Men: Why is my husband watching porn that involves fat women over 60?
Q. Hi, I'm married woman in my 30s and have a small son. Me and my husband watch porn together, but recently I found out that he is watching a different type of porn when I'm not around, it involves the opposite of me, women that are over 60 and fat. ...
A. 20 March 2013: is it possible he was just watching it for fun? like he thought it was humorous and got a kick out of it? maybe shock value? ... (read in full...)
How can I let him know that I'm interested but not straight?
Q. So I’m an Asian guy and recently I met this guy, the first time I saw him I was like: omg, who the hell is this gorgeous guy? The second time we talked for 1 or 2 minutes and I didn’t even know his name, but his accent showed he comes from England. ...
A. 20 March 2013: Lol my girlfriend says the same thing. That she can't flirt. Which I'm not complaining about.
But you can do little things like respond to his texts when he messages you rather than ignoring him. If I texted a girl and she didn't respond I would ... (read in full...)
I found my girlfriend flirting with another girl through texts
Q. Found gf flirting with another girl via text. When I confronted her she confirmed that she was an old friend who started by saying hi and got inappropriate, she didn't like it and she asked her to stop. But I read the texts and there was not ...
A. 20 March 2013: this is a sticky situation. as women, sometimes we are trained not to be rude to people or be harsh. so it's possible that her not responding WAS her attempt at asking her to stop without having to directly hurt her feelings.
women are all abou... (read in full...)
How is this romantic and not creepy?
Q. My roommate just got a date with a girl for being a creep and messaging her on facebook when he didn't even know her. He sent a message to her on an account he newly made that said I quote "I don't know you very well but one of my friends knows you ...
A. 20 March 2013: are you jealous? lol.
i mean, it really just depends. she must have found him attractive based on his profile pic, otherwise, she WOULD have blown him off and considered him a creep. so basically, it was because she found him attractive. that's t... (read in full...)
How can someone have such strong feelings about you and make serious promises then switch them off so suddenly?
Q. Hello all..So I need some advice about my current ex-boyfriend. I'm not sure, but looking back I think he had bipolar disorder. He has never been diagnosed, not that i know of, but some of his behavior drove me crazy. When we first started sating he ...
A. 20 March 2013: either he's manic depressive or he doesn't ever mean the promises and words he said to begin with. that's how it'd be easy for him to shut it off.
there's no telling what's really going on with him. but it is weird to tell someone all of those th... (read in full...)
I found out my husband is using porn and I don't like it
Q. I have found out that my husband views internet porn a lot. I am so hurt by this. I work hard to stay attractive and am always ready to make love or be adventurous in bed w/him. He says It's no big deal, and It's the same as me using a vibrator. ...
A. 20 March 2013: i've never really understood women's issue with men watching porn. i'm not telling you that you're feelings are wrong, but i am telling you that i honestly believe that you are looking at this in completely the wrong way.
your husband watching... (read in full...)
I like this man and I'm scared he'll find out about my past
Q. ive been sexually active with a few guys in my neighborhood and ive fell in love with someone who lives close who doesent know about my past and im afraid of him finding out. what should i do?...
A. 20 March 2013: so is this guy friends with all of these guys in the neighborhood? i don't particularly see how it's really any of his business, but however, i feel it's always best to go ahead and be honest since it's possible he may accidentally hear about it ... (read in full...)
My ex wants to get married but I cant forget about her past
Q. I was in a 5 year relationship with my ex.We have been broken up for 2 years.I ran into her at a restaurant and we began talking about getting back together.We started back dating and having fun together.After about 2 weeks she told me during our 2 ...
A. 20 March 2013: well i see no reason why you should rush the whole marriage thing. why can't you just continue to have fun and take things slow? i know you were together for five years in the past, but that was a while ago. this is a fresh start.
she didn't h... (read in full...)
I still have bursts of anger and wish that bad things would happen to my ex
Q. I asked many questions about my ex girlfriend cheating on me and leaving me for another guy after our 8 year relationship. Now looking back i can see how pathetic and broken i was when i look at my previous questions. It has been a year and four ...
A. 20 March 2013: i think what you went through was devistating and heartbreaking. who could blame you for being crushed? it was your girlfriend of 8 years. probably someone you expected to spend your life with. and she back stabbed you. i'm sure you weren't pathetic ... (read in full...)
My mom has made sacrifices for me but I don't want to be a nurse!
Q. Hello. This is a bit of a complicated question. I am currently in college studying to be a nurse. It's a great job and it's needed everywhere, but I just don't love doing it at all. I have volunteered and taken most of the prerequisites to get...
A. 20 March 2013: i can honestly relate to this exact situation almost perfectly. i graduated with a degree in psychology back in 2006. since then i have been unable to find a well paying job. my parents really pushed me to get back into school and get a degree in ... (read in full...)
How can I let him know that I'm interested but not straight?
Q. So I’m an Asian guy and recently I met this guy, the first time I saw him I was like: omg, who the hell is this gorgeous guy? The second time we talked for 1 or 2 minutes and I didn’t even know his name, but his accent showed he comes from England. ...
A. 20 March 2013: i'm pretty sure he can already tell you're not straight, as that's why he went in for the kiss in the first place.
i understand where you're coming from about not just wanting a hook up from him. but at the same time, you don't want to give the... (read in full...)
B/f broke up because he can't trust me but I worry about him hurting himself since he's doing drugs
Q. After dating my ex for about a month, he decides to break up with me because he can't trust me and feels i am always lying to him. The first time we broke up was because i cheated. He wanted to give me another chance because he says he really loves ...
A. 20 March 2013: you two were together for only a month and already in that span of time you cheated once and lied a handful of times? i'd say leave him be. he wants to move on. and for the best because the trust has already been shattered so soon into the ... (read in full...)
Should I completely drop it or is it possible that he will come around?
Q. hey everyone... well this is very short and i honestly want to know your honest opinions and what you guys think.. anyways I have this guy friend who I have been talking to for a while.. we met in the begining of the school year in August an...
A. 20 March 2013: i have definitely read this on here a handful of times written in different ways. listen sweetie, you're fixated on this. it's definitely time to move on. i gave the same advice multiple times. i'll say it one last time. MOVE ON. he has. he's not ... (read in full...)
I am 3 months pregnant but my boyfriend pulled that "I am scared" crap. What's the next step?
Q. I am confused wether I am being lied to or not by the guy Ive been seeing for 6 mnths and am now 3 mnths pregnant too. When i told him i was pregnant he was happy but we had an argument after being in each others company for too long as we have both ...
A. 20 March 2013: sweetheart, you need to do what YOU feel is best in this sitution. and if you decide it's not best to have this child, then that's your decision to make. and if that means he won't speak to you, then that's HIS decision to make. and if you decide to ... (read in full...)
His snoring is keeping me from enjoying our bed with him and he has given up on his appearance. How do I tell him?
Q. Hi, am 5 yrs into marraige and my husband started balding 2 yeses after our marraige. He also snores badly tht its difficult for me to sleep next to him. And fr so many years I have been trying to tell him tht he should do something about it. But he ...
A. 20 March 2013: your husband is balding and snores? if this were a deal breaker for marriage, i honestly don't think anyone would still be married, dear.
balding is a biological thing that he cannot control. it's just a part of aging. did you really expect h... (read in full...)
Why is she blocking then unblocking me?
Q. A girl I was pursuing blocked me at whatsapp but not at facebook and later four five days passed and she unblocked me suddenly. Why? Little background : I met this girl and she thought I was weird at first and later, she asked me for a coffee to...
A. 19 March 2013: i think this girl is immature! she expected you to call or text after your date, and when you didn't, she acted like a child. she sounds like more trouble then she's worth. not to be harsh. but she's pouting and acting like a baby over this. not a ... (read in full...)
I'm confused...am I a virgin or not?
Q. I was in a relationship 1year back but that guy ditched me very badly. We once tried to have sex. That time he didnt enter me compltely but I was having some pain when he started entring me therefore I ask him to stop and remove from inside me. ...
A. 19 March 2013: well in reality, i don't believe there's a certain inch rule that technically constitutes it as being sex or not. like if it was three inches or less, you're still a virgin, but over three inches, you had sex! ha, sounds rather absurd if you ask me. ... (read in full...)
How do you break up when you live together? How could I try and make our relationship better? Am I overreacting?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years, but I have been not very happy in our relationship for a few months. I suffer from depression and feel very angry and sad a lot of the time, and my partner is the one who has to deal with it. ...
A. 19 March 2013: your problems in my honest opinion, don't sound that bad. if these are the worst of your problems, i'd say you're both doing pretty well!! in reference to #1. that is frustrating. a few additional details and examples would be beneficial to kn... (read in full...)
How do I get someone I care about to stop smoking?
Q. I need some serious help. I feel like such a terrible person because I can't control my own emotions. Recently my friend started smoking and its crushed me, I've cried everyday since, just knowing he does it upsets me and I'd give anything in...
A. 19 March 2013: you can't be his friend because he smokes? i do understand that you have a bad history with the stuff seeing as how it was linked to a very important person in your life's death. but come on, sweetheart. you're being really unfair. he's his own ... (read in full...)
I'm really falling for him again, but the problem is that he is still with his girlfriend.
Q. Hi! So this is a very long story about and old crush. In 2009 I met this guy and I totally crushed on him for about 2 years in total. I never told him how I felt, but we were both really great friends. He once asked me out but I took at as a j...
A. 19 March 2013: sounds to me like he kept trying to ask you out years ago but you kept blowing him off. why did you think he was joking? i'm not one to usually condone or advocate cheating. i think if this guy is serious about you, he needs to break up with hi... (read in full...)
How many things should you have in common?
Q. Hey guys, I'm just wondering but in a relationship, how much things should you have I'm common with? Should you "think" the same way and have every interest or hobbies the same to make it work...
A. 19 March 2013: you know the old saying "opposites attract?" well yes, it's true that they do. but it's also misleading. the entire truth is that opposites attract but rarely last. it's a well known fact in social psychology and studying love and compatibility. ... (read in full...)
Should I go out with him? I'm scared of my safety because he's rich and influential!
Q. i like this guy and he loves me too. He is asking me out, he wants me to be his gf and lover. Yes i want that too, i want him to be my bf, but i dont really know, im confused. Because since he asked me this, i've been watching him, he doesn't ...
A. 19 March 2013: well a couple of things i noticed right off the bat. you said he loves you, too. but then you go on to say he doesn't care about you only a handful of sentences later. so does he really love you? or does he not care? the two don't go hand in hand. ... (read in full...)
What is my ex up to? Is he just playing games with me?
Q. So my ex and I have been broken up for a couple months now..and he was my first official bf. We texted last week and he brought some stuff up when I asked what he was up to, he mentioned "I was sitting in the garage with my dad, and we saw this guy ...
A. 19 March 2013: he's not really playing a game with you. he's testing the water to see if you'd be down to be his booty call. he wants sex with no strings attached, exactly like you said.
don't do it. it'll only wind up more than likely hurting you in the end,... (read in full...)
She's spending too much time with her best friend!
Q. I'll keep this short. I hate my gf's 'best' friend. At first it was fine, until it was no longer me and my gf's time , it was me , my gf and her best friend's time...Our time together is important to me so I tried to talk to my girlfriend about how ...
A. 19 March 2013: mishmash, she's a lesbian. i'm not sure if you noticed the poster was a female or not. :)... (read in full...)
She's spending too much time with her best friend!
Q. I'll keep this short. I hate my gf's 'best' friend. At first it was fine, until it was no longer me and my gf's time , it was me , my gf and her best friend's time...Our time together is important to me so I tried to talk to my girlfriend about how ...
A. 19 March 2013: you keep refering to this person as "best friend" or "so called best friend." does this mean you don't believe it's really just her friend? are you worried about them being more than just friends? or are you just referencing that you think this ... (read in full...)
Is our relationship breaking apart? I am questioning whether he loves me anymore.
Q. Hi everyone, I have been with my fiance for almost 3 years now and things have been very bad for almost 2 years. The first year of our relationship was amazing but now it is nearly 2 years of him not treating me right and then apologising and ...
A. 19 March 2013: i think you need to break up with him without conditions. don't do it with the intentions of it opening his eyes and making him come running. do it because you KNOW you deserve better and you've tried everything, but nothing works.
you've exhauste... (read in full...)
What is the difference between loving and being in love?
Q. I am curious to have others view on this. What is the difference between loving someone and being IN love with someone? ...
A. 19 March 2013: It's the physical/mental/emotional connection you share solely with that one person alone, in my opinion.That person elicits a feeling in you that you can't describe. The physiological effects at first can make you feel high and like you're bouncing ... (read in full...)
How can I meet girls that are into girls?
Q. So I've been bicurious for a while, but despite knowing there are plenty of lesbian/bi girls out there, I never seem to meet any. The only ones I ever notice are because they are kissing in public or holding hands (aka taken.) And I don't like the ...
A. 19 March 2013: Hey there. I've been out of the closet for quite some time and have found plenty of gay friends. Are you completely out of the closet? If not, then that's your first and best bet. How about gay clubs/bars? Any around your town? That's a good wa... (read in full...)
A girl sent my boyfriend naked pics, what should I do?
Q. Hello everyone. My boyfriend and I have a really close relationship and we're always honest about everything. Well, this past weekend my boyfriend let me know that a girl sent him some naked pictures of herself. Which honestly I wasn't too shocked ...
A. 18 March 2013: no i don't think it sounds controlling at all. out of respect for you, you shouldn't even have to ask him to cut her out of his life. he should just do it on his own. i know if somenoe sent me pics like that, i'd just remove them from my life as ... (read in full...)
Does my girl friend love me?
Q. My girll friend does'nt come anywhere close to me..she does'nt even tell me that she loves me not even a text..but she obeys my words and commands but she's never told me that she loves me both face to face and in text...my real problem is that she ...
A. 18 March 2013: Did you just say she obeys your words and commands? That's more than likely your problem right there, bro. Women aren't dogs who should be obedient and follow commands. ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to for me to kiss her goodbye? Is that going too far?
Q. So I am in love with my best friend. She knows this, but she can't let herself like me because she has a BF that goes to a different college. I've told her that before we get out for summer break (Which is a full 4 months) I will kiss her goodbye. ...
A. 18 March 2013: just hug her goodbye. that's what friends do, so treat her like a friend. she's with someone. ... (read in full...)
How do you fix your sexual life when you're not the problem?
Q. Hi. I'm new to this but I'm going crazy with my boyfriend and have no one to ask advice from. So here it goes. I think my boyfriend is either a selfish lover or just treats me like a prostitute. He's very sweet and giving in all other areas of ...
A. 17 March 2013: i have never understood this concept, as i date women and we always go so far out of our way to focus on our partners needs above all else. i know for me, i can't remotely get into sex if i know that the girl i'm with isn't enjoying it. in fact, i ... (read in full...)
I confessed my feelings, but he just wants to be friends
Q. I have been in love with my co-worker for about a year and a half and in that time, we've hung out, drank, taken the train home, whatever... I see him almost all day at work as we cross paths from office to office.. I think he is beautiful, funny, ...
A. 17 March 2013: well i would say that it turned out for the best that you didn't go home with him that one night because that definitely would have complicated things a lot more.
and who could blame you for thinking that he liked you? he spends a lot of time wit... (read in full...)
Why is he ignoring me? Has he lost interest?
Q. I am a married woman. I am unhappy and have told my husband so. I met another man through work, I work in a doctor's office; he is a drug rep. We have exchanged flirtatious text messages and even met up once. We both admitted that something was ...
A. 17 March 2013: he seems to realize what you already realize but are choosing to ignore: you're off the market. you're married. he doesn't want things to be taken any further because of it, and rightfully so. dabbling with a married man or woman is a definite ... (read in full...)
How to deal with being completely alone...?
Q. That's basically my situation. I feel like I pretty much have nobody. I'm sure it's partly my fault, but there are other factors that make it difficult for me to really get out there and socialize. For one, I don't even have a car right now (and ...
A. 17 March 2013: hi there.
this is a tough situation you're in and i can imagine it's upsetting. i'm sorry you're going through all of this with no one to rely on.
it's unfortunate you found out about your moms infidelity. that's a really tough position t... (read in full...)
Our relationship went downhill after my boyfriend heard that his ex had cheated on him before.
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been dating a month at first things were great but one night he got told that his ex cheated on him he was devastated about it he said they broke up in December. After that night he found out things have gotten not so good. ...
A. 17 March 2013: and definitely don't consider counseling. you've only been dating a month.... (read in full...)
Our relationship went downhill after my boyfriend heard that his ex had cheated on him before.
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been dating a month at first things were great but one night he got told that his ex cheated on him he was devastated about it he said they broke up in December. After that night he found out things have gotten not so good. ...
A. 17 March 2013: i can speak on this from personal experience.
my ex and i broke up in october. i took a couple of months to get over it and moved on. i began dating another girl in december who i'm still with. well just a week ago, i found out that my ex was not ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to rent the living room at a female friend's and I don't trust her.
Q. My boyfriend and I have almost been together 3 years. We've had our ups and downs numerous times but we love each other very much. I will do anything to be with him for the rest of my life. But now, we have yet another problem that I'm having an ...
A. 17 March 2013: oh and last thought .. if the car is the selling point for him, why can't he just use that guys car while staying at your parents house? certainly the car isn't offered only as a stipulation for staying there. that wouldn't make much sense.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to rent the living room at a female friend's and I don't trust her.
Q. My boyfriend and I have almost been together 3 years. We've had our ups and downs numerous times but we love each other very much. I will do anything to be with him for the rest of my life. But now, we have yet another problem that I'm having an ...
A. 17 March 2013: what i don't understand is why he's leaving a secure place where he can stay and you'll be coming home to shortly, to go stay in a living room knowing that the guy will be coming home in a month. doesn't that mean that in a months span of time, ... (read in full...)
In private he is affectionate towards me. But in front of others he pushes me away. How do I handle this?
Q. So, this is going to be a little long so bear with me. + I have been talking about this on a forum anonymously for over 3 years now, and it hasn't gotten any better. I even turned to y! answers one other time to ask about this, but I am in a diffic...
A. 17 March 2013: i can't relate exactly to what you're going through, but i can say that when i was back in college, i got with this girl who had never been with a woman before. i was her first lesbian relationship. she loved me, i have no doubt, but was so ... (read in full...)
Does this mean that he's commitment phobic?
Q. I've been together with my boyfriend for almost a year now. We haven't had sex yet, but the other night we both really wanted to. I was assuming that I'll stay at his place for the night, but he told me that he can't have me over. We go to the same ...
A. 17 March 2013: that is a bit odd. i typically would jump straight to something fishy going on if this were me. i can't speculate or say so for certain, but it is rather bizarre for a guy to be with you for a whole year, yet not let you stay at his house.
have ... (read in full...)
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