant with his baby, he said he just found out that her daughter is his, he didn't cheat with her the baby was before me ...
A. 2 May 2013: You are not a BADD girl. Do not think that. (can’t help it I read names). Why do you feel like a secret. Do you not see his friends and family? At 5 months you should be starting to show some and it’s ok to be telling people IF he does ... (read in full...)
I was snooping on my boyfriend's phone and found he was looking for 'city over 30's' - was he planning on cheating on me?
Q. I know snooping is wrong but I did it, I snooped on my boyfriends phone and saw his last google search. He was away at a course for the weekend and the city he went to for this course he googled: "city over 30s". I thought he was looking for night ...
A. 2 May 2013: no i don't think it's a big deal
but I would be doing you a disservice if I did not ask you
why don't you trust him?
why do you feel the need to snoop?... (read in full...)
Did my ex love me?
Q. Hi i was just wondering did my ex really love me he would correct everything i said everything i done even stupid things like cleaning my teeth how i tidy up how i hoovered yet he could be so loving he would also call me names quite often and tried ...
A. 2 May 2013: no one knows but your ex if he really loved you.
he called you names.
he criticized you constantly
it's over and done so there is no need to worry about if he did or did not love you. what difference will it make?... (read in full...)
Four years dating on and off and now he says he doesn't care for me in that way??
Q. So I dated this guy for a year and a half but we broke it off cause he were fighting a lot and I would still talk to him or go visit him (lives a little far) then when I finally decided that I couldn't take it anymore, i stopped trying all ...
A. 2 May 2013: I care about my ex-husband but I don't want him as anything other than a very casual friend.
I agree that the only way for you to heal from this is to go no contact with him. YOU can't begin to heal as long as you are hanging on to a useless... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants other women to touch him?!
Q. i've been in relationship with s for more then 5 years. it wasn't easy all this while. but i stayed strong cause he never bring in any girls. last year an incident happen where he lied to me and went outstation with his working friend female. after ...
A. 2 May 2013: I’m sorry you have been with him for 5 years. It must be hard to gather the strength you need to leave this guy.
Last year (so four years into your relationship) you caught him for the first time in a lie. This may be the first time he lied or ... (read in full...)
Why don't girls like compliments?
Q. Hi, I'm 25 years old,and had quite the reputation about dating women which I am not proud of but I was never in love hence played the field.. About 2 years ago I started dating this beautiful girl,she is beutiful inside out,has a heart of gold an...
A. 2 May 2013: I love when my husband compliments me in private.
IF he did to me what you did to your gf I'd be embarrassed and upset with him too. I'm not a possession and I'm not on his arm to make him look good
what goes on between us is private no need ... (read in full...)
I'm so tired of my mother!
Q. Ok well, this is pushing me to the limit I can't handle this any more I think there is some thing wrong with my mom. She wakes up at 330am every morning because she makes coffee right next to my room because the kitchen is next to my room, so ...
A. 2 May 2013: Wow. Are you always so angry op? There is no law so that you can sleep. There is a noise ordinance in most places but that’s about it. So maybe you are confused by this. You btw did NOT say you were concerned about your mom. Let me recap what ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend's father a deal breaker for us?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend 2 and a half years, we are both 25 years old. We have our problems, but I really need advice on one thing that's incidentally not his fault, as i'm not sure whether it's a deal breaker or not.. We've been living toge...
A. 2 May 2013: Your boyfriend surely has inherited his father’s DNA. He may not have that behavior but the predisposition towards anything that is causing the problems is possible. It’s very possible if there is mental illness in the family (and co-dependency ... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin and my boyfriend is not and I feel that if I give him my virginity, I'm giving him a claim on me but I won't have any significant claim to him.
Q. Hi so I have a little conflict with myself right now and I don't really know what to do. I happen to be 17 turning 18 and my boyfriend is 19 turning 20 and lately we've been discussing the topic of lovemaking. For starters I do know that I am too ...
A. 2 May 2013: IF you are planning on waiting STOP TALKING ABOUT IT. That’s the first rule… the more you talk about it the less important it becomes. We become desensitized to things we see and talk about a lot… violence, drugs, sex.
STOP asking him abou... (read in full...)
My ex looks sad but I'm happy I ended things!
Q. Well as many of you know I've been having issues with my so called boyfriend .. Well me and him aren't together any longer and I feel good but then again really lonely. I go out with family and friends to get my mind off things but today I saw him ...
A. 2 May 2013: Congrats on being strong. The loneliness and sadness will pass for both of you.
... (read in full...)
Why has my boyfriend stopped expressing his feelings towards me?
Q. Hey guys, I am 23 years old, and my boyfriend is 22, we have been together for almost 2 years. I have been noticing that he isn't expressing his feelings as well as he used to. Our second anniversary is coming up, and I don't even feel like h...
A. 2 May 2013: It’s been two years… you guys are pretty young and at this point it settles down and life becomes routine.
IF you want more hugs than he wants to give you, then you either have to ask for them or you have to do without. My hubby and I go in sp... (read in full...)
Is it wrong that I'm falling for my step uncle?
Q. I think im falling for my step uncle. Is it wrong? and his uncle is my step dad. Its complicated. But no blood whatsoever....
A. 2 May 2013: The age difference is fine and not the problem.
if you are single and he is single and you think the family can cope and you both are wanting it and willing to deal with the family backlash then I see no problem here.
What happens if you t... (read in full...)
The longer I'm with my b/f the more I worry about his past
Q. Here's my problem...i need to know how i can stop worrying about my past. Im 19 and in my second sexual relationship....i feel each to their own but my personal feel about sex is that it is something to be done with someone you love..i never had a ...
A. 2 May 2013: Since I do not experience RJ in any way shape or form, I’m not good at this questions. I just want to ask you why having meaningless sex with sports groupies (who if he bought them dinner and/or drinks it means he paid for something) makes it ... (read in full...)
Sometimes he can be the sweetest person I know and sometimes he can act like a complete and utter pig.
Q. It's driving me mad. There this bloke that I really, really like. Sometimes he can be the sweetest person I know. He laughs at my jokes and I laugh at his. We've got quite a bit in common and I have known him now for 5 years. Sometimes though h...
A. 2 May 2013: nope he's not keen on you
you are a friend nothing more ... (read in full...)
I want to tell him I'm in love with him but am worried I may be saying it too soon. What does everyone think?
Q. My boyfriend and I met online. We have been together for almost 2 months now. I am in love with him and I'm pretty sure he feels the same about me. We haven't actually said it yet. Is it the guys job or the girls? He is turning 31 this year, he...
A. 2 May 2013: Two months dating is not a lot of time. Still in the early honeymoon stages. You ask if it’s the guys job or the girls job to say “I LOVE YOU”. It’s no one’s JOB. IF you feel it you say it. But I am betting you are at infatuation at this ... (read in full...)
How do I get my boyfriend to stop yelling at me all the time?
Q. So, my boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and in the beginning he would never yell at me, but now it's like everything I do is wrong. I can't talk to certain people otherwise he gets really angry and threatens to leave me, if I don't do ...
A. 2 May 2013: IN the beginning they never yell or hit. He’s progressed to yelling. Hitting is probably not far behind. How much abuse are you willing to take from this man? Because he is abusing you.
NOT permitting you to talk to certain people is controll... (read in full...)
Do you think I'm making a mistake? Is it stupid to marry a twice divorced man?
Q. I am nearly 30 and I want to marry a man who is 46. My parents are opposed to the match because he is much older than I am, belongs to a different country and race and primarily because he is twice divorced and is a train driver in the UK. On the...
A. 2 May 2013: if he sees his kids on the weekends and he moves to be with you he will be giving up seeing his kids... he's willing to do that?... (read in full...)
I have a light patch on my upper lip and I don't know what to do about it
Q. Hey, I thank anyone in advance who takes the time to read this and answer it, because it's a rather small problem yet it greatly affects my self confidence. See, I grow a bit of facial hair above my lip and I remove it no problem with waxing stri...
A. 2 May 2013: I have waxed my upper lip, chin and eyebrows regularly for more years than you have been on this earth. I do not have any discolored patches from waxing. I do not think that the waxing is causing the discoloration.
I do have spots on my arms ... (read in full...)
I wonder if my boyfriend is more interested in games than me?
Q. i'm unsure what to and could please use some help. my boyfriend and i have been together for almost 3 months although not the first time we've been together. we were together but not a couple in the past a few years back but then he got back ...
A. 2 May 2013: OP,
I’ll take a shot at it…
He doesn’t work and he plays games all the time and I assume is is also 22-25. The time has come to put away his childish games. (At least somewhat) I agree. My husband is an avid gamer…online and board games. We ... (read in full...)
Should I trust my instinct regarding this Medium and let it give me comfort, or am I being ripped off?
Q. I'm hoping all you good people can help me. I was very close to my nan who dies last year and I haven't really gotten over her loss yet. As a result i've been seeing a medium for the last few week who charges around £30 per sitting. My Boyfriend i...
A. 2 May 2013: Maisy you would be better served spending your money on a counselor to help you work through your grief.
Your boyfriend is right. (And I also hold a degree in psychology). In addition, I read Tarot cards and could easily give you a reading ... (read in full...)
Does it mean my LDR is over?
Q. My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship. We talk about our future plans sometimes and decided to live together in Aug. He studies abroad and has a part-time job. He has to work almost every day so he can afford the rent and other ...
A. 2 May 2013: Op I read your updates last night… thankfully I go back and check questions I’ve answered to see if folks have replied or I would have missed your follow ups.
His text of “it’s nice talking to you let’s try to keep talking things not always o... (read in full...)
Porn discretion for men, how to prevent porn ever becoming an issue in your relationship.
Q. (Disclaimer: This article is not about lying to your partner. If you using porn in a relationship is a deal-breaker for her and has become a problem then this is not an article for you to break the conditions of your relationship by using these tips ...
A. 2 May 2013: Pr3tty_in_pink86 said:
“Not sure if I entirely agree as they have been cleared up and not going to cause harm to the other person.”
No the cleared up STDS won’t cause harm but the BEHAVIOR that enabled the person to CATCH the STD may cause ha... (read in full...)
When to reveal a disability during online dating?
Q. I have a disability, cerebral palsy. Unlike some other people with cerebral palsy, I am not in a wheelchair, I run my own business. I have been exchanging messages with a girl on Match.com now for three weeks (only small messages.) So: 1) When s...
A. 2 May 2013: Yes to me it would be important to know you did not drive. but you can explain it quite naturally by saying when you make the plans, I don't drive so can we meet at such and such a place which is near the train station...
My girlfriend is marri... (read in full...)
Porn discretion for men, how to prevent porn ever becoming an issue in your relationship.
Q. (Disclaimer: This article is not about lying to your partner. If you using porn in a relationship is a deal-breaker for her and has become a problem then this is not an article for you to break the conditions of your relationship by using these tips ...
A. 1 May 2013: Here I go thinking like a man again. (I SWEAR I'm a woman)
STDs should be disclosed even if they are cleared up
But to be honest I agree with Cerberus on the porn issue.
IF porn BOTHERS a woman it's incumbent on HER to say somethin... (read in full...)
Does it mean my LDR is over?
Q. My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship. We talk about our future plans sometimes and decided to live together in Aug. He studies abroad and has a part-time job. He has to work almost every day so he can afford the rent and other ...
A. 1 May 2013: you wait as long as you can/want
Me personally I would not wait more than two weeks.... (read in full...)
When to reveal a disability during online dating?
Q. I have a disability, cerebral palsy. Unlike some other people with cerebral palsy, I am not in a wheelchair, I run my own business. I have been exchanging messages with a girl on Match.com now for three weeks (only small messages.) So: 1) When s...
A. 1 May 2013: Sure... you can ask... but I would not ask her to pick you up...
offer to meet her but tell her you need it to be close to public transportation (if you do, I know if i did not drive walking would be difficult for me so I would need to be c... (read in full...)
Do you think I'm making a mistake? Is it stupid to marry a twice divorced man?
Q. I am nearly 30 and I want to marry a man who is 46. My parents are opposed to the match because he is much older than I am, belongs to a different country and race and primarily because he is twice divorced and is a train driver in the UK. On the...
A. 1 May 2013: No need to convince your dad you are an adult and can do what you wish. If you want to marry him it sounds like it' will be fine.
I will tell you that it may be fine and you two will live happily ever after... but with two bad marriages behind h... (read in full...)
Why the comments on my shorts this year?
Q. I live in Michigan and it is starting to warm up out here. On Saturday I wore my shorts (they are a short athletic style) and a t-shirt. I had some errands to run and some of the looks and comments I got were very strong like Hey Baby nice ass! and ...
A. 1 May 2013: maybe your ass got nicer over the winter?... (read in full...)
My parents want me to go to the prom but I don't want to go!
Q. My class senior prom is coming up. My parents are trying to pressure me to go but I just do not want to go since none of my friends are going. My friends and I are having a pool party at one of my friends house instead (cheaper and don...
A. 1 May 2013: probably not till prom is over....
Going to PROM is a rite of passage and it is (or was) a huge deal for many of us many years ago... and for some it still is.
and if you ask folks who did not go to their proms, many of them have regret... (read in full...)
Is my ex thinking of me? She broke up with me
Q. Hello, I get block phone calls, cell phone, ever since my ex broke up with me, I have not bother her , she broke my heart, but I walk away, am back with my ex before her, I think she must of look into my cell phone, when I took a shower at her ...
A. 1 May 2013: Why does it matter? would you dump your current girlfriend to get back with the ex?
... (read in full...)
I am crushing on my coach/teacher. Help!!
Q. Hi there. I have a crush on my soccer coach, who is also a relief teacher at my school. He took quite a few of my classes last year, and i knew the first time i saw him that i liked him. Now, Im 16, and he is about 24. (i asked him last year). ...
A. 1 May 2013: OP said "and it was a moment longer than we should have, know what i mean?"
I know what YOU want it to mean. It doesn't mean that. It means you have a crush and you will see ANYTHING he does or says in your direction as a hint or a clue th... (read in full...)
How do I ask him in a nonchalant way what he expects from our next date?
Q. I have been on 3 dates with this guy and things are going smooth,he suggested our next date should be at his 'apartment'..we haven't had sex or made out yet we r just in 'getting to know each other' phase..he sent me a text earlier today saying 'so ...
A. 1 May 2013: NOPE he does NOT want to WATCH a movie at his place.... he wants to see more of your gorgeous face and BODY....
I'd decline an at home date till you know him better and are sure you are willing to be physical with him.... (read in full...)
They stare at me! Does it mean they are interested?
Q. I like a guy and used to look at him. He got to know about it and started giving me the same attention. Now, he always looks confidently into my eyes with a smile and never misses to look if I'm around. When I look back, he holds the eye contact ...
A. 1 May 2013: It might. It might mean he wonders why you look at him and he stares at you to see if you will break first... it may just be a game to him.
how do you know you like HIM (rather than how he looks) if you have never talked to him?... (read in full...)
Can a serial monogamist finally really commit?!
Q. My boyfriend has been a serial monogamist - so how do I know I'm just not another woman he commits to for a short period of time ?! He says all the right things - and he's open to having children. He has told me he's "invested" ... We've been dating ...
A. 1 May 2013: only time will tell.
does he have any diagnosis such as ADHD? if he does, be cautious about the relationship. ADHD is not just about attention but there is a huge social component and it impacts very negatively on relationships.... (read in full...)
Is it wrong that I'm falling for my step uncle?
Q. I think im falling for my step uncle. Is it wrong? and his uncle is my step dad. Its complicated. But no blood whatsoever....
A. 1 May 2013: you are falling for your "step-cousin" he is the nephew of your stepdad....
is he falling for you or is this a mad crush?
how often do you all see each other at family events....
it's not illegal but it may set some family members on e... (read in full...)
I thought we were getting into a relationship, but she sees it as 'just friends'
Q. Hi guys I wonder if you can offer me some advice regarding this matter. I have known this woman for quite a few years and we use to work together. In this time we were nothing more than friends. In the past year we have become close and have s...
A. 1 May 2013: You tell her you can't handle being FWB and that you want more so you have to walk away.
that's how you handle it.
everyone else is right... she wanted some companionship, some fun and games and you did not.
If she lead you ON to b... (read in full...)
Do you think I'm making a mistake? Is it stupid to marry a twice divorced man?
Q. I am nearly 30 and I want to marry a man who is 46. My parents are opposed to the match because he is much older than I am, belongs to a different country and race and primarily because he is twice divorced and is a train driver in the UK. On the...
A. 1 May 2013: I don't think the mistake is his prior divorces...
the issues are his age, religion and location to me.
while i normally find age gaps acceptable a 46 yr old man is already heading down the hill while a 30 year old woman is still climbing ... (read in full...)
When to reveal a disability during online dating?
Q. I have a disability, cerebral palsy. Unlike some other people with cerebral palsy, I am not in a wheelchair, I run my own business. I have been exchanging messages with a girl on Match.com now for three weeks (only small messages.) So: 1) When s...
A. 1 May 2013: GOOD LUCK and keep us posted!... (read in full...)
When to reveal a disability during online dating?
Q. I have a disability, cerebral palsy. Unlike some other people with cerebral palsy, I am not in a wheelchair, I run my own business. I have been exchanging messages with a girl on Match.com now for three weeks (only small messages.) So: 1) When s...
A. 1 May 2013: STOP OVER THINKING THIS OP!
you told her in a most lovely way
she responded in KIND
IT sounds like it's going WELL
how far apart are you guys? what's the transportation issue?
why can't you just ask her for dinner or a drink next... (read in full...)
Does it mean my LDR is over?
Q. My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship. We talk about our future plans sometimes and decided to live together in Aug. He studies abroad and has a part-time job. He has to work almost every day so he can afford the rent and other ...
A. 30 April 2013: it may be over or it may be that you are overwhelming him with your neediness.
there are days my husband and I talk 3 or 4 times when it's a bad day for one of us... and there are days we don't talk even ten minutes and we live in the same hou... (read in full...)
I'm so tired of my mother!
Q. Ok well, this is pushing me to the limit I can't handle this any more I think there is some thing wrong with my mom. She wakes up at 330am every morning because she makes coffee right next to my room because the kitchen is next to my room, so ...
A. 30 April 2013: I wake up most mornings at 3:30 and I’m not cheating on anyone. It’s a joyful function of being a middle aged woman sadly.
You say she is doing or is on something? She is cheating ON US? Who is this US you speak of? If you are mad at y... (read in full...)
When to reveal a disability during online dating?
Q. I have a disability, cerebral palsy. Unlike some other people with cerebral palsy, I am not in a wheelchair, I run my own business. I have been exchanging messages with a girl on Match.com now for three weeks (only small messages.) So: 1) When s...
A. 26 April 2013: I think you should ask her for coffee soon Very soon. not sure how far Kent is from Crawly but if it's doable meet up
Do you require assistive devices to walk? CP can manifest itself in many ways and I think that the level of your "impair... (read in full...)
Porn discretion for men, how to prevent porn ever becoming an issue in your relationship.
Q. (Disclaimer: This article is not about lying to your partner. If you using porn in a relationship is a deal-breaker for her and has become a problem then this is not an article for you to break the conditions of your relationship by using these tips ...
A. 8 January 2013: To HappyPlace, I've never had a man lie to me about porn. They watch it. I'm ok with it. Why LIE?
MEN who have to lie about porn are with women who find it unacceptable. Since there are men out there that do not watch porn, and there ar... (read in full...)
Porn discretion for men, how to prevent porn ever becoming an issue in your relationship.
Q. (Disclaimer: This article is not about lying to your partner. If you using porn in a relationship is a deal-breaker for her and has become a problem then this is not an article for you to break the conditions of your relationship by using these tips ...
A. 14 December 2012: Person12345, with all due respect (and when it comes to this topic I bow to you as the expert here at DC) isn't this lie of omission only going to occur if the woman does not take responsibility for her feelings and let the man know early on in the ... (read in full...)
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