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female
age
36-40,
*hatehim
writes:My husband of 7 years cheated on me and when i found out i told him i would forgive him and that if he wanted we can just move on and be a family with our two daughters. He said no that he wanted to be with the other woman. It did hurt but i said ok. four days later he tells me that he wants to be with me and only me, i believe him and take him back. That same day we met up again he said he was not thinking clear when he told me he wanted to be with me. Basically he wants to be with her. It hurts so much and i feel like he chose another woman over his daughters. I know its wrong to think that way but i cant help it. I dont know what to do because i think of him all the time. Does anyone have any advice for me?
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reader, hlskitten  +, writes (30 July 2007):
 Take the decision out his hands if he cant be man enough to make it himself!
And tell him to go to the sports shop and by himself some balls! Not too sure where he can buy a backbone cuz i was born with one of those, as it sounds like you were! So use that backbone & tell him to shove it. Let him be a father, the children are the most important thing.
But him? nah, you would be crazy to think hes worth keeping. Hes a poor excuse for a male.
Havent you wasted enough of yours & your childrens time on a loser?
Theres some brilliant guys out there, you just dont realise it yet!
Good luck
C xxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2007): well hunny just drop him dont take him back and dont let him do this to you and for sure not your children tell him you want a divorce the hurt will heal when you leave the wond alone and my point is you need to have some one way better, it was not okay that he did that to you and you taking him back makes him think if him and her doesnt work he can go back to hes old life of having you and you know what he left now kick that door shut for good he can be a father with out being your lover, but i do say you are beautiful inside out and you deserve ia whole lot better and trust me im almost 22 and i got married when i was 16 got a divorce 2 years later for the same thing got a son by my frist husban and now i just got married im happy and pregnant and my husban is the best i cant believe i wasted 6 months trien to fix something was nothing and i dont think i would change any thing i love my son and hes dad is still there and even thow were not together its okay because believe me i thought i was happy with him but i came to find out im way more happy with out him and i found the love of my life, so keep your head up he isnt the end of the world hes just apart of those men that cant see good when there to busy in seeing sex and freedom i bet he loves hes kids but also likes being with this woman worry free
good luck doll stay strong
sincerly luva
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reader, myp +, writes (30 July 2007):
 Divorce him, cheating is unacceptable. You deserve someone faithful, loving, and respectful. Not someone who cant make up his mind, about who he wants to be with when the answer is friggin obvious...HIS FAMILY!! Jus the fact that he had the nerve to cheat on you and disrespect you in such a manner shows that hes no longer the man he should be, or mightve ever been. You need a good husband and father for your children, and hes seriously lacking in the former area. Drop him, your young, u could deserve better.
-Myesha
message me if u want to talk :]
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