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writes:I am an 19 year old female, I have just met a guy who I have started dating, we have been on 1 date, but been talking for months. Last year I found out that I can never have children, when should I tell him this? I have been thinking I should tell him straight away, but some friends have been telling me that I should wait and tell him after I see if it is going anywhere. I just need some guidence as to when is the right time to tell him? I have never dated before, am totally inexperienced I really appreciate any advice you can give me. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2013): Hi all this is the OP. Thankyou all for your great advice and kind words. I am not planning on losing my virginity any time soon, I am certainly in no rush for that to happen. I just want to make sure I am doing the right thing here. I will wait until things get serious and think about it then. I will also take your advice and see another doctor and get a secomd and third opinion on my chances of ever being a mother. I really appreciate all your advice, I have been through a lot and it really helps having nice people willing to give me helpful advice.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (6 May 2013):
 my very dear gf is 32. at 19 she too was told that she could not have children.
She married and for TEN years did not use birth control. She did not get married. she had gastric bypass surgery and used birth control for 18 months as required by her doctor. Then she said... let's try... and two years later they gave up.
her daughter turned a year old in March.... she didn't even know she was pregnant till she was nearly 4 months along.
I have other friends... one left fallopian tube and ONE right ovary. told... don't even bother... she has two naturally conceived kids.
get another opinion first of all.
then get a third.
then you do not need to discuss it till you are seriously involved with the guy.... (i.e. going steady, long term committed being sexual relationship)
BTW, I strongly suggest you still use birth control unless you have had your uterus and ovaries removed. then use condoms to avoid STDs
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2013): Don't fret about this now. Get additional medical professionals help and then make a informed decision. And don't say nothing until you have been dating a little longer. For all you know he doesn't want kids and if this is a great guy it would not be a deal breaker between the two of you. And when you get intimate don't let him off the hook either. Tell him to keep wearing the condoms because you have an allergy to birth control pills. You think up the story and you tell it your way when your ready. There are many cases of women who shouldn't be able to conceive and who had multiple births. So, cheer up. Don't beat yourself
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (6 May 2013):
 I certainly hope you have gotten a second and thrid medical opinion.
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