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writes: I've been with my girlfriend for 2 years. I love her a lot, and I know she loves me back. She's away at uni now, and I get to see her about once a month. Recently our time together has been difficult and we came close to splitting up a couple of weeks ago. We worked through it, and now we're happy together. However, I went out this weekend and got very drunk. I ended up kissing a female workmate, but I don't remember it completely.I feel so guilty now and don't know what to do. I don't want anything more to happen with the workmate, that was just a big drunken mistake, but I'm not sure what to do with my girlfriend. If I tell her I'm almost certain I'll lose her. I don't want this. Should I not tell her, and will the guilty feeling go away? I've never done anything like this before, and I know I never will again.
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (15 February 2006):
 I think you have beaten yourself up enough over this with the worry and stress. You were going thru a bad patch and you *drunkenly* kissed someone else. You made a mistake. Learn to live with it, forget about it and consign it to the past.
If you love your GF keep a lid on your hormones next time!
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reader, charlie432 +, writes (14 February 2006):
I wouldn't tell lol. It's punishment enough to have to live with the fact that you have kissed someone else (drunkenly yes but where's your self control man!!!) and have to see her, knowing she doesn't know. if there's no way of her finding out then don't tell her. she probably doesn't need the stress as you are both in uni, best is to keep quiet if poss. Charlie x
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reader, CaseyKeiser +, writes (13 February 2006):
 Okay. If you tell her, don't use that excuse "I was drunk" it's so over rated. But like most people, I've been in the same situation as you. I didn't tell, because I knew it would ruin things between us. Keep your lips closed! Just show her how much she means to you, and BEHAVE!
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reader, eddie  +, writes (13 February 2006):
 Actually, kissing is more than "nothing" , as mister-squid said. It shows a lack of self control on your part as well as damages your girlfriends ability to trust you. How would you feel about it if she was doing it? Not very good I imagine since you already feel bad about doing it yourself. There are two schools of thought here. One, by telling her, you roll the dice and hopes she forgives you. What you're actually doing though is getting it off your chest and dumping on her. The second thought is you know you did wrong. She doesn't know, she's happy and won't find out. Learn a lesson from this, if you want to keep her.
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reader, mister-squid +, writes (13 February 2006):
 Kissing is nothing, it can be forgotten or repaired. Just try not to get drunk again, not THAT drunk anyway. It's up to you whether you tell her or not but, for the love of Gods, don't do it again!
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reader, mary anne +, writes (13 February 2006):
i think you should tell your girlfriend as you have said that you were drunk and if she loves you as much as you seem to love her then she will try to keep working at your relationship
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