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| | *o_Very_Confused's profile:I've got the life experience to be wise for others, not so wise for myself. A degree in psych doesn't hurt either. So when I respond to people while I may just give advice, I'm more inclined to ask you questions that make you think and make you HURT and figure out what to do....
Choices I make are made on years of experience and may not be the best choices for YOU but what I do and what I advise may be two different things. Like I've said I KNOW what's the BEST thing to do and do not always choose to do what's BEST for me.
My primary interests include age gap relationships where the woman is older than the man... I am 13 years older than my future husband... I am also currently very interested in 12 step programs and addiction and recovery
and Long distance relationships...
I also understand alternative lifestyles as I was a "swinger" in my last marriage and I am a bisexual woman although currently I am just with my one male partner by choice...
NEVER STAY WHERE YOU ARE UNHAPPY NO MATTER WHAT. DO not make the same mistakes I made.
Rules:
IF YOU HAVE AN UNEASY FEELING IT'S FOR A GOOD REASON.. listen to that little voice
NEVER EVER trust a liar. IF they lied once, they could lie again. IF you dont' trust them there's a reason for it. LISTEN to it.
IF you have to ASK if you should leave... just do it.
We don't know WHY someone did something... only why WE would do it... so you have to ASK THEM.
IF you are afraid to ASK your PARTNER anything.. it's not a good relationship and you should probably end it.
IF he only calls when he's horny at 2 am you are a booty call nothing more....
Old cliches:
Women need a reason to have sex; men just need a place
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When to reveal a disability during online dating?
Q. I have a disability, cerebral palsy. Unlike some other people with cerebral palsy, I am not in a wheelchair, I run my own business. I have been exchanging messages with a girl on Match.com now for three weeks (only small messages.) So: 1) When s...
A. 20 May 2013: I'm so sorry OP but it sounds like she HOPED she would be able to find someone to distract her from her divorce and now she realizes it's not fair to you.
I would not get my hopes up with her any more.... (read in full...)
When to reveal a disability during online dating?
Q. I have a disability, cerebral palsy. Unlike some other people with cerebral palsy, I am not in a wheelchair, I run my own business. I have been exchanging messages with a girl on Match.com now for three weeks (only small messages.) So: 1) When s...
A. 13 May 2013: YOu need to WAIT till she is no longer living with her estranged husband. At this point she is legally married and living with her spouse. Something she should have told you from the get go.... (read in full...)
When to reveal a disability during online dating?
Q. I have a disability, cerebral palsy. Unlike some other people with cerebral palsy, I am not in a wheelchair, I run my own business. I have been exchanging messages with a girl on Match.com now for three weeks (only small messages.) So: 1) When s...
A. 7 May 2013: why wait till half term? why not ask about this weekend?... (read in full...)
When to reveal a disability during online dating?
Q. I have a disability, cerebral palsy. Unlike some other people with cerebral palsy, I am not in a wheelchair, I run my own business. I have been exchanging messages with a girl on Match.com now for three weeks (only small messages.) So: 1) When s...
A. 2 May 2013: Yes to me it would be important to know you did not drive. but you can explain it quite naturally by saying when you make the plans, I don't drive so can we meet at such and such a place which is near the train station...
My girlfriend is marri... (read in full...)
When to reveal a disability during online dating?
Q. I have a disability, cerebral palsy. Unlike some other people with cerebral palsy, I am not in a wheelchair, I run my own business. I have been exchanging messages with a girl on Match.com now for three weeks (only small messages.) So: 1) When s...
A. 1 May 2013: Sure... you can ask... but I would not ask her to pick you up...
offer to meet her but tell her you need it to be close to public transportation (if you do, I know if i did not drive walking would be difficult for me so I would need to be c... (read in full...)
When to reveal a disability during online dating?
Q. I have a disability, cerebral palsy. Unlike some other people with cerebral palsy, I am not in a wheelchair, I run my own business. I have been exchanging messages with a girl on Match.com now for three weeks (only small messages.) So: 1) When s...
A. 1 May 2013: GOOD LUCK and keep us posted!... (read in full...)
When to reveal a disability during online dating?
Q. I have a disability, cerebral palsy. Unlike some other people with cerebral palsy, I am not in a wheelchair, I run my own business. I have been exchanging messages with a girl on Match.com now for three weeks (only small messages.) So: 1) When s...
A. 1 May 2013: STOP OVER THINKING THIS OP!
you told her in a most lovely way
she responded in KIND
IT sounds like it's going WELL
how far apart are you guys? what's the transportation issue?
why can't you just ask her for dinner or a drink next... (read in full...)
Anyone know a good way in which I can shave daily and not bleed to death and tear up my skin?
Q. Wondering if anyone else has experienced this and can give advice. I have PCOS and as a result of that I have rather bad hirsutism, lucky for me though I am red headed and my hair isn’t exactly dark but I do still have to shave. Everyday I sha...
A. 30 April 2013: OP,
I don't think women even with PCOS should shave their faces. And yes I am aware of the hair growth issue for PCOS ladies.
Shaving legs and armpits are one thing
everything else needs to be either waxed off like you do your musta... (read in full...)
Planning to adopt a child and want to give them a name
Q. I'm a single woman and I'm starting the adoption process. Being a single parent doesn't bother me because I don't need a man to complete me and I was raised by a single father and I always knew I was loved unconditionally - I didn't need a mum ...
A. 30 April 2013: OP when I was born my parents gave me a name that meant a lot to them.
At age 29 I changed my name anyway. My father still calls me by the name he gave me when I was born. (which I answer to even if I hear others use it, but it makes me cringe) ... (read in full...)
Threesome after marriage? I've been faithful in my marriage but often get the urge to revisit my sexually adventurous past!
Q. Hi Cupid, Am 29 and am married for 5 years...I should say that I have have an amazing love life so far and even before marriage I was very active. I happened to be touch too adventurous for an Indian woman and experinced many a things which wou...
A. 30 April 2013: OP, Asking questions is a tried and true method of guiding folks... helping them to figure it out themselves is the hallmark of a good therapist.
No one can tell you what to do only help you figure out what you are willing to risk and lose... (read in full...)
Why is it that he can afford this rent and living expenses now, when he said he couldn't when we moved in together?
Q. my boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years. He has been living with me for over 2 but he has always called it my place. He claimed he couldn't afford to split the rent ($1200/month) so instead contributed $300 a month plus we take turns ...
A. 29 April 2013: He couldn't afford it when you lived together because you allowed him to not afford it.
My now ex husband could not cook or clean or give me more than half his paycheck when married to me. I allowed it because I could afford it and handle t... (read in full...)
When to reveal a disability during online dating?
Q. I have a disability, cerebral palsy. Unlike some other people with cerebral palsy, I am not in a wheelchair, I run my own business. I have been exchanging messages with a girl on Match.com now for three weeks (only small messages.) So: 1) When s...
A. 26 April 2013: I think you should ask her for coffee soon Very soon. not sure how far Kent is from Crawly but if it's doable meet up
Do you require assistive devices to walk? CP can manifest itself in many ways and I think that the level of your "impair... (read in full...)
Is my older boyfriend just realistic or pessimistic?
Q. HI there, I am 22 years old (female) and my boyfriend of two years is 32. I know the age gap is big but so far its not worked too badly. My BF isn't very experienced and so it sort of works. My question though is this: I am a very positive person,...
A. 26 April 2013: It's not the age gap per se but your dream of coming to America an running your own beauty business is a bit much.
First of all why can't you do it where you are? what is so magical about here? What part of America? What are your fallback... (read in full...)
Should I believe that I'm a special girl and that he will wait for me?
Q. Dear Cupid, I recently have been hanging out with a guy (i.e./ he skateboards/buses to my campus which is roughly 45 minutes away everyday this past week and we walk around and talk, he taught me how to skateboard, cuddle on couches watch mo...
A. 26 April 2013: I would not put your life on hold waiting for him.
go on your vacation... live your life
when you return if he's there pick up where you left off but don't put too much hope into it.
... (read in full...)
So many questions I never had an opportunity to ask my ex. Why can't I move on? Why can't I stop thinking of her?
Q. Why, do I keep thinking of my ex? It's been almost a year, I don't think I am missing her. I never got my last words in, never got to tell her what what I needed to say, like why did you break up with me? I keep thinking what I want to say to h...
A. 26 April 2013: you will never know why she left. if she didn't tell you a year ago, it's not going to happen now.
best thing to do is write down all the things you want to say to her... write a long letter to her... don't mail it but put it all on paper and... (read in full...)
What does he mean he 'doesn't want drama'?
Q. Hi , so there is this guy at my work that I like so much but he is m y boss. I knoe he likes me too because of the way he act. But he never tells me that he likes me so last night I told him I like him very much and all he said was he is much ...
A. 26 April 2013: he does not want to hurt your feelings means he does not feel the same way about you as you feel about him
not wanting drama means he does not want this to go further and be any sort of issue.
he is your boss and in a lovely professional way... (read in full...)
I love him. Is he a shy lover or a player? He's sent me mixed messages and is now avoiding me.
Q. My best friend isn’t gay but I am. He was sending me mixed messages. He send me a text. We hadn’t hung out in like 6 months. I always liked him and came over to spend the night and I was climbing up my bunk bed and slipped. He caught me. I would’ve...
A. 26 April 2013: You like him as more than a friend and he got caught up in the moment and now in the light of day he realizes he can't be more than friends with you and he does not know how to tell you.
it's easier for him to just not take your calls or texts th... (read in full...)
Why is he ignoring me? Did he get mad at me for not sleeping with him?
Q. There is this guy in my class who I had never spoken to until last Friday (I am very quiet in class). Last Friday, I somehow ended up talking to him and we went to eat after school. At night, I ended up at a small party with my friends and he w...
A. 26 April 2013: “Him: "When did we meet?"
Me: "Last Friday"
Him: "April 19th, I'll remember that date so I can tell my kids that's when I met their mother"
BEST LINE TO GET LAID EVER! He’s got it down pat.
He is ignoring you because yes he want... (read in full...)
Why is he being mean? How can I tell him to be nicer to me, without ruining our friendship?
Q. The guy I like and I recently got into the habit of chatting. We've never spoken in person though, despite attending the same school. I thought it was because he hated girls, but then he was unexpectedly nice to me at prom. Anyway, the th...
A. 26 April 2013: YOU like him so you don’t see how much he dislikes you and is NOT interested in you. You say we got into the habit of chatting but we’ve never spoken in person. So how do you know him? How do you chat with him? If this is all done online.. it’s ... (read in full...)
One of my closest friends just happens to be my ex. How do I handle this?
Q. This is a little long. Okay, so I have a rule I go by when it comes to dating. I won't date someone unless I've known them for a long time, I honestly care for them, and I feel it will go somewhere. My first boyfriend, I dated for 3 years. He was ...
A. 26 April 2013: so a man who has racial issues, who disrespected your family and who trashed your ambition in life is still one of your best friends?
personally you can be friends with his family if you can't detach from them but I see no need to remain frien... (read in full...)
Is he more into this relationship than he's willing to admit?
Q. An old relationship is in the process of being renewed. He says he wants to keep it casual, but is constantly saying and doing things that don't define casual. He comes over several times a week, sometimes, twice a day. If I don't call him, he ...
A. 26 April 2013: it's wishful thinking on your part OP. You are in love with him and want way more than he's willing or able or wants to give you so you cling to every thing and try to make it fit your needs.
nothing he is saying or doing reeks of seriousness.... (read in full...)
I'm hurt that my boyfriend didn't get me anything for my birthday
Q. I am with my boyfriend for almost a year now. I am happy being with him. The thing is...he didn't give me anything for my birthday. He simply said "happy birthday babe." We are in a long distance relationship but I came home for my birthday....I was ...
A. 26 April 2013: Did you let him know what you expected for your birthday or did you want him to read your mind and know what to do?
I think we all like to be surprised but I have found that it's rare for folks to do that for us especially guys. they just don... (read in full...)
Settling down? Or just sex?
Q. i am a seventeen year old girl who is looking to start dating a twenty two year old. i dont know what he wants in our relationship: to settle down or just sex? he often tells me how attractive he thinks i am and that seems to be all he talks about. ...
A. 26 April 2013: I love Tisha’s answer! Before we talk about what HE wants in a relationship what do YOU want in a relationship? Why is it that what HE wants is more important than what YOU want.
I will tell you what HE wants. HE wants to get laid. ... (read in full...)
Does she love me or is she crazy?
Q. hey guys i need some advise. me and my ex broke up about a month ago a 6 month relationship. she went back to the guy before me. she said she was sorry but i dont care what she says. shes done this a couple times the guy is a jerk but im not here to ...
A. 26 April 2013: Ok so she is an ex-gf of about 6 months. She went back to her ex-bf from before you and she had done it a few times during the clearly tumultuous relationship you guys had.
You ask: does he love you still. To be honest, I do not think sh... (read in full...)
Why do woman treat me this way?
Q. i need help. im insecure and need advice on geting over it. i grew up being singled out by woman. i was called ugly laughed at and picked on by woman it diddnt matter who. its caused me to have low self esteem. ive tried asking woman out but ive ...
A. 26 April 2013: "why do women treat me this way"
the key to figuring this out is what is the ONE constant in all the scenarios where you get mistreated?
The answer is YOU are the one constant.
This means that the reason it happens is because of how yo... (read in full...)
Why would my friend delete me off of her Facebook and Instagram?
Q. Ok so I have been friends with this girl for most of my life and our families are also very close. We go to the same school as well but as time progressed we kind of grew apart. Even though we didn't talk as much we still kept in touch through ...
A. 26 April 2013: I would just ASK her.
"hey betty, I noticed you deleted me off of your facebook and instagram friends and I was wondering if there was something I did to make you do that?"
... (read in full...)
Long Term Relationship Transitioning out of the honeymoon phase
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year. We have lived together before and currently live together again. I believe that I am transitioning out of the honeymoon phase (he did a lot earlier than i did) and I don't know how to handle ...
A. 26 April 2013: I think if every time I saw my husband or heard his voice I got butterflies in my stomach I would be crazy. After time, a comfortable feeling within a relationship is normal. The loss of butterflies is normal and expected.
You say he is ev... (read in full...)
I'm worried that I'm falling out of love
Q. Ok, I have been with this amazing girl close to 2 years now. We were friends for 2-3 years before we started dating and we have a great time, rarely fight and I just love her so much. We live very close and see each other every day. We've talked ...
A. 26 April 2013: Your gf is correct even married folks get crushes on work mates and such. It’s normal and as long as you don’t see it as anything more than a crush it’s not a big deal.
A crush on someone else is not an indication that your relation... (read in full...)
Which cheater is worse? I want your opinion of the women in these scenarios.
Q. i was just having a discussion with someone and i was wondering what you guys think of these 2 situations. my question is regarding the females of these situations. Scenario A: a couple (Tom and Lisa) has been together for 1.5 month. the girl,...
A. 26 April 2013: the question is which boyfriend would you rather be
the one who leaves after finding out right away about the cheating or the one who leaves after finding out about long term cheating?
See if a partner will not tolerate cheating, it does no... (read in full...)
My fiance's sister makes my life a living hell! I don't know why or how I can get her to stop!
Q. My boyfriend and I are very much in love and have just got in engaged over a year ago and are getting married soon ish, and his sister has made my life a living hell since day one. She talks badly about me behind my back, I've been told she ca...
A. 26 April 2013: Oh but yes you "can win"
Be cool
be calm
be regal
kill her with kindness
do not reward or react at all to bad behavior.
either she will stop or it will piss her off so much she will fume and then devote so much energy to trying to get a... (read in full...)
So it that it? He told me he was not looking for a relationship. I thought we had more going on than that.
Q. Hello everyone I always love to read this website love all the advice now I need some. I'm 24 separated and have 2 kids.now I met this guy in the club. He's 21 and military.. He asked my number and gave it to hi. we started texting then he w...
A. 25 April 2013: you like him. that's nice
he's using you.
for sex
for transportation
stop texting him. He told you he's not looking for a relationship... you have two kids and an ex you have a lot of baggage for an adult much less a 21 yr old s... (read in full...)
I like this guy and he knows I do. Are there any subtle ways to confirm if he likes me too?
Q. Ok, so I really like somebody, and he knows. I want to know if he likes me too but I don't know how to tell. I'm really shy and he knows it. He doesn't have a phone, but he has talked to me during school, but only a little. Sadly, we aren't ...
A. 25 April 2013: If he knows that you like him then if he liked you back that way he would probably let you know... usually boys your age are afraid to let girls know they like them for fear of being laughed at.
... (read in full...)
Married 19 years and my wife has never had an interest in sex. Why does she not like sex?
Q. Hi, I, too, have the common (and perhaps the oldest) question: Why doesn't my wife like sex? I have been married for 19 years. I've been very successful, we've traveled, and we even purchased our dream house and live a comfortable life. 19 ...
A. 25 April 2013: I am with R1... did you think that piece of paper was going to start a sex drive that never was there in the first place?
Sadly sex is a "wifely duty" and the whole "close your eyes and think of England" is about women submitting to their hus... (read in full...)
Do the good guy's ever win back the one they love, from the bad boy?
Q. Hi, girl's. My question is after women break's up with a good guy, she's been seeing for a little while, because her ex, the bad boy want's her back, the one who treated her bad, he cheated on her , hit her, just a bad guy all around. They alwa...
A. 25 April 2013: Cerberus is right. It is not about winning or losing or nice guys finish last.
she is in love with him, right or wrong good or bad and she is not ready to walk away from him.
next time you find a lady to date, make sure she is fully over he... (read in full...)
I don't want to break up. What can I do? She wants to tell everyone we are dating and I am not there yet.
Q. I am in a very complicated situation. I've been dating this girl for a couples of months now. I had never dated a women before and before I met her I always considered myself straight 100%. I don't like women, I just like her. I have actuall...
A. 25 April 2013: Well I have to be honest to me "some time apart" 'we need a break" or anything like that has always been code for "it's the beginning of the end but I'm not ready to totally end it yet"
it's sad for her and for you.
I get her feelings
I ... (read in full...)
I want to move in with my BF but get the mortgage on the place myself. Is this right?
Q. Hello, Me and my boyfriend are moving in together soon and it might be possible for me to have a mortgage on a place. However I don't want to go into a mortgage with my boyfriend. It sounds cruel but even though i adore him I just dont fe...
A. 25 April 2013: Why would you move in with a man who you don’t find stable enough to have a mortgage with?
I would go and buy your own house and not move in with him as you already tried it once and he “kicked you out”
... (read in full...)
Why did he just up and leave me and his kids?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years, we have two kids. A one and two year old. Just the other day. i was out, and he just up and left without notice. Got a email that he has gone crazy so he is away for a while, but I know that was a lie being ...
A. 25 April 2013: does he have family you can contact to find out what's really going on?
if you can ask his mom and get a reasonable answer then you can decide what to do... if he's left and run away from home due to not wanting to be with you and/or your ... (read in full...)
Going on holiday without my boyfriend - should I tell him the truth about where I'm going?
Q. Am i being selfish going on holiday without my boyfriend? I'm going to London for three days next week with my mum. My boyfriend doesn't even know yet! When my boyfriend gets paid, he goes to see his friends for about three days. Sometimes less, ...
A. 25 April 2013: I am so very confused about this... seriously I do not understand... you are going away with your mom for 3 days.
why would you lie?
you are going to do things you want to do and he does not... sounds like a win-win for everyone involved.
... (read in full...)
Could my boyfriend have lied to me? He said he was a virgin when we met, but seemed to know so much.
Q. My boyfriend and I were to together for five years. When we first met we were both virgins but throughout are relationship it was always in the back of my head thinking about. What if he hadn't been a virgin? He said he was but he knew so much abou...
A. 25 April 2013: my boyfriend and I WERE together for 5 years?
so this worry is about an EX boyfriend?
umm yeah he could very well have been a virgin since neither of you seemed to understand that sex does not hurt the first time for a guy like it MAY for ... (read in full...)
Does my ex boyfriend really love me, when he has a girlfriend?
Q. Does he really love me? I dated this one guy for about 6 months and then, like most relationships, if came to an end. We never really spoke after we broke up, I mean sometimes we did talk. But if I ever needed help he would always be there for me. ...
A. 25 April 2013: NO honey he does not really love you.
Not speaking after you break up is NORMAL, it’s what is supposed to happen… being friends with an ex is what folks pretend to do to make it easier to break up.
He does not love you, and if he’s still with ... (read in full...)
It's over, but he still wants me around?
Q. My ex boyfriend of 5 years dumped me 4 months ago and won't let me go. He broke my heart. He told me he wasn't fully sure I was the one for him and he couldn't go on feeling these feelings of uncertainty any longer. He told me he loved me and...
A. 25 April 2013: there is no need to be friends. Being friendly and civil when you run into each other is fine.
being FRIENDS... useless and only causes pain.
you are the back up plan... he's looking for something new and fresh and NOT YOU... and when he d... (read in full...)
Is it time to leave? She issued me with an ultimatum: The bachelor party or her
Q. My girlfriend(who I live with) and I have been at odds everyday for the last week. My friend has a wedding coming this weekend, and their bachelor party on Friday night. So she has made an effort to fight with me everyday. But to cut to the chase...
A. 25 April 2013: It's time to leave and I'll agree with Cerberus on this reason THE PERSON WHO ISSUES THE ULTIMATUM ALWAYS loses.
When I started getting serious with my now husband I had a then very close friend say "my husband will never tolerate him so you ... (read in full...)
Why would my partner keep explicit pictures of their ex? Tried to shrug it off, yet still feel hurt
Q. I looked in my partner's inbox the other day and found explicit pictures that his ex had sent him. I know for a fact that his ex has been to visit him many times. The first I knew of was back in 2009. I have also seen pictures on his ex's Fac...
A. 25 April 2013: it doesn't matter what we think, clearly YOU think there is something going on.
the theme this week seems to be trust... do you trust him?
if not, then maybe it's time to end it....
... (read in full...)
Should I tell my boyfriend? Just thinking about sex disgusts me. No desire for sex. Could I be asexual?
Q. I am struggling with my sexuality. I have been in a relationship with a male for two years but I think I may be asexual. I have no desire for sex, I feel disgusted when thinking about it and it causes conflicting feelings towards my boyfrien...
A. 25 April 2013: Before you tell your boyfriend (although after 2 years I'm wondering if he hasn't picked up on it) I would suggest you see your doctor, get a complete medical (including hormonal) work up to rule out any medical issues.
If you check out clearly,... (read in full...)
How to go slow without him losing interest?
Q. I've recently started talking to this guy who I've come to really like. I want to take it slow because a) I want to get to know him better before anything happens and b) I've got exams coming up so I need to focus on them more than anything. Howe...
A. 25 April 2013: Do not worry about taking it slow causing him to lose interest.
If he is interested you being busy with exams and your life will intrigue him.
Men who get frustrated when you don't give them sexual activity are not interested in you. ... (read in full...)
He says he loves me, but the way he treats me, it doesn't feel like it!
Q. My boyfriend tells me he loves me but his behavior suggests otherwise to me. About 2 weeks ago we got into an argument and he told me he had been wanting to break up with me since I miscarried 4 years ago. We have been together for 6 years, living ...
A. 25 April 2013: He does not treat you like a full partner. If he did he would have discussed his choice of beneficiary with you first even if he was going to leave it to his children. I assume you moved into his home. What are the arrangements for when he dies? ... (read in full...)
My fiance's sister makes my life a living hell! I don't know why or how I can get her to stop!
Q. My boyfriend and I are very much in love and have just got in engaged over a year ago and are getting married soon ish, and his sister has made my life a living hell since day one. She talks badly about me behind my back, I've been told she ca...
A. 25 April 2013: If he's spoken to her then she knows how he feels.
If you have tried to kill her with kindness and she is still behaving badly, there is nothing you can do but live well and ignore her.
Living well is the best thing. Ignore her bad b... (read in full...)
I don't want to move into my guy's "boy apartment"! How do I tell him?
Q. my boyfriend and i have been together for over 3 years, i am just finishing my final year of studying, we have had to go long distance for a couple of months whilst i complete. after i finish uni he wants me to move into his place, i miss hi...
A. 25 April 2013: Not hard to understand at all. You sound like my husband. He does not like living in our current home because I owned it before him and I have had two previous husbands live in the home with me. He wants us to own OUR own home. I have agreed ... (read in full...)
Which cheater is worse? I want your opinion of the women in these scenarios.
Q. i was just having a discussion with someone and i was wondering what you guys think of these 2 situations. my question is regarding the females of these situations. Scenario A: a couple (Tom and Lisa) has been together for 1.5 month. the girl,...
A. 25 April 2013: Female A cheats but then tells the truth. She still cheated
Female B cheats and lies.
Are women that cheat of the same moral fiber? Maybe. Is one cheater BETTER than another? NO. Cheating is cheating in my opinion.
To be honest I ... (read in full...)
Threesome after marriage? I've been faithful in my marriage but often get the urge to revisit my sexually adventurous past!
Q. Hi Cupid, Am 29 and am married for 5 years...I should say that I have have an amazing love life so far and even before marriage I was very active. I happened to be touch too adventurous for an Indian woman and experinced many a things which wou...
A. 24 April 2013: I was in an open marriage. It did not survive being open and I strongly STRONGLY urge those folks who are not in open relationships who want to try it to reconsider it.
I would not encourage you to open your marriage bed to other people... (read in full...)
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