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writes:So I've met a guy at a group I go to. We both clicked instantly. We both love books, poetry, politics and basically are quite nerdy. We have the same sense of humour and always make each other laugh. If anyone in the group makes a joke, we always look at one another when we laugh. If he makes a joke he looks across at me to see what my reaction will be. We have very heated arguments about literature debating which classic is better than another or which poet is the best. Our debates are very up close and personal as in we rant at each other with our faces just being centimetres apart. We always retain eye contact but whilst arguing we seem to get lost in each others eyes. Today we didn't even realise that everyone had stopped to watch us debate because we were so engrossed in each other. I like him a lot. He seems perfect for me. My friend has commented that she thinks he might like me. The only problem is, I'm 14 and he is 16. I wouldn't even consider going out with him until I was 15, but my question is, is 2 years too big of an age gap? The kind of person he is, he wouldn't try anything on, I'm sure of it. But I see us as genuinely compatible and I really, really like him! Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (13 May 2013):
 a two year gap of 15 and 17 with the girl being younger may be perfectly fine.
As long as you two are comfortable with each other, and no one is pressuring either one to step outside the comfort zone, and BOTH sets of parents approve, I'm giving my consent and blessing.
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reader, no nonsense Aidan +, writes (11 May 2013):
The age gap will not be a problem because there does not seem to be a maturity gap between you.
You both seem switched-on and intelligent and you have evidently thought about your similarities and the compatibility of your interests, likes and dislikes.
The only big no is any sexual relationship before you are 16 as this is illegal and would get him in to trouble.
Beyond that, if you wanted to try and develop a relationship then fine. When you are 18 and 20 no-one would bat an eyelid at such a small age gap. You seem to have a sensible head on your shoulders, indeed you make your points very eloquently, so you know what you want and what you’re comfortable with. And even with this age gap you’re not at particularly different stages of life either. So I suppose it comes down to this: no, there is nothing socially unacceptable about this age gap, so do what you both want within the law.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, Glacier  +, writes (11 May 2013):
The age difference shouldn't be a problem especially since you guys click so well.
I'm actually impressed about the topics you guys are talking and even debating about concidering your age.
If he's special I would hold on to him and start flirting with him.
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