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writes:Hi really hope you can help i was with a man for 4 months who i really loved i met his family who i got on well with me and my ex were so in sync with each other we would say the same things at the same time we had known each other for 5 years before we got together he broke up with me when i lost our baby that was 8 weeks ago also said he needed space and that the flat we lived in was to small for us as i have a 4 year old daughter i feel so lonely and depressed and missing my ex badly i have heard from him once through text that was to return a key no contact since what should I do now thank you
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reader, oldbag +, writes (10 May 2013):
 Hi
You were a couple for 4 months and in that time lived together, you got pregnant,then sadly miscarried.
It's a lot for anyone to cope with, so many events in such a short time. It sounds like he has withdrawn and moved on.
You can't make him do anything he doesn't want to and no contact is the easiest way to heal and recover for both of you.
You need to be strong for your daughter, you have her to love so focus on that and see friends and family too. You will get over him in time.
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reader, angel91 +, writes (10 May 2013):
Personally, I feel that no contact is best when it comes to breakups.
Breakups are hard to deal with at the best of times, never mind after a pregnancy and with no explanation. I'm so very sorry to hear of your loss. It will take time for you to heal, but it will happen. As SVC mentioned, perhaps a baby would have resulted in a relationship out of obligation rather than love on his part, and that's definitely not healthy - for you or your daughter.
Take this time to concentrate on you and your daughter. I'm sure she'll love some extra time with her mummy, and concentrate on building your future together. Doing things together will take your mind off it and allow you to heal
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (10 May 2013):
 He's moved on. He didn't do it well and he has not given you a GREAT explanation but he is doing you a favor by being No Contact.
you were with him for four months and you got pregnant and that's very early in the relationship to cope with that.
Maybe the pregnancy made him realize he was moving too fast. 4 months together and a pregnancy and living with you, that's A LOT too fast.
I'm sorry for the loss of your pregnancy but, I think in the long run it was a blessing in disguise. Had you carried to term and he had stayed it may have been out of guilt and obligation not love.
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reader, sugarplum786  +, writes (10 May 2013):
 He has asked for the space, you need to leave him alone. Unfortunately what ever has driven him away, he needs to work through it. You cant fix something that do not even know what broke.
The no contact is best for you, and it takes time to heal especially when you were planning a family together. I promise the pain does get less and we eventually feel stronger and confident to start seeing other people. I am sure thats not what you want to hear, but there is no way you can fix this, but let him go and let yourself heal.
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