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| | *o_Very_Confused's profile:I've got the life experience to be wise for others, not so wise for myself. A degree in psych doesn't hurt either. So when I respond to people while I may just give advice, I'm more inclined to ask you questions that make you think and make you HURT and figure out what to do....
Choices I make are made on years of experience and may not be the best choices for YOU but what I do and what I advise may be two different things. Like I've said I KNOW what's the BEST thing to do and do not always choose to do what's BEST for me.
My primary interests include age gap relationships where the woman is older than the man... I am 13 years older than my future husband... I am also currently very interested in 12 step programs and addiction and recovery
and Long distance relationships...
I also understand alternative lifestyles as I was a "swinger" in my last marriage and I am a bisexual woman although currently I am just with my one male partner by choice...
NEVER STAY WHERE YOU ARE UNHAPPY NO MATTER WHAT. DO not make the same mistakes I made.
Rules:
IF YOU HAVE AN UNEASY FEELING IT'S FOR A GOOD REASON.. listen to that little voice
NEVER EVER trust a liar. IF they lied once, they could lie again. IF you dont' trust them there's a reason for it. LISTEN to it.
IF you have to ASK if you should leave... just do it.
We don't know WHY someone did something... only why WE would do it... so you have to ASK THEM.
IF you are afraid to ASK your PARTNER anything.. it's not a good relationship and you should probably end it.
IF he only calls when he's horny at 2 am you are a booty call nothing more....
Old cliches:
Women need a reason to have sex; men just need a place
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Is it right for an ex to buy you jewelry?
Q. Back once again about the obsessive ex. He texted me and said he has to see me tomorrow night (mothers day) because its important but says he won't be up until 9 at night my son is in bed by then. So I asked him why and he said he had to drop ...
A. 20 May 2013: yes you can get supervised visitation and child support.
contact an attorney in your area for further advice.... (read in full...)
When to reveal a disability during online dating?
Q. I have a disability, cerebral palsy. Unlike some other people with cerebral palsy, I am not in a wheelchair, I run my own business. I have been exchanging messages with a girl on Match.com now for three weeks (only small messages.) So: 1) When s...
A. 20 May 2013: I'm so sorry OP but it sounds like she HOPED she would be able to find someone to distract her from her divorce and now she realizes it's not fair to you.
I would not get my hopes up with her any more.... (read in full...)
I'm afraid of people judging us over the age difference
Q. Im 21 and my boyfriend is 62. I am falling in love with him. When we go out Im a little nervous about people staring or asking questions. How do I get over this? He is the most amazing man I have ever met. Hes so patient, kind, and understanding. He ...
A. 17 May 2013: OP no one is angry with you.
We really do want everyone here to be happy healthy and whole.
Sometimes with age and experience comes wisdom that we could not imagine ourselves at your age. I know it has for me. And every day I get older, I l... (read in full...)
Is it right for an ex to buy you jewelry?
Q. Back once again about the obsessive ex. He texted me and said he has to see me tomorrow night (mothers day) because its important but says he won't be up until 9 at night my son is in bed by then. So I asked him why and he said he had to drop ...
A. 14 May 2013: Dear Connorsmommyy,
You need to NOT be speaking to your ex about anything that is not related to your child. Telling him that you did not LIKE the earrings is NOT telling him his behavior is unacceptable and inappropriate.
Arguing w... (read in full...)
Is it right for an ex to buy you jewelry?
Q. Back once again about the obsessive ex. He texted me and said he has to see me tomorrow night (mothers day) because its important but says he won't be up until 9 at night my son is in bed by then. So I asked him why and he said he had to drop ...
A. 13 May 2013: he got your diamond earrings? RETURN THEM.... in fact, have your FATHER return them to him... totally inappropriate.
... (read in full...)
Do you stay out of the financial decisions your fiance makes with his children from another marriage?
Q. We live together. My fiance has two adult children from his first marriage. His son has a nice job and a new girlfriend. His son moved out of his apartment with his last girlfriend...he broke it off with her. His son is now moving into an ...
A. 13 May 2013: IF it's NOT your money and his spending his money on his children does not impact on the running of your home or his meeting his bill obligations with you, then it's not your say.
The issue is you call him your fiance... so once you marry will y... (read in full...)
Wife of many years slept with another man while we were dating and now dealing with it.....
Q. Hey guys, hopefully you can help. My wife and I met in University and when on a date. I then went home for spring break and we spoke every night for hours on end. During these conversations we discussed how many people we had been with, past ...
A. 13 May 2013: you have two choices
leave her and probably at your age be alone for the rest of your life since finding a woman untouched by another would be difficult at this point.
or
get therapy and get over it.
I won't tell you that your fe... (read in full...)
I found out I'm the other girl and I'm pregnant!
Q. I went on three dates with a guy(who said he was single)I had just met. We hooked up twice, and now I'm pregnant. We tried to make things work as a couple, but he ended that after less than a day, because he said it felt forced. We both decided to ...
A. 13 May 2013: Ugh. I think that you need to make sure he knows you will be seeing him in court as soon as the baby is born for paternity testing (you know it's his but this will be needed for the court ordered child support) and court ordered child support.
... (read in full...)
Is it right for an ex to buy you jewelry?
Q. Back once again about the obsessive ex. He texted me and said he has to see me tomorrow night (mothers day) because its important but says he won't be up until 9 at night my son is in bed by then. So I asked him why and he said he had to drop ...
A. 13 May 2013: Let him take you to court for custody. What a childish blackmailing thing to say. He can’t afford Support but he can afford to sue for custody. I call BS he’s trying to scare you.
I would go to a lawyer and get court ordered child support ... (read in full...)
Is it possible for my relationship with a man who is almost twice my age to actually be real or not.
Q. I'm feeling really conflicted and I would love some advice. I am wondering if it's possible for my relationship with a man who is almost twice my age to actually be real or not. I've known of him for a few years, but Ive really gotten to know h...
A. 13 May 2013: When my husband was 13 I was twice his age. I would not have considered dating him. I would not have found him attractive to date at age 18 or even age 25. By the time I met him he was 37 to my then 50. Now it works. Then it would not have.
It so... (read in full...)
He's a bit eccentric, can't take him home to meet my parents, there isn't much sexual attraction. But he's lovely and everything I want. What to do?
Q. What would people do in this situation? I met this guy he is everything I want but.. there isn't much sexual attraction and the other thing is he is way too eccentric to take home to my parents. I'd be embarassed. He says things loudly which he sho...
A. 13 May 2013: He’s NOT everything you want. You don’t find him sexually attractive. How can you say that he is everything you want. You add he’s too eccentric and you can’t take him home to meet mom and dad. He embarrasses you with his voice and his style ... (read in full...)
We haven't even gone out on a first date and he's told me he wants to see me naked and squeeze me! Is this normal?
Q. Hi, am a girl of 22 years old and for the past 4months I have met a man double my age. Most of the times we have casual talks only. We meet but not regularly. He says he is single. I like the guy. To my suprise he just told me that he wants to see ...
A. 13 May 2013: I do not think it’s normal or acceptable for a man to tell a woman that he does not know well to say he wants to see her naked and squeeze her. This is not confusing, he’s being VERY clear what he wants. HE wants to bang your lovely young lithe ... (read in full...)
I will delay going out with him until I'm 15. But my question is, is 2 years too big of an age gap?
Q. So I've met a guy at a group I go to. We both clicked instantly. We both love books, poetry, politics and basically are quite nerdy. We have the same sense of humour and always make each other laugh. If anyone in the group makes a joke, we always l...
A. 13 May 2013: a two year gap of 15 and 17 with the girl being younger may be perfectly fine.
As long as you two are comfortable with each other, and no one is pressuring either one to step outside the comfort zone, and BOTH sets of parents approve, I'm givi... (read in full...)
When to reveal a disability during online dating?
Q. I have a disability, cerebral palsy. Unlike some other people with cerebral palsy, I am not in a wheelchair, I run my own business. I have been exchanging messages with a girl on Match.com now for three weeks (only small messages.) So: 1) When s...
A. 13 May 2013: YOu need to WAIT till she is no longer living with her estranged husband. At this point she is legally married and living with her spouse. Something she should have told you from the get go.... (read in full...)
No contact with ex since he broke things off. What do I do?
Q. Hi really hope you can help i was with a man for 4 months who i really loved i met his family who i got on well with me and my ex were so in sync with each other we would say the same things at the same time we had known each other for 5 years ...
A. 10 May 2013: He's moved on. He didn't do it well and he has not given you a GREAT explanation but he is doing you a favor by being No Contact.
you were with him for four months and you got pregnant and that's very early in the relationship to cope with th... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend is infatuated with his female friend; are we at a dead end? Shall I let him go?
Q. I believe my boyfriend has an infatuation over his female friend. I sensed and saw it when I first met her and saw how they acted together.(at the time i felt it was just him acting on it to make me jealous, i sensed insecurties, especially as he ...
A. 10 May 2013: If he's not willing to cut contact with them, then he's not fully committed to you.
and he's not willing to give them up if he still wants regular contact texting and on social media.
the problem is that the person that issues the ultimatum is... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's mother has banned us from talking to each other! What can we do?
Q. Okay, so the situation is that me and my girlfriend have been a serious relationship for about six months. We live in different countries, but we have both talked about this and we are hopefully going to resolve that in the coming year. As of ...
A. 9 May 2013: States as in United States? So you plan to go to a college near where she currently is? Because you still could be HOURS away from her just saying the states.
My husband and I lived in two different states that BORDERED each other and were sti... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend is infatuated with his female friend; are we at a dead end? Shall I let him go?
Q. I believe my boyfriend has an infatuation over his female friend. I sensed and saw it when I first met her and saw how they acted together.(at the time i felt it was just him acting on it to make me jealous, i sensed insecurties, especially as he ...
A. 9 May 2013: IF he has offered to give them up to be with you, and they bother you that much and you want to be with him why would you not say yes.
HE OFFERED.. that means he is willing and if he was not willing to do so, then he would NOT have OFFERED... (read in full...)
Why do so many girls have sex so early in life and become promiscuous when many don't even orgasm through sex?
Q. I'd like to hear here from girls how often they reach orgasm during sex.the reason why I'm asking is because I've read on internet that only 30% or girls/woman reach orgasm, this makes me a bit confused because girls are having sex more then in past ...
A. 9 May 2013: your information is partially correct.
less than 30% of women orgasm from penetrative intercourse.
but many women orgasm from proper oral or manual stimulation that their partner properly provides either before (preferred) or after his... (read in full...)
Am I too young to be thinking of marriage?
Q. Hi guys. Just a quick question. I'm 20 and my boyfriend is 26. We have been together for 8 months. I really love him and he loves me. Everything is great. The trouble is we have started to talk about marriage- I want to marry him and think that he ...
A. 9 May 2013: In the past I would have said no you are not too young.
I'm revising my take on young marriage. I think that under 25 is too young at this point if you have dated less than 3 years.
At 8 months at your age, even talking about it is too soon... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's mother has banned us from talking to each other! What can we do?
Q. Okay, so the situation is that me and my girlfriend have been a serious relationship for about six months. We live in different countries, but we have both talked about this and we are hopefully going to resolve that in the coming year. As of ...
A. 9 May 2013: How old is your girlfriend? If she is under 18 you really have to just sit tight until she's 18 and can move out of her mother's grasp legally.
How old are you?
have you ever met?
... (read in full...)
How can I have clean fun at work when my husband works there too?
Q. Help!!!! I work in the same department as my husband and we have been married for three years. However I find one particular man at work very attractive and sweet. He is young and I am so sexulay attracted to him. We talk and work together but I ...
A. 9 May 2013: before I reply can you define clean fun and why you can't do it with your husband working?
part of the FUN in good CLEAN fun for me is having my hubby laugh when he sees it... so maybe we define it differently.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has problems with porn.
Q. Every now and then I go on my boyfriends computer to use it and sometimes I find screen shots of him skyping with girls who are showing their ass to him and stuff like that. Or conversations of him having "online sex" if you will, with random people ...
A. 9 May 2013: Porn is NOT caming. PORN is not INTERACTION with live people.
I don't care if my hubby looks at pictures or watches videos... but I would draw the line at LIVE interaction with others.
THIS is not a reflection on YOU being good enough. I... (read in full...)
I think I’m losing my girlfriend, so how can I get her back?
Q. A little about myself first, I am a 34 year old male who has crohn’s disease, epilepsy, depression and anxiety and I did have anger management problems but that has been knocked on the head. I see a counselor for my depression and anxiety and i th...
A. 9 May 2013: trust once broken is hard to fix
you carry much baggage with you and it is rearing it's ugly head.
if you really want to make this work you need to do a bunch of things
1. NEVER lie to her again. Sit down now and explain all of this... (read in full...)
How do you help someone with a fear of flying?
Q. My boyfriend has a serious phobia of airplane rides. We've been dating for a year and will be taking our first international trip together soon. We're both looking forward to the trip itself but as our flight date approaches, he's becoming quite ...
A. 9 May 2013: My husband is TERRIFIED of flying. We solved this problem with strong medication. Ativan or valium. Our doctor gives us just enough for the trip. He takes one when we get to the airport… he takes a second when we get through security (to keep him ... (read in full...)
When is the right time to sleep with a guy after you have started going on dates?
Q. Hello Aunts, I have a question that I feel I haven't been able to find an answer to because every way I try it I seem to be wrong: When is the right time to sleep with a guy after you have started going on dates. I used to start the physi...
A. 9 May 2013: I don't think the having sex early is what's causing the end of the relationship. I have always been quick to be physical with guys I liked... some worked out (marriage) some did not...
I sense there is something else going on here...
... (read in full...)
Her reply to my declaration of feelings for her was "what the hell are you talking?" I'm so hurt, help!
Q. Hi frndzz, i love my cousin a lot. We used to chat to each other at gmail. I have strong feelings for her. I expressed my feelings to her through gmail but she ignored my feelings and replied:'' what the hell are you talking?''. And i have been ...
A. 9 May 2013: OH the TEEN ANGST… of course you can live without her, you are doing it right now. She is your COUSIN. I don’t know about where you are but here, cousins dating is not mainstream acceptable.
My advice… move on, she does NOT feel the... (read in full...)
I feel ridiculously rejected by her remarks. Will this affect our relationship?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together a year. I have been wanting to say I love you for around 6 months. I always assumed she loved me, but both of us were too nervous to say it first. So last night I said it to her, the reply I got was not what...
A. 9 May 2013: ONE partner always has stronger feelings than the other. That’s life. Relationships need to be balanced and on the same level to some degree, but they are never exactly 50/50. BTW those feelings ebb and flow over time. All long term relationships ... (read in full...)
Where can a guy find a no strings attached friend with benefits?
Q. I'm a separated guy who wants a friend for a sexual relationship without the relationship. I'm having a very hard time finding a decent woman who like me wants a friend for sex but not a relationship. Sadly I've had offers from a few married friends ...
A. 9 May 2013: personally i think if you are looking for NSA/FWB sex, that your best bet is a married woman with permission to have the "affair".
NOT a woman who is lying and cheating on her spouse but one who is open with him...
but be cautious... (read in full...)
I'm scared of having sex because I can't stand pain!
Q. i hv been in a relationship up to a year and nw my patner is suggesting we should hv sex and meanwhile am still a virgin. Am afraid it might be hurt like hell becaus i hv never had that kind of experience before in my entire life...
A. 9 May 2013: sex if you are properly relaxed and well lubricated does not cause pain.
it may cause discomfort.
if you are afraid it will hurt, then it will. Fear does that.
are you READY to have sex? do you want it? or are you being pressured? ... (read in full...)
I'm aware I don't love him, but I wonder if I'm being abused
Q. I am 22. My boyfriend is 39. Let's call him J. We've been dating for four months now. We just had our first fight. I slapped J's face as a joke and then he smacked my ass. Yes, I know that sounds funny and I probably shouldn't take it seriously but ...
A. 9 May 2013: I think HappyPlace has it! There is playful spanking.. a light tap on the tush… but to be honest a tap or slap anywhere else is NOT playful. Even if it’s MEANT to be that way, the underlying aspects of it are hostile.
You are FWB with this guy... (read in full...)
What will my ex think of me sending her 2 birthday presents?
Q. My long distance girlfriend and i recently broke up a week ago and did not talk or text for the last week. We have recently began casual texting again and I feel like I don't want to lose our connection because she is still very special to me. Its ...
A. 9 May 2013: you know her better than we do.
if you are giving her the gift to make her happy and not expecting it to reunite you, then give it in the spirit of giving and not with any ulterior motives.
... (read in full...)
I'm afraid of people judging us over the age difference
Q. Im 21 and my boyfriend is 62. I am falling in love with him. When we go out Im a little nervous about people staring or asking questions. How do I get over this? He is the most amazing man I have ever met. Hes so patient, kind, and understanding. He ...
A. 9 May 2013: OP, he is 62 with children that are young for his age. I assume their mother is also YOUNGER than he is by a bit…. In which case, carry on as happy as you can be but look closely at why his last relationship ended…. Does he TARGET younger women? ... (read in full...)
How do guys feel about direct approaches like the one I'm thinking about trying?
Q. Hi. I currently go to college. In one of my classes, there's this really attractive guy who I keep checking out [I can't help myself] and he usually catches me looking, but I quickly look away and mentally nag myself that I should've kept ey...
A. 8 May 2013: I would not go that far.
How about "Hi I'm [insert name] ."
I would not say "you're really cute"
1. it may make him uncomfortable.
2. it may make him think he has an upper hand
3. he may know it and it may make him swelled headed. ... (read in full...)
Hurt and confused after she breaks it off, what should I do?
Q. So I had been seeing this woman for about 6 months. She is older than me. I am 29 and she is 42 but I the age difference has never been an issue as she has always dated younger guys. We really hit it off and have a lot in common and have gotten ...
A. 8 May 2013: Are you willing to be alcohol free forever to be with her?
that may be your only option. the problem is she may not even want that because the alcohol over consumption is a smoke screen.
I personally think she's over-reacting a bit and ... (read in full...)
How can I stop being jealous of her? I just don't understand why everyone goes for her.
Q. Dear Cupid, I hate to say this but I find myself really jealous over this other woman, who is friends with my boyfriend. She is very popular with men, and she has dated a lot of people and is very much a big flirt. Every guy and a lot of my frie...
A. 8 May 2013: Jealousy is an emotion rooted in insecurity. Are you sure you are jealous of her? Do you feel insecure with your boyfriend and the relationship you have with him?
You say she is friends with your boyfriend… were they friends before you knew... (read in full...)
This is hurting ,me: I love him and I don't want to lose him. But what to do? He wants to try other girls, not for love, just sex
Q. Hi guys, Well I have this problem. And I appreciate you not judging me nor laughing. I have been with my bf for 7 years, we break up several times and lots happened but we still come back to each other because we do luv each other. But lately ...
A. 8 May 2013: If he loves you then he would not consider having sex with other women. ... (read in full...)
They've been acting odd ever since we came back from our holiday and asked them to move their car from our drive!
Q. I'm in an awkward situation with my neighbours and need advice... My husband and I live in an area whereby none of the houses have a garage and there is only 1 car space in the drives. There is an alternate parking area which is 10 minutes wa...
A. 8 May 2013: Perhaps they are avoiding you because they are embarrassed at their rudeness?
Stop texting them at this point and ignore them back.
They actually should have moved their car timely and should be giving you a GIFT of some sort for your kindn... (read in full...)
Geting Old and really Confused
Q. I'm in agony. I was involved with a guy and we had sex twice and after that he started being distant and avoiding me, so as time went I tried to let go and forget about him, which was really hard for me to do. When we started dating he told m...
A. 8 May 2013: Well if you know you are being used and will be left when someone else he likes more comes along, it's your call whether or not to stay for the sex.
Because he's using you for sex nothing more.... (read in full...)
He has wanted to do phone sex with me almost from the beginning. Now he wants sex face to face. How to discourage him?
Q. I am a student. I have met a boy via facebook 5 months ago..and we started talking by phone as he wanted my number for helping me in my near exam as he was from the same stream as mine and was my senior. In the meantime my ex- boyfriend broke ...
A. 8 May 2013: Forcing you to do something against your will is not right.
Forcing you to have sex against your will is RAPE.
If you are having phone sex with him stop doing it.
DO NOT meet him anywhere but in public. IF you are alone with him he wil... (read in full...)
This is hurting ,me: I love him and I don't want to lose him. But what to do? He wants to try other girls, not for love, just sex
Q. Hi guys, Well I have this problem. And I appreciate you not judging me nor laughing. I have been with my bf for 7 years, we break up several times and lots happened but we still come back to each other because we do luv each other. But lately ...
A. 8 May 2013: I'm sorry to say you have already lost him.
He may be there physically but emotionally he's not with you.
So he's going to be able to have sex with other women even though it's against your background (and his) So it's ok to have sex with ... (read in full...)
How can I stop obsessing about the fact that my Bf used to sleep with his baby momma after they separated?
Q. My bf used to sleep with his baby momma after they separated, on and off from what i can gather. I know its not while he has been with me, but it makes me feel insecure or that he still has feelings for her. How do I stop obsessing about this?...
A. 8 May 2013: So he had a friends with benefits arrangement with a woman before you came along. Would it be different if she was not the mother of his child?
why would what he did before you make you feel so insecure?
See I can't tell you how to st... (read in full...)
Why is sex more enjoyable now than it was 15-20 years ago?
Q. I am dating the most terrific man alive. We have sex sometimes 5 times a day. I am 40 and he is 53. Why is sex more enjoyable for me now than it was 15-20 years ago? I cannot get enough and neither can he....
A. 7 May 2013: because you have hit your sexual stride... it comes after age 35 for most women....
... (read in full...)
My American wife finds my comments on her body cheap!
Q. Actually, I'm from Pakistan who came to US 2 months ago after my wife Spouse Visa petition for me was approved. two and half years ago, we met through internet dating and got married in third country " Dubai". I'm 32 whereas she is 40. She is ...
A. 7 May 2013: OP,
I love my husband and he has a boob fetish.. if they are naked he grabs them....
IF the only thing he ever said to me was "i love your boobs" or made comments on my boobs all the time I'd find it annoying and insulting. A woman is more ... (read in full...)
I can hardly respect him anymore for what he did. Yet my family love him. How can handle this situation without breaking up?
Q. Well, I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years, we are both 23. I love him so much before. He treated me like a princess I guess. But then its just my thought, not reality. He flirted with some girls and got treatment with his friends, I mean he ...
A. 7 May 2013: tell your parents what he did to you, that should make it easier to make a choice.
your choice is YOURS not your parents. ... (read in full...)
Is he still interested in me or is he saying this out of guilt or politeness??
Q. My ex who dumped me and moved interstate calls me a couple of times a week. I am getting mixed messages. When he phoned the last time we had a good chat about general stuff and he said it was really good to hear my voice and he said if I need a...
A. 7 May 2013: I doubt he has any real feelings and is just being nice.
my advice is that if you still have feelings for him, you must go NO CONTACT to help yourself heal.
... (read in full...)
I'm afraid of people judging us over the age difference
Q. Im 21 and my boyfriend is 62. I am falling in love with him. When we go out Im a little nervous about people staring or asking questions. How do I get over this? He is the most amazing man I have ever met. Hes so patient, kind, and understanding. He ...
A. 7 May 2013: The one thing you have to have when in an age gap relationship is a thick skin. Folks will stare. They will point, and talk… and wonder. If it bothers you, then you are not built for an age gap relationship. Truthfully even with the man being ... (read in full...)
When to reveal a disability during online dating?
Q. I have a disability, cerebral palsy. Unlike some other people with cerebral palsy, I am not in a wheelchair, I run my own business. I have been exchanging messages with a girl on Match.com now for three weeks (only small messages.) So: 1) When s...
A. 7 May 2013: why wait till half term? why not ask about this weekend?... (read in full...)
When to reveal a disability during online dating?
Q. I have a disability, cerebral palsy. Unlike some other people with cerebral palsy, I am not in a wheelchair, I run my own business. I have been exchanging messages with a girl on Match.com now for three weeks (only small messages.) So: 1) When s...
A. 2 May 2013: Yes to me it would be important to know you did not drive. but you can explain it quite naturally by saying when you make the plans, I don't drive so can we meet at such and such a place which is near the train station...
My girlfriend is marri... (read in full...)
When to reveal a disability during online dating?
Q. I have a disability, cerebral palsy. Unlike some other people with cerebral palsy, I am not in a wheelchair, I run my own business. I have been exchanging messages with a girl on Match.com now for three weeks (only small messages.) So: 1) When s...
A. 1 May 2013: Sure... you can ask... but I would not ask her to pick you up...
offer to meet her but tell her you need it to be close to public transportation (if you do, I know if i did not drive walking would be difficult for me so I would need to be c... (read in full...)
When to reveal a disability during online dating?
Q. I have a disability, cerebral palsy. Unlike some other people with cerebral palsy, I am not in a wheelchair, I run my own business. I have been exchanging messages with a girl on Match.com now for three weeks (only small messages.) So: 1) When s...
A. 1 May 2013: GOOD LUCK and keep us posted!... (read in full...)
When to reveal a disability during online dating?
Q. I have a disability, cerebral palsy. Unlike some other people with cerebral palsy, I am not in a wheelchair, I run my own business. I have been exchanging messages with a girl on Match.com now for three weeks (only small messages.) So: 1) When s...
A. 1 May 2013: STOP OVER THINKING THIS OP!
you told her in a most lovely way
she responded in KIND
IT sounds like it's going WELL
how far apart are you guys? what's the transportation issue?
why can't you just ask her for dinner or a drink next... (read in full...)
When to reveal a disability during online dating?
Q. I have a disability, cerebral palsy. Unlike some other people with cerebral palsy, I am not in a wheelchair, I run my own business. I have been exchanging messages with a girl on Match.com now for three weeks (only small messages.) So: 1) When s...
A. 26 April 2013: I think you should ask her for coffee soon Very soon. not sure how far Kent is from Crawly but if it's doable meet up
Do you require assistive devices to walk? CP can manifest itself in many ways and I think that the level of your "impair... (read in full...)
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