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male
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I'm a separated guy who wants a friend for a sexual relationship without the relationship. I'm having a very hard time finding a decent woman who like me wants a friend for sex but not a relationship. Sadly I've had offers from a few married friends to have affairs on the side, but I am not doing that. I've ran internet ads, been to many bars and even my church looking for a sexual friendship. I just can't find anyone other than married women who are stuck in sexless marriages. I'm a very decent respectful secure guy. I will not mislead any woman of my intentions. Where can a guy like me find a FWB, a detached sexual friendship. I'm running out of the regular places to look and very frustrated of masturbating for relief. Any ideas where a guy can find a single woman for a FWB type thing?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (9 May 2013):
 personally i think if you are looking for NSA/FWB sex, that your best bet is a married woman with permission to have the "affair".
NOT a woman who is lying and cheating on her spouse but one who is open with him...
but be cautious about that... it was how the guy I am NOW married to and I started out..
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2013): Don't listen to that "younger" woman. Everyone is different. And there ARE single women out there who just want to have sex. However, for myself (27 M) I have found that I need to have an intellectual/emotional connection to her to reall enjoy myself and not feel confused about why my penis is now in a strange woman... hahaa. recently I have discovered that FOR ME (I speak for myself), It is not a good game plan. I am too romantic and full of love vibes, so usually if I get along awith a girl, and we have sex, then it innevitably becomes more, and I have found through heart experience that its just really bad if you start something when you are not complete within yourself and totally happy by yourself. Sounds like you are just fine by yourself. Therefore, keep a great attitude, and be ever in thate state, and visualize meeting these women, you will meet them, and when you do you will be in a positive state... don't think with your cock, even if your trying to get laid.ALSO, to those "educated" women who sound like they are from my generation: the modern, so called "feminist movement" is by nature disguised masculinity. look the definitions up in the dictionary and then look at the "movement" and you tell me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2013): I wonder how the feedback on this thread compares to other threads where a woman is asking the same question?
There is some serious male-bashing hypocrisy on here.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2013): I hate to burst your bubble but the whole FWB thing since the movie came out is hyped way out of proportion. To find a decent women who only wants that is near impossible. My friend stand in line and wait because there are thousands of other men in front of you who are richer and more handsome and they haven't found their honey pot either. I am bit younger than you but let me tell you no women or few are going to agree to such a thing. My girlfriend just read your very story and asked about 10 of her female friends about what you said and want. They all are educated women, smart and knockouts like my girlfriend and they said go and bite yourself. Does that answer your question? They even went as far as to say if they saw you in public and you threw that bullshit line like on this site they would throw their drink or whatever they had at you. Listen if all you want is sex why don't you become a sugar daddy? There is a web site you sign up and have a chance to interview and meet your future sex partner but it is going to cost you big time. Your just not going to run over and pork her when you get horny. You take her out to places pay for the apartment and if she is going to school you pay the bills and all other expenses. Oh, yes there is no getting cold feet you sign a contract and if you just go over and rape and brutalize her on a Friday night to get your rocks off you will get a bill for everything up front and you might be doing jail time because sugar daddy relationships don't allow that kind of behaviour. My girlfriend is getting real mad at me and yelling at me to tell you to piss off. Just a reminder that ask cupid is not about you looking for some innocent woman to rape and brutalize. All you want is sex then you should of gone to a whore house. And I believe that what you have in mind would not even be allowed there. But at least the woman that work there have their pimps to protect them from you. I think those men there will be giving you a attitude adjustment. You sir are simply pathetic. I hope dear cupid pulls this off the web.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2013): You don't go searching for FWB's. They happen through unplanned circumstance or coincidence. Usually what starts out as a one-night stand; or someone you've dated, but neither party could find common ground on anything but sex and hanging out.
You obviously aren't looking for commitment, just convenient sex. Your search deserves no reward. You're looking for someone to use and discard, or put on a shelf until you need sex. This is an unhealthy mindset; and I'm glad you haven't been successful in this endeavor.
Most women only pretend that's what they want, assuming at some point things will change. This usually happens to clingy women with low self-esteem; or suffering from poor self-image issues. So they are just victims of exploitation for their weakness. They're damaged.
Try just looking for a friend, with no ulterior motives. You
may end up finding more than you bargained for, and actually develop some "sensitivity" aka "feelings."
Join one of those websites that offer hookups. Watch out for STD's! That's the consolation prize for insensitivity.
Porn is designed for self-gratification, and doesn't require feelings or commitment. Human beings deserve better than that. Give yourself a hand.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (4 May 2013):
 You can "get in line" with the oodles of OTHER guys who would like to find this dream arrangement.....
.... but, be aware that the line goes around the corner.... and down about 700 blocks, until you find the "end".......
In a word, you're looking for the darn-near non-existent.... BUT ... keep on looking, 'cuz there's always that remote chance that you'll find her.....
Good luck...
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (4 May 2013):
 Mosst single women of your age are looking for a committed relationship.
If all you are wanting is sexual relief you might have to consider paying for it.
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male
reader, Xearo  +, writes (4 May 2013):
You have come to the wrong place :)
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