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writes:i hv been in a relationship up to a year and nw my patner is suggesting we should hv sex and meanwhile am still a virgin. Am afraid it might be hurt like hell becaus i hv never had that kind of experience before in my entire life
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (9 May 2013):
 sex if you are properly relaxed and well lubricated does not cause pain.
it may cause discomfort.
if you are afraid it will hurt, then it will. Fear does that.
are you READY to have sex? do you want it? or are you being pressured? if you are ready and want it, then start slow... do not expect to go from 0 to sex in one night.
necking and petting are a good start... think of it as protracted foreplay
do you wear tampons?
do you masturbate? can you insert fingers into your vagina without pain?
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reader, Keeley345  +, writes (9 May 2013):
First of all make sure this is what you want to do and the right time. Not when your boyfriend says it is. If you're ready then don't be afraid to llet him know your concerns. Depending on the type of guy he is, he'll do whatever he needs to to relax and reassure you. Start the day you plan on ''doing it'' well e.g go on a date, give each other massages, basically anything that'll get you in the mood. Then once you're ready, start with foreplay, kissing, touching, oral sex on each other and finally the main act....make sure you have condoms and lubricants. Ask him to proceed gently and to pick up the pace when you feel ready too. In terms of pain, every woman is different but should it hurt, don't be embarrassed to ask your boyfriend to stop. A caring loving man, will want his lover to be at ease and not make it painful in anyway. It's a special moment so don't be afraid to make suggestions e.g do this or don't do that.
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reader, Glacier  +, writes (8 May 2013):
Do a little test: if you can insert two of your fingers then you have nothing to worry about.
If it doesn't fit then you could practise by inserting just one finger regularly. Once you get used to it then try two fingers.
You could ask him to go down on you first or have a long foreplay so you become sufficiently wet.
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