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writes: I'm 35 and married for 8 years and have been working in a local factory for a little over a year. I have been working with the same lady (age 42)and we have become very close friends. She is in a 6+ year relationship. Over the past year our conversations have gotten more personal than any conversations outside of an marriage/bf/gf should get. Two nights ago when whe got off of work I walked her out to her car and she kissed me for about 20 seconds. This is/was the first time anything physical happened. She said it was because we are such special friends. I love my wife and never want to hurt her. The kiss felt right and there is no guilt(which bothers me). I am very confused about my feelings right now. What does a married man do in this situation. I have no choice but to keep working side by side with her. I value her friendship and am now unsure about the possibilities about something more.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (11 February 2006):
 A married man values his wife's feelings more than a co worker. You didn't. you should feel guilty because you've cheated on your wife. If you're honest with yourself, you knew the situation was heading in this direction. You got in too deep. That was your mistake. If you were just walking this woman to her car, how did you get so close that she could just move in and kiss you like that. I don't get that close to my friends. And a 20 second kiss is not just friendly. Don't kid yourself. I'm sure you wouldn't mind if your wife was out kissing other men right? As long as they were just friends.
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reader, nofrills +, writes (11 February 2006):
 There is nothing to be confused about!YOU ARE A MARRIED MAN!You have no business talikng intimately with this woman, much less, kissing her.Consider what your wife would do if she found out, shame on you!
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reader, beenthere +, writes (11 February 2006):
if you love your wife then you shouldn't let anything happen. if you don't feel guilty about the situation then there is probably nothing to feel guilty about. i have a really good male friend who i sometimes feel closer to than i do to my other half simply because he is easier to talk to and i often speak to male friends about personal issues. i know there are a lot of people who just want an outside point of view which, when they share their feelings with someone else who is easy to talk to, they can feel like there is something in it. hope this has helped. don't risk losing someone you love.
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