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writes:Ok.... Well me and my Boyfriend have been dating alil longer then 4months... yesterday i found out i was pregnant... Scared shitless and verry unexpected... but we were taking the risk im not on birth control and he hated condoms... so we used the pull out methed... obsessively didnt work... Cuz now im careing his child... I am 18 he is 22... He is depresed... Me im not giving it up... i gave up one baby when i was 16 that killed me and i cant do it agein... Im keeping this baby... he might brake up with me he might not... so i told him today and he said oh boy... walked away and said im not ready for a baby... im not eather... but im not giving it up... idk what to do with me and him... so if you guys and girls could help me and what to do... it would b verry much apreated...
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for all your help... But i do know abortion and adoption is out of the question... This is my baby My responsibility... I made it I keep it... I have many people behind me and support me totally... and Honestly me and my father don't get along... and this has brought us together... I am not will not give up this baby... This will make me grow up...
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reader, BlueBag  +, writes (14 December 2009):
 Well if neither of you were ready for a baby then why the hell would you have unprotected sex?! That's just beyond me.
In the back of both of your minds you must have known this could happen so you have no excuse.
I do however, admire you for keeping the baby and taking responsibility for your actions as it's sure as hell not the baby's fault for being unplanned.
As the aunt below said, you may want to consider adoption if you think you will not be able to care for your child. But that is a very difficult decision and its not one you should make lightly, think it through and weigh up your options first.
As for the father, lets hope he sticks around and takes responsibility for his selfishness. But if he doesn't, take him to court and get the child benefit money that is rightfully yours.
I hope you both learn from your mistakes and take a lot more care in the future. If a guy doesn't want to use condoms then don't have sex with him. Simple.
And I would suggest you look into some form of birth control.
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reader, loveisxbrandnew11  +, writes (14 December 2009):
Adoption is a wonderful option. You can still be involved in your baby's life if you do an open-adoption. You would still be able to see your baby and watch it grow; but with another family who would be more able to take care of it.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (14 December 2009):
 Well first off, just because he doesn't like condoms doesn't mean you shouldn't use them. It's you who has to be pregnant isn't it? You who has to deal with the pain of an abortion or labor, not him. So tell him to stop being such a whiny baby and wear one. Some girls just can't tolerate hormonal birth control and more men should understand that. Pulling out is a terrible method.
If you don't want to give it up and neither of you is ready for a baby, think about adoption. For the people who are against adoption because there are simply too many children, yes, but babies are adopted out very quickly. There is always a wait-list for one, and you will make some couple out there immensely happy. Do what's best for you. Don't let him talk you into doing something that isn't what you want, it's your body.
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