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writes:HI! I'm starting with a guy that I really really like!! i will move to another country in Europe at the end of June, so Iknow there's not that much time to be with him. I like him a lot and he likes me too and the other day we started kissing and he took my bra off and started feeling my boobs. I was totally fine with it but I couldn't help thinking that I had to "pay back". I've never done anything with a guy, Nothing more than kisses. I really want him to be first one, and I'm not talking about sex, but handjobs and blowjobs. I have no idea how to do it. I gues that blowjobs don't scare me that much, but Handjobs just sound really hard, what if he doesn't like it??????? HELP!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2013): If he is really that great guy don't worry he will give you instruction on what he wants done. You don't owe him nothing or pay back. Good luck...
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (6 May 2013):
 YOU DON'T OWE him anything. IF YOU WANT to give him a hand job or a blow job you CAN but it's not a tit for tat thing with sex.
And to be honest most guys would LOVE to be the one to teach you how THEY like it... I will tell you that I hate giving hand jobs and would rather give a bj any day of the week (I'm a rare woman from what I've heard) but I will also tell you that EVERY guy likes it differently...
the one rule... NO TEETH... cover them with your lips...
IF you really want to do it with this guy.. tell him
I really want to do such and such but I've never done it... will you show me how you like it?
and remember that how he likes it may not be how your next fella likes it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2013): He'll show you how, just make sure you ask him for instructions as he may be too sacred of hurting your feelings to say if you're doing it wrong.
OP just google "good sex guide, hand jobs" and you'll get a good idea of the motion needed.
The one thing I must warn you though OP is that you should learn good blow job technique from other women, what a guy says he likes is generally not the best way.
For some reason and I have been guilty of this in the past we guys just want to stick it as far in as possible and that can make girls gag. Some guys even demand that and say the woman is doing it wrong if she doesn't. But it's only the glans (head) of the penis that feels anything and that's all the needs to go in. Guys who demand deep throat or thrust their hips have either watched too much porn or want to dominate. Of course that's all fine if you want to do it. But if you start giving head and he makes it uncomfortable for you then you're unlikely to want to give him head often.
When it comes to blow jobs OP it pays to know what you need to be able to do before you start giving them. otherwise it can lead to a situation where you just hate giving them because his idea of how they should be is flawed and shit.
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reader, largentsgirl89 +, writes (6 May 2013):
 My husband guided me.
We took our time exploring each other and mapping each other's bodies. He should tell you what he likes. Instruct you on how to touch him and where. Just explore and have fun. Make sure he knows that he needs to help you. My husband was more than willing and honored to be the first.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2013): There is no such thing as paying back. You don't know how to do it because you didn't have much experience, it's fine. Don't feel obligated to do anything. If he wants an experienced woman in bed he needs to date old er women. You will learn, trust me, it's not a rocket science.
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