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writes:On here, you often hear about partners with gaming addictions, well, how's this for an addiction; rock music ??I knew my husband liked music, of all types, had nothing against it, but now he's missing out on sex with me, work, time with friends, just to become a rock god [his words not mine!] and spends hours on rock music forums and rock-related groups on Facebook, and is totally addicted to rock music-related things; we're even getting into debt due to this.He even has 106.1 Rock Radio at full blast at all hours of the day, and Eric Prydz - Call On me blasting out at all hours, along with Carly Rae Jepsen's call me maybe playing 3-5 times at full blast at 1am at night, which upset the local neighbours - it was at full volume!I've tried to explain to him that it's OK to have a hobby, but that there are also other priorities in life too; he just sits around in his vest and Y-fronts banging out rock music until 4am at full blast The elderly neighbour next door actually complained - his response was to tell her to "cram it, lady!" and then asked her to give him a lap-dance - to which our neighbour said, "for god's sake, I'm 65, and turn the bloody music down."He's stopped looking as smart as he used to, works out a lot more - he already enjoyed working out when we met anyway - and started boozing a lot more. He's stopped wearing suit-and-tie and wears rock music T-shirts and shorts around the house; he actually got suspended from work for coming into the office in this (he works for the NHS at management level at a small local hospital)He used to be such a good loving husband, but changed suddenly... how can I resolve this?It seems so out-of-character and I don't understand why he's done this.How should I resolve this situation?I've only been married 18 months, but we've been together as a couple for 4 years, isn't it a bit soon for divorce?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (6 February 2013):
 Once again I have to strongly recommend a full medical work up including a CAT scan. when there is a major personality change (and what he said to the neighbor alone is so off the charts as to make me wonder) I think of my mom who had a full personality change... she went from sweet and kind and loving to angry and nasty.... we thought it was depression over leaving our town to move to Florida which would take her away from her grandchildren.
Turned out to be a malignant BRAIN TUMOR....
I think step one is a full medical work up complete with hormone and blood work...
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reader, llifton +, writes (6 February 2013):
 sounds almost like an early on-set of a midlife crisis. maybe this is his way of rebelling. as in, he's feeling like he's lost all sense of self by settling down and getting married. almost like he's been neutered and caged. maybe he feels he needs to somehow get his freedom and excitement back in his life. i'm not saying that's what this is, and if so, that it's remotely justified. because it's not justified whatsoever. i'm just throwing ideas out there.i can't believe he told an older to give him a lap dance for asking him to turn the music down at 4 am. that's a reasonable request. hell, he's lucky she didn't call the cops on his ass!i don't know how you're putting up with this. have you tried to have a sit down with him about it? if not, it's definitely about that time. see if you can't get to the bottom of what's really going on.
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