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writes:My best friend got married recently. I had a text chat with her regarding her sexual life and she told me about the things that happened between her and her husband. My boyfriend saw those chats and started fighting with me that how can I talk like that with anybody like that?I feel that there is nothing wrong in talking like that with another girl especially if she's my best friend. Just because of this he stopped talking with me from more than three days. We are in a relationship from 3 and a half years with no issues. In fact we enjoy each other's company very much and he would never ditch me. I wanna know if there's anything wrong in talking like that with my best friend?? Do all guys think that their girlfriends should not talk like that with others?? Plz tell me your opinion.. Thank you..
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reader, IHateWomanBeaters  +, writes (14 February 2013):
 xearo is wrong regarding the deleting of your chats.
If you are SHOWING him the chats, that is one thing.
If you are having the chats in your phone, and he goes through your phone. Then, you should never trust him.
If he goes through your phone and starts yelling at you for listening to your best friend talk about and ask questions regarding her sex life, then he is wrong and you need to leave him.
Those people are trouble.
Believe me.
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (13 February 2013):
Not all guys are like this but some men are very conservative and prefer to not discuss things of that nature amongst others. I can't say that he is wrong or not because it is who he is. At the same time you have not done wrong because this is your best friend after all. My advice would be to delete these conversations after you have them, it would be better that he does not know about it.
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reader, when nothing goes right go left  +, writes (12 February 2013):
 No there's nothing wrong with talking one of your girlfriends about sex it's normal. And he is definitely overeacting because it wasn't even about you and him. So if I was you then I would ask him why it bothers him so much, it could just be that he doesn't find it very lady like.Hope this helps.
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reader, llifton +, writes (12 February 2013):
 Hell no you didn't do anything wrong. That's what having close female friends are for!Maybe the details of it all made him insecure that you talk about your sex life with him to others with such detail. And maybe it embarrassed him. Is he a really private person? Either way, he should talk to you about how he feels before he storms out and disappears.Most men know women talk like this. They may not love it, but they at least accept it. I find it hard to understand his reaction. So no, I don't believe you did anything wrong.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (12 February 2013):
He probably figured out that you have those same conversations about him. It doesn't bother me, but I COMPLETELY understand why it'd bother him.
You should talk to him and tell him you don't have those kinds of conversations about him, she just needed to talk and you're her friend so you listened.
And if you DO have those conversations with her about him you should stop since he's obviously not okay with it.
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reader, IHateWomanBeaters +, writes (12 February 2013):
HE is in the wrong and is an ass.
You are ok :) Keep talking to her just how you are talking to her.
That is all.
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reader, DV1 +, writes (12 February 2013):
 Sounds like he's controlling and insecure... Also, what's he doing reading your phone?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (12 February 2013):
 my girlfriends and I talk about sex all the time.... we don't get into specifics about size or how long a guy lasts or anything like that
but frequency... and what we do and do not like... all those things are talked about.
I guess you need to ask him exactly what bothers him about it.... are you a virgin? does he feel that it taints you?
if so he's wrong.
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