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writes:I'm 23 and the man I'm in a relationship with is 52 and divorced he and his ex-wife share custody of their 14 year old daughter. I really feel a connection with him but all my friends judge me for our age difference. All I ever hear is you have more in common with his daughter than you do with him! I never really had much success with guys my age so when we started our relationship I felt it was perfect! But I feel like I can't be excited about him because my friends judge me so much and because I feel so strongly about him someday I would like to introduce him to my parents but I'm scared they will have the same reaction as my friends. I'm just so worried about so much he's already been married and had children and I want both of those things someday and I'm afraid since he's been there done that he won't be open to those things a second time. Am I wasting my time, should I just give up on him and find someone my age?
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reader, girl watcher +, writes (2 July 2010):
I think everyone has different things they want in life. I have dated girls in their early 20's and we had a blast and yes I enjoy the sex better too. I may have had more to offer as i did well in business and travel alot. I am 44 and really enjoy their company and have had alot in common. I dont act like a 44 yo though. I love life. I'm not sitting home looking for help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2010): http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-married-a-much-older-man--how.html
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (24 June 2010):
 23 and 52, that is such a large age gap.. your attracted to him because your frightened of being with a man your own age. But for so may reasons your relationship is difficult and may not be suitable for both of you.. He's done it all, seen it all, but you have still growing to do, new experiences to live, it is better you do this with somebody younger....
Sorry....
"Some people come into our life for a season, and some come into our life for a reason.. feel blessed, you have loved and been loved, but as to the future... I think that things need to change..
Enjoy your time with this man, love him with all your heart, but I feel (and it's only my opinion) that in the end you two will part..
When other people start to talk about your relationship, tell them to go to hell, you happy for the moment, and your in love, that's all that matters for now..
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reader, Myrrh +, writes (24 June 2010):
 Hello. Bless you, how miserable to feel you love someone but not be able to rejoice or share that feeling. First of all, whether youve been with him for 2 weeks or 2 years, you need to sit down with him and have a serious talk about things. Im suprised you havent done that already. You need to find out now if he sees what you have as a serious relationship or a mid life fling. Is he interested in another marriage and more children. You really need to ask these questions. You need to know before you get too involved. Ordinarily you might wait a while before bringing up that kind of thing but with respect, this isnt an ordinary relationship. Its slightly different. And you dont want to go through all the drama of telling your parents, fighting his corner with your friends, only to have him back away when it comes to a real commitment. So for the moment i would disregard what your friends say and just concentrate on discovering what you and your partner want from each other. Is he wanting a fling or a commitment. Once youve established what you both want, if its the same thing...then start introducing him to people. If hes a good man and he makes you happy, those that love you will accept him. Im in a relationship with someone 15 years younger then myself. Have been for 4 years now. We went to the dentist yesterday. We were holding hands and nattering. And i noticed a young couple opposite us. They were just grunting at each other and playing on their mobiles. No physical contact. The girl kept trying to make eye contact with him but he ignored her. They looked about the same age. So what does that tell us? Absolutely diddly squat. Because good relationships are founded on personalities and attraction. How we are treated and made to feel about ourselves. Those things have nothing to do with age x
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (24 June 2010):
 .. Never say never, but if you are thinking "forever " yours is a very unwise choice. Just to mention ONE problem : at 43 you'll be at the peak of your sexuality, a magnificent ,incandescent crucible of raging hormones :)- he'll be 72, enough said.
Being a hopeless romantic at heart, I guess a true ,strong feeling can bridge any gap, conquer any difficulty. But if you are already so worried about something minor like your friends's comments...how strong can your love be ?
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