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writes:i am typical indian teen . well during my summer vacation a met a guy called xxxx. he was charming d lovely. we fall in love (both r virgin and dont hav any past blah blah..)he said me to join his college i promised him i would but due to distance and other issues i was sent to some other college. it nailed him still he loves me and often visits me in my campus... now the problem is i m smarter in academics and kind of superior too i dont look really look as he expected (we did not meet before proposing) he is now being verbally abusive calling name he criticise about my looks , my economy then blah blah we argue daily then he says sorry acts as if nothing had happened now he wanna go to vacation with me (without his or my parents knowledge) i love him but now i m not interested in making love now wat should i do he loves me i cant leave him please help Reply to this Question
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reader, Denise32  +, writes (3 February 2013):
 OF COURSE you can leave him!
What makes you think you can't?
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reader, jdxx  +, writes (3 February 2013):
 What he is is emotionally controlling and abusive, I fear for you that if things continue in to a more serious relationship this emotional abuse could become physical abuse as well... You should get yourself out of the situation now while you still can, there are much more suitable matches out there for you who will not treat you so badly.
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reader, llifton +, writes (3 February 2013):
 I understand in your culture it is not as easy as it is in western civilizations just to up and leave your boyfriend because he's acting like an ass. Here in america, we pick our own partners based on attraction and then we date them. After we date for an adequate amount of time, we decide if we've found the person we want to marry or not. But as far as my understanding goes of your culture, there is no such thing as dating. Is this correct? You'll have to forgive me, but i'm just not certain since our cultures are very different in this regard. Do you have an arranged marriage already to this man? You said you did not meet before proposing, so I am assuming this to be true. As far as my understanding of this, isn't it true that once you are engaged, that's when the dating phase begins? If so, at this point, don't you still have the ability to call it off, if you so choose? I think this guy sounds like a bit of a jerk. I would entertain the idea of wanting to find someone new. Would your parents go for this, or would it cause too much chaos?? Anyone who is already verbally abusive does NOT deserve you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2013): well iamheretohelpyou we are from orthodox family and his parents knew about us they have agreed for our marriage we are serious we wanna get married after 4 yrs d wanna settle down soon.....
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