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| | *o_Very_Confused's profile:I've got the life experience to be wise for others, not so wise for myself. A degree in psych doesn't hurt either. So when I respond to people while I may just give advice, I'm more inclined to ask you questions that make you think and make you HURT and figure out what to do....
Choices I make are made on years of experience and may not be the best choices for YOU but what I do and what I advise may be two different things. Like I've said I KNOW what's the BEST thing to do and do not always choose to do what's BEST for me.
My primary interests include age gap relationships where the woman is older than the man... I am 13 years older than my future husband... I am also currently very interested in 12 step programs and addiction and recovery
and Long distance relationships...
I also understand alternative lifestyles as I was a "swinger" in my last marriage and I am a bisexual woman although currently I am just with my one male partner by choice...
NEVER STAY WHERE YOU ARE UNHAPPY NO MATTER WHAT. DO not make the same mistakes I made.
Rules:
IF YOU HAVE AN UNEASY FEELING IT'S FOR A GOOD REASON.. listen to that little voice
NEVER EVER trust a liar. IF they lied once, they could lie again. IF you dont' trust them there's a reason for it. LISTEN to it.
IF you have to ASK if you should leave... just do it.
We don't know WHY someone did something... only why WE would do it... so you have to ASK THEM.
IF you are afraid to ASK your PARTNER anything.. it's not a good relationship and you should probably end it.
IF he only calls when he's horny at 2 am you are a booty call nothing more....
Old cliches:
Women need a reason to have sex; men just need a place
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When to reveal a disability during online dating?
Q. I have a disability, cerebral palsy. Unlike some other people with cerebral palsy, I am not in a wheelchair, I run my own business. I have been exchanging messages with a girl on Match.com now for three weeks (only small messages.) So: 1) When s...
A. 20 May 2013: I'm so sorry OP but it sounds like she HOPED she would be able to find someone to distract her from her divorce and now she realizes it's not fair to you.
I would not get my hopes up with her any more.... (read in full...)
When to reveal a disability during online dating?
Q. I have a disability, cerebral palsy. Unlike some other people with cerebral palsy, I am not in a wheelchair, I run my own business. I have been exchanging messages with a girl on Match.com now for three weeks (only small messages.) So: 1) When s...
A. 13 May 2013: YOu need to WAIT till she is no longer living with her estranged husband. At this point she is legally married and living with her spouse. Something she should have told you from the get go.... (read in full...)
When to reveal a disability during online dating?
Q. I have a disability, cerebral palsy. Unlike some other people with cerebral palsy, I am not in a wheelchair, I run my own business. I have been exchanging messages with a girl on Match.com now for three weeks (only small messages.) So: 1) When s...
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Do you think I'm making a mistake? Is it stupid to marry a twice divorced man?
Q. I am nearly 30 and I want to marry a man who is 46. My parents are opposed to the match because he is much older than I am, belongs to a different country and race and primarily because he is twice divorced and is a train driver in the UK. On the...
A. 3 May 2013:
Women don't make the sacrifices unless they WANT to OP
IF he makes the choice to leave his almost grown children that's his choice.
My husband when we were LDR gave up his home, his job, his friends and his life to move to be with me b... (read in full...)
I'm so tired of my mother!
Q. Ok well, this is pushing me to the limit I can't handle this any more I think there is some thing wrong with my mom. She wakes up at 330am every morning because she makes coffee right next to my room because the kitchen is next to my room, so ...
A. 2 May 2013: Wow. Are you always so angry op? There is no law so that you can sleep. There is a noise ordinance in most places but that’s about it. So maybe you are confused by this. You btw did NOT say you were concerned about your mom. Let me recap what ... (read in full...)
Do you think I'm making a mistake? Is it stupid to marry a twice divorced man?
Q. I am nearly 30 and I want to marry a man who is 46. My parents are opposed to the match because he is much older than I am, belongs to a different country and race and primarily because he is twice divorced and is a train driver in the UK. On the...
A. 2 May 2013: if he sees his kids on the weekends and he moves to be with you he will be giving up seeing his kids... he's willing to do that?... (read in full...)
Does it mean my LDR is over?
Q. My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship. We talk about our future plans sometimes and decided to live together in Aug. He studies abroad and has a part-time job. He has to work almost every day so he can afford the rent and other ...
A. 2 May 2013: Op I read your updates last night… thankfully I go back and check questions I’ve answered to see if folks have replied or I would have missed your follow ups.
His text of “it’s nice talking to you let’s try to keep talking things not always o... (read in full...)
When to reveal a disability during online dating?
Q. I have a disability, cerebral palsy. Unlike some other people with cerebral palsy, I am not in a wheelchair, I run my own business. I have been exchanging messages with a girl on Match.com now for three weeks (only small messages.) So: 1) When s...
A. 2 May 2013: Yes to me it would be important to know you did not drive. but you can explain it quite naturally by saying when you make the plans, I don't drive so can we meet at such and such a place which is near the train station...
My girlfriend is marri... (read in full...)
Does it mean my LDR is over?
Q. My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship. We talk about our future plans sometimes and decided to live together in Aug. He studies abroad and has a part-time job. He has to work almost every day so he can afford the rent and other ...
A. 1 May 2013: you wait as long as you can/want
Me personally I would not wait more than two weeks.... (read in full...)
When to reveal a disability during online dating?
Q. I have a disability, cerebral palsy. Unlike some other people with cerebral palsy, I am not in a wheelchair, I run my own business. I have been exchanging messages with a girl on Match.com now for three weeks (only small messages.) So: 1) When s...
A. 1 May 2013: Sure... you can ask... but I would not ask her to pick you up...
offer to meet her but tell her you need it to be close to public transportation (if you do, I know if i did not drive walking would be difficult for me so I would need to be c... (read in full...)
Do you think I'm making a mistake? Is it stupid to marry a twice divorced man?
Q. I am nearly 30 and I want to marry a man who is 46. My parents are opposed to the match because he is much older than I am, belongs to a different country and race and primarily because he is twice divorced and is a train driver in the UK. On the...
A. 1 May 2013: No need to convince your dad you are an adult and can do what you wish. If you want to marry him it sounds like it' will be fine.
I will tell you that it may be fine and you two will live happily ever after... but with two bad marriages behind h... (read in full...)
I thought we were getting into a relationship, but she sees it as 'just friends'
Q. Hi guys I wonder if you can offer me some advice regarding this matter. I have known this woman for quite a few years and we use to work together. In this time we were nothing more than friends. In the past year we have become close and have s...
A. 1 May 2013: You tell her you can't handle being FWB and that you want more so you have to walk away.
that's how you handle it.
everyone else is right... she wanted some companionship, some fun and games and you did not.
If she lead you ON to b... (read in full...)
A girl told me that my hair was man pretty. What does that mean?
Q. A few days ago, a girl who I've never met before told me that she liked my hair (I have long hair and it was tied in a ponytail on this day). I thanked her for the kind words, and then she followed up by saying something I've never heard before: ...
A. 1 May 2013: Never heard it but it sounds lovely... she probably meant handsome but didn't have the word.
its' a good thing.... (read in full...)
I'm trapped in a loveless relationship. Should I just pay him to leave?
Q. Trapped in a loveless relationship. I am not married. I've been in a on/off relationship for 8 yrs. my problem is that after a split of around 9 mths I stupidly got back with my ex. He had lived with his mother most of our relationship which had ...
A. 1 May 2013: If you can afford it and you want him gone, then by all means pay him to leave. I see no problem with it if it solves your problem.
... (read in full...)
Do you think I'm making a mistake? Is it stupid to marry a twice divorced man?
Q. I am nearly 30 and I want to marry a man who is 46. My parents are opposed to the match because he is much older than I am, belongs to a different country and race and primarily because he is twice divorced and is a train driver in the UK. On the...
A. 1 May 2013: I don't think the mistake is his prior divorces...
the issues are his age, religion and location to me.
while i normally find age gaps acceptable a 46 yr old man is already heading down the hill while a 30 year old woman is still climbing ... (read in full...)
When to reveal a disability during online dating?
Q. I have a disability, cerebral palsy. Unlike some other people with cerebral palsy, I am not in a wheelchair, I run my own business. I have been exchanging messages with a girl on Match.com now for three weeks (only small messages.) So: 1) When s...
A. 1 May 2013: GOOD LUCK and keep us posted!... (read in full...)
Need some help reading the signs from this girl....
Q. I know this girl for like 10 months she's a bit weird to me sometimes she's really nice eye contact and everything and then sometimes she's distant, cold etc.. Sometimes when we're walking together she walks really close to me we're always bumping ...
A. 1 May 2013: if she refuses with a reason that may mean she is busy that day... if she says she can't but suggests a different time or date, that's ok
if she says no without giving you indication that she's not receptive to you asking again... then no she'... (read in full...)
From the sounds of things is this still worth pursuing?
Q. A couple of months ago, I met a guy via online dating and I have not felt this excited about someone in such a long time. I have been single for 3 years. In the early stages, we mentioned about the idea of meeting up and seeing what happens. He ...
A. 1 May 2013: You met online a couple of months ago and live less than two hours apart and have not met yet? He’s not that into you honey.
I met my husband when we lived 2 hours apart. Once we started being serious we were together every spare second we ha... (read in full...)
We are going to hang out at his apartment, alone, and I'm as nervous as all get out!
Q. I have been talking to this guy for two months now and thisnSunday we are suppose to hang out at his apartment, alone, while his roommates are at work. We've hung out before just not THIS alone. And well, clearly I'm nervous as all get out. He is ...
A. 1 May 2013: I am going to be blunt.
If you go to his apartment on Sunday, and no one is there, if you are a virgin by the time you leave you will either NOT be a virgin or close to NOT being a virgin.
DO NOT do this.. your radar is telling you tha... (read in full...)
Husband has gone away again to think... I really need some help and strategies
Q. My husband of two years has left the family home again for a few days to "clear his head" and to "sort himself out" and I'm bewildered! We have had discussions (not arguments) with one another recently as we understand the marriage is not as good ...
A. 1 May 2013: Honey he's out having fun and games while you're at home running the show and caring for your child.
He's a husband in name only. He's not a husband emotionally.
Leaving for a few days to "clear your head" is code for "I am a child. I want ... (read in full...)
I'm ruining my girlfriend's life with my drinking but she won't leave me. Should I break things off?
Q. Hey, I met a girl 3 years ago at a bar in which she happened to be a singer,her voice spoke to me,it was beautiful I used my contacts and got her work at a higher end place..we eventually started talking and then dating..her career graph is reaching...
A. 1 May 2013: I think I may be the only one who can actually related OP
I live with an active alcoholic. I married him knowing he was such. We have plans in place for when he gets to angry drunk.
I am ashamed of myself for being so weak as to love an a... (read in full...)
I still haven't talked to him about us being in a relationship, it's just like we chill and have sex. So my question for you guys, should I talk to him about how I feel?
Q. I have been talking to this guy for a few months now. And the first time we officially chilled was on Christmas day. When we chilled, we did have sex. But before we chilled, it wasn't established what either of us were looking foe (like a ...
A. 1 May 2013: Yes it’s very much the sex that’s causing you to “catch feelings” for this guy you “chill” with. A 6 year age difference is not a big deal after age 21 especially if the female partner is the younger partner.
So you have a frequent sexual r... (read in full...)
When to reveal a disability during online dating?
Q. I have a disability, cerebral palsy. Unlike some other people with cerebral palsy, I am not in a wheelchair, I run my own business. I have been exchanging messages with a girl on Match.com now for three weeks (only small messages.) So: 1) When s...
A. 1 May 2013: STOP OVER THINKING THIS OP!
you told her in a most lovely way
she responded in KIND
IT sounds like it's going WELL
how far apart are you guys? what's the transportation issue?
why can't you just ask her for dinner or a drink next... (read in full...)
Ways in which I can get my emotions out?
Q. This question should be realitively short, but basically i'm trying to find ways to get my emotions out? And it sound strange, but I need help. I have one or two mental health disorders, and I have always beleived the reas...
A. 1 May 2013: OP thank you for the follow up.
I can see why your aunt's death was so hard for you and I can promise you as you age and mature you will come to see things differently. It may take 15-20 years but it does happen.
I'm glad you have a counselor... (read in full...)
My boyfriend of 3 years has lost interest in me!
Q. Dear Cupid I believe my bf of 3 years lost interest in me. He is not calling/picking up calls when he is away. Not spending any time with me even @ home. Always fighting. I'm not nagging, I don't fight, literally do everything he ask for. What s...
A. 30 April 2013: you can't make him love you.... (it's an old Bonnie Raitt song)
If he's not calling you or asking to see you then it's probably the end of the relationship...
I would not call him.
I would not sit home waiting for him
go out with your ... (read in full...)
Does it mean my LDR is over?
Q. My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship. We talk about our future plans sometimes and decided to live together in Aug. He studies abroad and has a part-time job. He has to work almost every day so he can afford the rent and other ...
A. 30 April 2013: it may be over or it may be that you are overwhelming him with your neediness.
there are days my husband and I talk 3 or 4 times when it's a bad day for one of us... and there are days we don't talk even ten minutes and we live in the same hou... (read in full...)
I'm so tired of my mother!
Q. Ok well, this is pushing me to the limit I can't handle this any more I think there is some thing wrong with my mom. She wakes up at 330am every morning because she makes coffee right next to my room because the kitchen is next to my room, so ...
A. 30 April 2013: I wake up most mornings at 3:30 and I’m not cheating on anyone. It’s a joyful function of being a middle aged woman sadly.
You say she is doing or is on something? She is cheating ON US? Who is this US you speak of? If you are mad at y... (read in full...)
How do I get my girlfriend out of my house? I'm sick of her lies and her cheating...
Q. I have been dating a girl for almost two years. She has constantly lied and told me she was not talking to guys. She talks to guys that don't help her I help her financially and emotionally, and I have taken care of her when she is sick or car ...
A. 30 April 2013: BREAK the engagement. Let her keep the ring.
Tell her you do not care if she loves you, tell her I DO NOT LOVE you and I DO NOT WISH TO BE WITH YOU.
STOP paying her bills.
She is using you for your money… cut off the money train,... (read in full...)
He left his first love for me. Now how do I learn to trust him, despite his past track record of distrust?
Q. I have trust issues with my partner, Ted. we met when experiencing the worst times of our lives, and eventually fell in love. became best friends, study partners and each other's greatest comforter. the issue is, Ted had cheated on his former gi...
A. 30 April 2013: I agree with those that say you will never trust him. He has not given you any reason to trust him.
He "left" the "love of his life" for you and yet he has not left her, they are still in contact, still emailing and I am betting if you said "c... (read in full...)
Am I a lesbian?
Q. So im 14, I HAVE ALWAYS ALWAYS liked boys. I have many pictures of male celebs on my wall and phone. I have always made sure i looked good when a hot boy has walked past. Tried to impress boys make them like me. Started friendships and formed ...
A. 30 April 2013: at 14 it's too early to slap any label on yourself.
having thoughts about boys and girls is normal at your age as is trying to figure out what's going on...
you may be bisexual
you may be bi-curious
both are fine...
at 14 it'... (read in full...)
He cant be bothered with intimacy anymore, am I wrong for wanting more than just companionship?
Q. Is it wrong to want more than companionship?? Hi I'm in a relationship with a guy who I've known 10 yrs. I'm in my late thirties. My relationship has been a Rocky one. He has always been the one running back and I have allowed this. The last 6 mths ...
A. 30 April 2013: He's 44 and using that as an excuse to not have sex?
you've wasted ten years of your life with this guy?
yep it's just easier to stay in humdrum and comfortable than go it alone. ... (read in full...)
Has anyone with PCOS succeeded in getting pregnant?
Q. I have PCOS and thanks to that I never get a period. Me and my boyfriend want a baby. I started metformin a month ago and have been taking 2000mg for 2 weeks now. Has anyone succeeded in conceiving? I really really want a baby now. Any...
A. 30 April 2013: have you talked to your doctor about it? that would be my best advice.
I know of women who have had PCOS and have had babies.
My concern is that you WANT a BABY NOW... and you are not in a long term committed relationship. Just be... (read in full...)
How do I get his attention without seeming clingy?
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for 2 years now and he's told me how much he loves me over the phone and in person. However, lately, he's been very independent. He doesn't talk to me near as much as he used to. I've been trying to get him to pay ...
A. 30 April 2013: 2 years at your age is a long time, he may be feeling the need to spread his wings and you may need to start preparing for the "we have to break up, it's me not you" speech.
have you told him how you feel? telling your boyfriend how yo... (read in full...)
My siblings seem to think finding a relationship or using a vibrator will make me happy what is their problem?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been sex free for ten years now I am not in a relationship with anyone my sex drive is shot due to being abuse by men in my life mentally and physically and I just gave sex up period right long with drinking and smoking pot .I ...
A. 30 April 2013: It takes two people to have a conversation. Turn it into a monologue (theirs)
sibling: so how's your love life?
you: working out just fine for me thank you!
sibling: so did you get a man or a vibrator yet?
you: I've made some pr... (read in full...)
How do I not ruin myself over some boy?
Q. in middle school i liked this boy for over 8 months (still do). i told this boy that i liked him and he said thats digusting. i know your thinking well just dont like him anymore.but i cant stop liking him. the problem is he likes my friend,who also ...
A. 30 April 2013: you have no control over other people only yourself.
you can't control who you like or who likes you only your actions.
write all your feelings down in a private journal and keep them to yourself. then put it away and don't read it again ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with this girl and my strong dislike for her?
Q. Hey guys. How do you deal with people you really dislike? Basically, there is a girl who is the girlfriend of a friend of mine. Not only does she always cheat on him and treat him really badly, but she also knows my boyfriend, and she is always al...
A. 30 April 2013: I love the kill her with kindness routine.... works great as it confuses them, takes the wind out of their sails and gives you the upper hand.
can't be a mean girl with no one getting upset by it.
I'd laugh at her... "really, that's the ... (read in full...)
How can I become closer to my parents?
Q. I don't feel close to my parents at all. I love them loads don't get me wrong and we have a laugh I just don't feel like I can talk to them about serious topics because they'll judge me or they'll make suggestions I maybe don't think are helpful, ...
A. 30 April 2013: time... the only thing that will make this happen is time.
because right now the way they see things is based on age and experience which you don't have so what they say seems crazy to you... as you age, they will get smarter.... and then you... (read in full...)
Should I just give up on him?
Q. I've known this guy for a while now he's really sweet, polite and cute. We text every week and we have hung out and he recently introduced me to his friends. We are friends and I do like him but he's going to be going away for a few months and it's ...
A. 30 April 2013: stop rowing the boat.
stop being the one to make the plans... clearly he's not making an effort due to his trip.
you like him more than he likes you. ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend borrowed money and then lied about paying me back. What is going on with him?
Q. Hi I've been with my BF for 3 years. About 6 months ago he borrowed some money and promised to pay it back the following month. It hadn't appeared so I casually asked if he had paid, he said yes, I thought it was just taking a few days but 2 weeks ...
A. 30 April 2013: do not lend him any more money no matter what he says or does. He is clearly a liar and a cheat.
go on your holiday. do not pay any extras for him. If he paid for his ticket, he goes too but it can be your last hurrah with him. IF you laid out... (read in full...)
I'm married with 3 children, one of my children may belong to my lover. How can I make everyone happy? I don't want to lose my husband.
Q. I got married eight years ago to a man i seriously thought was my soulmate. Shortly after our wedding he started shutting down sexually and left me wanting for more. Since that time i have had a few affairs, nothing that would threaten my emot...
A. 30 April 2013: Legally the man you are married to when you give birth is the father... It's the Lord Mansfield rule and whatever your state decrees is what the federal government follows.
so technically your husband is her father. the man who impregna... (read in full...)
She moved on, why did he succeed where I failed?
Q. I broke up with my ex of 2 years because the relationship was very toxic. She treated me very badly and I didn't respond in kind. She had a very tough past and kept remnants of it. After 2 prior breakups, I realized that this one was for good and ...
A. 30 April 2013: The issue here is that you see your breaking up with her as a failure and him being with her as the success and that may not be the case. In fact, the success may be that you have removed yourself from a toxic relationship and were healthy and ... (read in full...)
Ways in which I can get my emotions out?
Q. This question should be realitively short, but basically i'm trying to find ways to get my emotions out? And it sound strange, but I need help. I have one or two mental health disorders, and I have always beleived the reas...
A. 30 April 2013: WRITE IT ALL OUT
get a journal and write write write... keep it private and write write write.
ask mom and dad if you can see a counselor to talk... figure it out from there...
oh and dump the cheating boyfriend.
as for your au... (read in full...)
Thirty Three Years of Marriage with the last 6 years of no sex...
Q. My husband and I haven't had sex for 6 yrs. I brought a vibrator and love using it... I've tried to make my husband want me by posing naked and doing sexual dance moves ... He is still not moved by my moves, does this means he doesn't want me? ...
A. 30 April 2013: use your toy for sure... you can even use it with your husband
6 years and his age is 65, have you talked to him about it?
has he had a medical workup to make sure everything is ok?
he needs a complete physical and he needs to tell th... (read in full...)
Why will he not tell me the truth? Is my husband gay?
Q. I've been with my husband for 12 years. In the beginning of our relationship he put a porn video on to see if I'd be willing to watch it with him. Just a few seconds on there was a shemale on the screen. He quickly turned it off and said he didn'...
A. 30 April 2013: the problem is he's lying about being excited by shemale porn which does not make him gay or bi or wrong.
He probably feels shame and that he's weird because it excites him and he doesn't know it' doesn't have to mean he's not "normal".
... (read in full...)
I feel ignored by my boyfriend.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for several months. We live about 30 miles from each other and used to see each other 2-3 times a week and we would communicate daily through text. Right now I have not seen him in two weeks and only hear from ...
A. 30 April 2013: My take on it is different. I do not think telling him you feel hurt and ignored is going to bode well for the future of the relationship.
30 miles is nothing... around here that's often half a commute...
you are hearing from him dai... (read in full...)
Will he notice that I gained weight? Does it matter to men?
Q. I am probably going to sound completely insecure, but hey, I need some reassurance. I have liked this guy for a long time now, we used to see each other once a week over a 6 month period last year, but for various reasons we kept it purely platon...
A. 30 April 2013: he may notice it, he may not. and it may matter and it may not.... it depends on him.
One stone is 14 pounds... it's not THAT much weight unless you are 5 feet tall...
as for flirting.... smile... be open and receptive and NICE...and mostl... (read in full...)
He calls me immature for questioning his relationship with his ex
Q. I have a serious problem with my boyfriend. We have been together for five years and have a three year old twins. His ex girlfriend, who is also his other child mother is a serious problem in our relationship. He cheated on me with her multiple ...
A. 30 April 2013: Breaking up is the mature ADULT thing to do. AND that’s what you tell him. “I am being a mature adult and I have opted to no longer be involved with someone who lies and cheats and disrespects me.”
See an attorney for child support and visi... (read in full...)
Confused as to why he keeps threatening to go to prostitutes if I do something he doesn't like!
Q. im in relationship with w for more then five years. the only thing i promised him was that i will never leave him or for sure i will never betray him. but i will leave him if i get to know that he is with other girls. if any girls cross into our ...
A. 30 April 2013: Honey he's manipulating you and it's practically abusive.
personally I would tell him to go to Thailand and not come back.
he uses these threats against you because you let him have that power.
First of all you gave up any powe... (read in full...)
I feel too ugly to be a bride!
Q. I don't want to sound conceited or like I'm being an attention seeker but I'm due to get married in 1 year and i feel as though I'm too ugly to be a bride. I hate having my photo taken and I even discussed with my fiancé about not having a ...
A. 30 April 2013: OP, you do need help but not a medical doctor. You need to work with a therapist that can help you see that you have "stinkin thinkin". It's a common ailment among younger women.
I doubt to me you look plain and frumpy. And I doubt anyone... (read in full...)
Should I follow my BFs advice and smarten up for work?
Q. HI guys, This isnt a relationship question per sa, but I hope you can offer me some guidance. Basically I work in an office with no dress code so I go to work in jeans and tee shirt. I am allowed to do this if I wish but some of the staff cho...
A. 30 April 2013: I work in an office with no dress code. We do not meet the public and do computer security and joke that our dress code is “cover your genitals” It’s that casual here. There is no need or expectation for dressing up. Even my boss wears jeans ... (read in full...)
Why does someone leave a good marriage, or relationship for someone yonger?
Q. i need help understanding something. why does someone leave a good marriage, or relationship for someone yonger? and i dont mean just a few year either. im talking 20 years or more. and why would anyone want someone that much older? i have read all ...
A. 30 April 2013: Sadly, the marriage clearly was not good to him. And what goes around comes around OP. In a few years when she’s 25 she won’t’ want what she wants now. And as he gets more and more disenchanted with her childish ways of wanting it all handed ... (read in full...)
Anyone know a good way in which I can shave daily and not bleed to death and tear up my skin?
Q. Wondering if anyone else has experienced this and can give advice. I have PCOS and as a result of that I have rather bad hirsutism, lucky for me though I am red headed and my hair isn’t exactly dark but I do still have to shave. Everyday I sha...
A. 30 April 2013: OP,
I don't think women even with PCOS should shave their faces. And yes I am aware of the hair growth issue for PCOS ladies.
Shaving legs and armpits are one thing
everything else needs to be either waxed off like you do your musta... (read in full...)
When to reveal a disability during online dating?
Q. I have a disability, cerebral palsy. Unlike some other people with cerebral palsy, I am not in a wheelchair, I run my own business. I have been exchanging messages with a girl on Match.com now for three weeks (only small messages.) So: 1) When s...
A. 26 April 2013: I think you should ask her for coffee soon Very soon. not sure how far Kent is from Crawly but if it's doable meet up
Do you require assistive devices to walk? CP can manifest itself in many ways and I think that the level of your "impair... (read in full...)
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