Why am I so moody, and how do I stop it? I'm scared of losing my boyfriend!
Q. I seem to get upset about every little thing, especially when it comes to my boyfriend of 6 months. I'm super sensitive to everything! I don't know what to do, because my bf is getting quite sick of me being upset/moody all the time. I never us...
A. 13 July 2008: moody girl you need to explore the idea that you are suffering from pmt at times, before you ruin your relationship for good.
c xxxxxxxxxxx... (read in full...)
has he cheated?
Q. Dear Cupid, After I broke up with my ex he had another gf the very next day! I was really mad, because people were saying he was cheating on me, he only asked me out b/c he felt sorry for me, and that he really liked her. So I got really mad, and...
A. 29 July 2007: Hard to say. But if he had a new girlfriend within a day then its likely. How long was you with him? Its unlikely someone would ask you out because they feel sorry for you! I would let that one go over your head but i would hazard a guess that he ... (read in full...)
He says I'm being silly. I say he's mad that I went out. What do you think?
Q. Should I apologize? My fiance went away for a few days and on a friday night i called him and he was at the bar at the hotel. i felt stupid for sitting home watching t.v. on a friday night so I said I was going to go out too by myself. I am new to ...
A. 29 July 2007: Hmmmm ive been in a similar situ before. Hes away with work, but he didnt like me going out with my friends. If he was genuinly worried about your safety, if you went out alone then thats a fair point. I dont know how safe NY is, i'm here in the Uk. ... (read in full...)
Do you think this is a weird, freaky thing to do?
Q. My boyfriend likes for me to go down on him while he is watching porn. I figured at least he isnt doing this be himself but is this a wierd freaky thing to do?...
A. 29 July 2007: Hey i always say 'if its not a problem for you then its not a problem'
People have alsorts of different fantasies & things they actually like in sex. You never know what your neighbours are up to next door!(and thats fine as long as its legal hehe... (read in full...)
My girlfriend and I still haven't had sex. She's never in the mood!
Q. Hi there. I've been with my girlfriend for about 1 year and 2 months. We still havent had sex, we're both 18. She isn't "in the mood" very often and we always stop half way through foreplay because she isn't in the right frame of mind or she g...
A. 29 July 2007: Yep i agree with Quarky, lots of cuddles, no pressure, make sure she knows the cuddles arent going to lead to sex. Us women are a classic for thinking that! hehe And talk about it, but NOT in the bedroom. Keep us updated. C xxxxxxxxx... (read in full...)
I'm just so scared of losing him...
Q. Hi this is following my question I wrote the other day. It was titled "I have developed a need to be with my husband, I miss him even when he's at work" They may not be the exact words but I posted it on the 26th July if that helps. Anyway...
A. 29 July 2007: I was the one that said about the panick attack & him being your safety net but if it was me i would sit him down & explain it exactly how you did on here, it was very clear. He's very lucky to have you. He will take it as a compliment! & no ... (read in full...)
I love my girlfriend, but sometimes I have very serious doubts about us!
Q. Im 18 years old (female), and have been with my girlfriend on and off for 15 months. She cheated on me over xmas/january time, and after alot of agro i took her back. Her mum is a reformed jehovah's witness and contacting her is so hard as her m...
A. 29 July 2007: Oh for sure. Compatibility is important. Obviously we wont ever meet someone 100% perfect. None of us are that & we all need to 'bend' a little when accepting a partners ways but if the physical side is very important to you & you cant compromise on ... (read in full...)
I love my girlfriend, but sometimes I have very serious doubts about us!
Q. Im 18 years old (female), and have been with my girlfriend on and off for 15 months. She cheated on me over xmas/january time, and after alot of agro i took her back. Her mum is a reformed jehovah's witness and contacting her is so hard as her m...
A. 28 July 2007: First off you need trust to see this lasting the distance and secondly you dont need to worry about being single. Its not all bad and as long as you have the friends and ability to keep busy, you would meet someone new in no time. Sounds like a l... (read in full...)
My girlfriend and I still haven't had sex. She's never in the mood!
Q. Hi there. I've been with my girlfriend for about 1 year and 2 months. We still havent had sex, we're both 18. She isn't "in the mood" very often and we always stop half way through foreplay because she isn't in the right frame of mind or she g...
A. 28 July 2007: You sound a lovely person JK.
I'm too getting the feeling this isnt right. It is more than fair to want an intimate relationship after this length of time with someone. Prefectly normal.
With the dryness thing, that will be because shes not prod... (read in full...)
I'm really under weight. I'm scared, but I won't eat.
Q. im really under wieght i come in about 6 stone maxium i dont fit in to anything im below a size 0 in the uk im scared but i wont eat...what should i do?...
A. 28 July 2007: You definately need some professional advice that your Gp can arrange.
Not eating is a serious damage to your health, people forget the stress it puts on the heart.
Go see your Gp. But do it very soon.
There are many reasons people wont eat fro... (read in full...)
My ex is being mistreated and I dont know how to help
Q. My ex boyfriend from 3 years ago has been dating a bi sexual girl for a year and a half. Hes 27, shes 36. He is completely smitten with her and admits he always wants to be like her. Anyway numerous times she has cheated on him with other guys, ...
A. 28 July 2007: Thanks you two, i have left him to it. You're right, cant do anything more.
Brilliant thanks
C xxxxxxxxxxxx... (read in full...)
I think I'm acting normal, but he thinks I'm cheating!
Q. Am I jealous or is my fiance jealous? My fiance always says that I get jealous. If getting a little angry and annoyed if he checks out and acts differently around attractive blondes is jealous then maybe I am. But isn't he jealous when I go out to a ...
A. 28 July 2007: Maybe your both a little jealous, and theres a place for a little jealousy in relationships, it can be a healthy sign.
But where yours is a healthy one by the sounds of it, his isnt.
Almost certainly there is something from his past thats left him... (read in full...)
She needed space to work out her feelings for me and her ex; I've heard nothing back from her
Q. Hi, I met a girl about a month ago. She is almost everything I could want in a woman and we spend alot of time talking things over about how drawn we both are to each other. She had only been apart from her ex' of 4 years for a couple of months a...
A. 28 July 2007: Humans are extremely chicken when it comes to confontation. Shes back with her ex but avoidance is easier than telling you that.
In my opinion, you wouldnt be 'over' an ex of 4 years in a couple of months even if it was her decision to go. Even if s... (read in full...)
I broke up with him but now I want him back, trouble is he's not answering my texts now.
Q. I was with this commitment phobic guy for 7 months, we really hit it off, and there was talk of moving in together, he kept messing about saying he didn't know what he wanted. He didn't treat me too well and after a while, started making excuses ...
A. 28 July 2007: 7 months is quite early to talk about living together anyway? Not too sure if i would call that bing a commitment phobe. I cant imagine wanting to live with someone that quick. Hes probably just sick of the yo yo arguments. Getting back together... (read in full...)
Am I being selfish here?
Q. Me and my boyfriend of 6 years had a row. We lived togetheher (house in his name). Both decided I should move back to my parents. I did. He also bought me a car (he is self employed and earns a comfortable life). That was left behind. At the time...
A. 28 July 2007: Why have someone buy you a car in the first place, and if you both agreed you should move out, then there must be some probs there? And if so, why would he want to be giving you cars? Im not sure what to say here cuz theres not a lot of detail t... (read in full...)
Do my symptoms sound like pregnancy?
Q. okay hi every one! well here goes i had sex with my fiance about 6 weeks ago and well he forgot to pull out and long story about every thing else, i started really getting sick to my stomic and my breast are tender and even grew a bit but i didnt mi...
A. 28 July 2007: Certainly the main symptoms are there, and its rare, but women can have periods all the way through. If you relied on the withdrawel method, you could still get pregnant. If you didnt even pull out at all, depending on the time of your cycle theres ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend refuses to say sorry when he's in the wrong
Q. why is it so hard for a man to say sorry especailly when he knows that he was in the wrong? it always seems to be me that has to approach him when he has done wrong and he will wait it out weeks and months, even when he knows he was in the wrong!...
A. 28 July 2007: Its not only a male trait, i used to be terrible for it, probably still would be! Its a pride thing. Not wanting to admit you're wrong. Frustrating for the other person i know! C xxxxxxxxx... (read in full...)
Is it normal to have orgasms at my age?
Q. this is abit embarresing for me but is it normal to get orgasms at my age? ...
A. 28 July 2007: Yes. If you're sure thats what it is. C xxxxxxxxx... (read in full...)
I started dating a guy who is engaged but ended it recently, cos I know he's still going to marry his fiance; what do we do now?
Q. so i have been seeing a guy frm work for about a year now, we started off as really good friends and we confided in eachother with everything... As time went on we become very close and basically could not go a day without seeing or speaking...
A. 28 July 2007: That last bits not good. Any way you can get a transfer somewhere else? I feel sorry for his fiance, she is none the wiser and is heading to be married to a lying cheat. That makes me feel sad. He has no intention of leaving her by the sounds o... (read in full...)
No-one will talk to me because I laughed when I heard my mum had died
Q. My Mum just died and i laughed when i found out my friends and family where there and now nobody will talk to me and call me sad and fake i dont think this is fair i didn't mean to laugh i did hate my mum but i should'nt of laugh what should i do.?...
A. 28 July 2007: Well i would say sorry to them, cuz i guess you may of hated her, but they might not? And tell them your hurting too. But im sure there are some things you need to get sorted in your head and I would deffo recommend some bereavement counselling. If ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend called me a slut but he cheated on me!
Q. wat if my bf told me dat im slut? and he said he doesnt want me to go back in the club. does it min he loves me and care for me??? i did everything he wants for me. but he cheated on me wid my frend...i love him so much. and im begging him to go ...
A. 28 July 2007: Stay as far away from his as possible. You need to have some more self worth. He's a controlling manipulative nasty person. And your mate isnt much better. You have had 2 betrayals going on here and well done for still actually functioning because ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to be a virgin the rest of your life and not be with any body ?
Q. Is it ok to be a virgin the rest of your life until i die and not be with any body ? i am only in my 20's and since the time i was in my teens i decided not to be with anybody . this guy i know at my job says that i am crazy and then he said what ...
A. 28 July 2007: Would say exactly the same as what flower girl has said.
Just carry on being you, too many people 'need' to be with someone & theres no need for it. We can all function perfectly well on our own thankyou very much. I do.
C xxxxxxxxxx... (read in full...)
She has so many problems..but I can't get her out of my head! Help!
Q. I met a girl who I posted about here: http://dearcupid.org/question/i-met-this-girl-about-4-months-ago.html and now she's even more f**ked up then I thought. On top of being bulemic, anorexic, suicidal, self-harming, she's also appar...
A. 28 July 2007: You have just described my mates current girlfriend to a tee, only shes 36! she actually sent him pics of her self harming herself when they split once. But he says like you, shes screwed up but he fancies her so much. Hes 25. He is now in a trap of ... (read in full...)
My wife is pregnant with her lover's child!
Q. My wife began an affair beginning in May of 2006 with a co-worker. I found out about it a couple of weeks later and confronted her. She said that she would stop seeing the guy, yet within a few weeks apparently continued the affair. I confronted her ...
A. 28 July 2007: What a truly awful situation to find yourself thrust into!
How can people be so damn nasty in this world?
So not only have you been hurt, his wife has been hurt & eventually 2 children too. What a sorry mess.
But what to do? Gosh, well, i will... (read in full...)
What symptoms of pregnancy are there besides weight gain and missing periods?
Q. Hey there, just a quick question what are the symptoms of pregnancy? Not like missed period or gaining weight i mean other symptoms before you know....
A. 28 July 2007: Tender breasts are a definate first sign before you have even missed a period.
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He's been uploading pictures of his genitals to the internet and won't stop
Q. My husband hasn't been wanting sex much recently, and I feel disappointed. But today when he was at work I found out the reason.. he'd been uploading images of his penis and pictures of him in the nude to Wikipedia and adding them to articles...
A. 28 July 2007: This is seriously not right, and i cant think of any situation that it would be right.
If he doesnt think hes doing anything wrong & will carry on doing it, its down to you to decide what happens next.
c xxxxxxxxx... (read in full...)
I saw a suspicious message on my wife's phone but she swears there's nothing in it; how can I trust her?
Q. hi i'm having trouble with my wife, she doesnt live in the states she lives with my son currently 2thousand miles away, i saw a message on her cell phone from a guy friend of hers saying love you horney. and since then i have trouble trusting her, ...
A. 27 July 2007: People swear on peoples lives even when they are lying, i know, had it done to me & it was their own childs life they were swearing on.
If you have confronted her & are still having bad instincts, trust them.
C xxxxxxxxxxxxx... (read in full...)
My ex wont even talk to me and I just want him back!
Q. I broke up with my ex of 5 years almost 6 months ago.. I still love him but it was a bitter ending and he won't speak to me anymore. He always told me no matter what happened he would always be there for me if i needed to talk and that no one would ...
A. 27 July 2007: He probably knows that & as hes with someone new now, doesnt want the contact. I wouldnt be surprised if she has something of an input too. If i was her i wouldnt want my boyfriend keeping in touch with an ex that obviously still wants him. We are ... (read in full...)
Shes been calling her cousin, I told her to leave she did, is she just infatuated!?
Q. me and my girlfrien were together for two years and living together. Since she went to family together she met her cousins when she was little. My girlfriend told me that she nobody else but him. I didn;t think any of it. A month past and she sta...
A. 27 July 2007: Ok i will try and understand what you were saying. Its possible she has an infatuation with her cousin. Its not legal if it goes any further with full on cousins, but anything from second cousin onwards (if you are in the Uk) is legal. But unless ... (read in full...)
Hes cheating with me, but wants to wait for his relationship to end naturally, How can I feel more at ease about this ??
Q. About three months ago, my boyfriend and I broke up, and a man that I had known and loved for five years (but never pursued it or said anything to anyone as he is attached and 18 years older) kissed me. Since then we have been seeing each othe...
A. 27 July 2007: If you research this, statistics will tell you, if someone is going to leave their wife/hubby the majority will do so within weeks. Otherwise its likely they are stringing you along. I expect a lot of us have fallen into the getting with a married/... (read in full...)
Any tips on how I can be better at sex on top!!?
Q. The guy am with and I enjoy sex and we try a lot of different things and it is really good, but he wants me to be on top. I have no problem with this and I have tried, but I am doing something wrong. I feel like I don't have good rhythm, and he k...
A. 27 July 2007: I can understand the thought that theres other better positions. But im only 5'3. Have short legs, i wonder if this is the reason? If you think about it.
C xxxx... (read in full...)
Why am I so moody, and how do I stop it? I'm scared of losing my boyfriend!
Q. I seem to get upset about every little thing, especially when it comes to my boyfriend of 6 months. I'm super sensitive to everything! I don't know what to do, because my bf is getting quite sick of me being upset/moody all the time. I never us...
A. 27 July 2007: First off have you started any new contraception recently, the hormone types? Because i cant take any of those, they give me horrendous mood swings.
Secondly are you feeling insecure about something but dont know why?
I was a nightmare for a year w... (read in full...)
I have developed a need to be with my husband all the time. I miss him even when he goes to work!
Q. Ok some of you may think this isn't a problem but really it is. I'm missing my husband even when i'm just at work and its getting worse and worse. It all started when i went on a school trip to this activites place which was for 5 days(i'm a teacher ...
A. 26 July 2007: Could of been a minor panic attack in the cave? And your hubby is your touch stone. Your safety net? This might sound bizzarre and i could be way off track but like people depend on alcohol or ciggies when they feel vulnerable, maybe your hubby is... (read in full...)
He ended it and now he's just being plain nasty to me.
Q. Hi again, If you're not already posted in on what my ex boyfriend is like then read my other questions if you can. Thankfully I have moved on from my ex. Who I could only describe with a word I can't use on here. He's in a relationship now...
A. 26 July 2007: Because thats what we, as girls, do honey! Ok guys have to too sometimes. But i know what you mean. I posted a question about a split & you just cant include all the details. My ex stole from me twice, but denied it til after we split & was in ... (read in full...)
What is wrong with me?, all i want is to find true love.
Q. Will i ever find true love?! What is wrong with me?, i'm begening to feel as if i'm not physically atractive..but i have a nice personality and when it comes to love i give it all my best.. but what is wrong with me?! is it because i become to atta...
A. 26 July 2007: Are you between 13 and 15? People grow up so quick these days! Plenty of time to find love. Family and friends love is more important at your age. In the future you will no doubt love some great people. And maybe even some not so great people. Jus... (read in full...)
She never emailed me!
Q. hi last year i met a girl that was really nice, attractive, funny and everything! i really like her and we were very close friends. when the summer break came i wouldnt be seeing her for all summer, so i gave her my email out of like a sign that i ...
A. 26 July 2007: She might of lost it, forgot to email or didnt want to stay in touch. No way of seeing her again then? xxx... (read in full...)
He ended it and now he's just being plain nasty to me.
Q. Hi again, If you're not already posted in on what my ex boyfriend is like then read my other questions if you can. Thankfully I have moved on from my ex. Who I could only describe with a word I can't use on here. He's in a relationship now...
A. 26 July 2007: Why did he end the relationship?
Because that will have some bearing on why he's behaving that way. I ended a relationship because someone was lying, but that made me very angry.
He sounds very bitter about something but hes not being fair on you o... (read in full...)
How do I know if someone likes me, when our contact is all online?
Q. Hello, all! My question is simple. How do I know if someones intrested in me if all the conversations are online? I mean how do i know if they really want to get to know me cuz they are intrested in me (g.f..material) or are just beeing friendly? ...
A. 26 July 2007: You could ask him?
You cant get to know anyone from just talking on line in my opinion.
If someone doesnt want to meet in person, and only wants to chat on line, then i think its safe to assume they are just friend material.
Hope thats been o... (read in full...)
How can I discreetly find out my girlfriends' sizes so I can buy her underwear?
Q. If I wanted to buy some 'sexy' lingerie for my girlfriend, what would be the best approach to find out her size, when the time comes? ie. if I wanted to do it for a surprise. I have her dress size etc, but not the other size. ...
A. 26 July 2007: I think you are gonna have to do some serious snooping about in her undies draw! hehe Its for a good cause though so you can be excused! What a lucky lady! Hope she likes it. C xxxxx... (read in full...)
I've messed up big time and get sick thinking about what I've done. Now my husband despises me. Help!
Q. I am a woman aged 45. I have been married for 25 yrs and I have done a really really stupid thing. I was in my local watering hole recently (my husband had gone home)I was annoyed with him and I was also menstral,hated the world etc. I got so drunk ...
A. 26 July 2007: In the past i too have flirted with a female when i had one too many! I am definately not lesbian/bi curious or anything! I just remember flirting with a girl and saying she was gorgeous enough to turn a straight girl gay! She thought it was hila... (read in full...)
What does 'gash' mean?
Q. what does gash mean ? ...
A. 26 July 2007: Gosh what varied answers! My female mate says a guy is Gash if hes fit! hehe C xxxxxx... (read in full...)
Is ten years too big a difference?
Q. There is 10 years difference between myself and my girlfriend. She is 47 and I'm 37. She has been married and divorced but has no kids. I'm not sure if I still want kids. I do care for her and enjoy being with her, but don't know if 10 years is...
A. 25 July 2007: Like the first poster in this thread i too have been both sides of the scale. Been with a guy 17 yrs older and with a guy 10 years younger. Age is no issue! Especially, dare i say it, at your ages! I think when we are young, age gaps can be an ... (read in full...)
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